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Hi! I'm Lena. 25. I'm super into anthropology/sociology, strong coffee, dogs, taiko, and lifting things.
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I work at a daycare with infants.

One of our baby girls is fat, in the 99th percentile for her age. She is super cute and sweet. Lately, she has been sick with various breathing issues, so she has been reluctant to take her bottles. Normally, she’ll take 4 ounces of formula at lunch and 8 ounces in the afternoon. Today, I was lucky to get to her take 5 all day.

There was a substitute covering a lunch break in my classroom today. We emphasized to her that we need to keep trying to get the baby to drink her bottle until she finished it. She said, “Why are you guys so worried about taking her bottle?”

My coworker replied, “That’s where all her nutrients are. She needs the nutrients and the water.”

To which the substitute replied, “But she’s so fat. She doesn’t need it.”

Thin privilege is a small, pretty baby getting better childcare because the caretaker doesn’t think she’s too fat to be allowed to eat.

This reminds me of a cousin of mine who ended up with her kids being taken away from her by social services for a number of reasons but mostly for nearly killing her baby daughter. How?

By starving her. She insisted that her baby was ‘too fat’ and had an aim to remove any and all ‘chubbyness’ so her baby would be thin. She’d already been warned by her doctor about the baby not getting enough food, but insisted she knew best.

After several months of this her baby passed out cold one day and was rushed into hospital where the doctors found her to have severe malnutrition, a low body temperature and low pulse rate. They asked my cousin what she’d been feeding her daughter and she said “one bottle of skimmed milk a day. I don’t want her growing up fat.”

Even after nearly killing her daughter my cousin maintained her view that fat = bad and ended up with all her kids taken from her because she was starving them and neglecting them.

When your fatphobia leads you to starving your own children then you’ve got serious problems.

(Note. She still, to this day, maintains the view that she was right and the doctors were wrong. “They just want fat kids so they can keep employed treating them for all those diseases that being fat causes.” = her actual words.)

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sinthiasweet

My mom had me dieting with her when I was eleven. She had me eating less than 600 calories a day because she was worried I was going to “get huge.” She even grounded me once because she found out my friends were bringing me lunches! I ended up passing out, going to the ER, and getting two IVs at once BC I was so goddamn dehydrated. Soooooo surprised they didn’t call child services… And looking back, this was the root of my anorexia. I’m nearly 22 and still fighting it. Please don’t starve your fucking children.

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viergacht

For fucks sake babies are SUPPOSED to be fat, what is wrong with people? It’s just stored energy, and growing children need stored energy - an 11 year old is just about to hit some major growing years. Damn. 

Fatphobia

Is

Real

and it kills

This is no joke. people will literally starve their own babies cause they don’t want them getting fat. A parent brought in their six month old baby who was having breathing issues and kept getting sick. the parent was asked if the baby was eating regularly and the parent straight up told the doctor that they only feed the baby once a day. ONCE A DAY. A FUCKING BABY. they even had the nerve to say because they didn’t want the baby to get fat. people like this are real. they would rather have a dead baby than a fat one.

My youngest son is a very big boy and has been since he was born. When he was 10 months old I took him for his well-baby check and vaccinations. The nurse noted his weight and said, quite casually, “He is in the 99th percentile for weight so he is at risk for obesity. You may want to keep an eye on that.” I said, “He is exclusively breastfed. He refuses to eat any solids yet.” What did she expect me to do? What would it mean to “keep an eye on” an exclusively breastfed baby’s weight? 

She backed off saying, ‘Well he looks fine!” – proving once again that weight bias is not truly about health – But I know many other parents who are not as informed as I am about weight science and size diversity would react to this interaction by policing their child’s food intake, if not as an infant, then when he was an older child. This is exactly the type of seemingly-inconsequential interaction that starts the ball rolling on a lifetime of dieting, disordered eating, negative body image, and weight-based abuse for too many fat people.

Years later when he was five, another doctor measured his weight and height and commented that he is off the charts on both, but “at least he is in proportion.” And if he was not “in proportion,” I am sure I would have been advised once again to “watch his weight.” 

I no longer allow healthcare providers to weight my children unless it is absolutely medically necessary. They are unable to control their weight talk, which is a known harm for children.

We need to completely eliminate weight talk from medicine, especially when it comes to children. Even the smallest exposure can have terrible consequences.

Wtf…

A friend from college had been going to the doctor because she was having trouble breathing. She was told to lose weight. Over the course of several years, she went back to the doctors time and time again, telling them that she’d been sticking to the diet but because of her breathing problems she had been unable to even walk for more than 20 minutes at a time. The doctor got her into an exercise programme and told her that she just needed to really try to lose weight because that was clearly the reason for her breathing problems. By the time they found the tumour on her lungs, it was inoperable. She only lived three months after diagnosis. She was 25. She’d had the tumour for over five years. The doctor was so focused on the fact that my friend was “fat”, that they refused to look for any underlying cause. They killed her.

Weight-first treatment KILLS. Fatphobia KILLS.

I have 2 scary stories to share about fatphobic doctors & parents harming their childs/patients’ health:

1. The 4 years old daughter of a friend of mine came to our house to spend the weekend. She gave me a letter from her mom that said that the child was in a glutenfree diet because she was getting ‘awfully fat’ when eating cookies or bread (my celiac ass; who gets dhiarrea and loses a scary amount of weight whenever I eat something with gluten was like ’???’).

You can bet that I went to the supermarket with the kid and told her ‘go & take whatever you feel like eating’ and the poor child came back smiling with her arms full of biscuits and cupcakes.

She didn’t got sick (as a celiac would get) and told me later that she hated the diet her mother made her follow; because her cousins didn’t had to pass through that.

And what’s the scariest thing about this story? Her mother was a NURSE. A fucking nurse who didn’t have a clue of the harm that she was doing to her daughter’s body!

2. My little sister started to feel fatigued and dizzy at 9 years old. She felt nauseated at the sight of food and had abdominal pain that increased with physical activity.

Mom got her to the ER and the doctor dismissed it saying: ‘she’s fat and probably is feeling ill after eating too much burgers, get her to make some exercise and she will be better in no time’.My mom didn’t felt ok with the diagnosis and took my sister with a second doctor who also told her that ‘the child was just fat’.

My sister’s skin was starting to get yellow as the days passed and the abdominal pain was getting awful so my mom (heaven bless her!) got her to the ER for the third time:

SHE HAD STAGE 4 HEPATITIS AND WAS ABOUT TO DIE.

She survived after a long and painful recovery who involved being in bed for a whole year (remember that we’re speaking of a 9 years old child). Luckily they saved her liver and she didn’t went through a transplant… but let this sink:

If it weren’t for my mother, fatphobia would have killed her. Fatphobia kills kids and teenagers, fatphobia kills inocent people everyday. It treats human beings as lesser than others and hurts them in their most vulnerable times.

It’s a real shame that we all have so much stories to share about this issue. A REAL SHAME.

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agreekdoctor

Future doctors, interns, and residents following me:

FUCKING TAKE NOTE OF THIS!

Don’t let bias against your fat patients kill them!

i’d really like my thin followers to reblog this if you can. fat people are already here for each other, we need you guys to help us out too. this is something i never see anyone actually talking about in-depth, and it’s disappointing. be there for your fat siblings, too.

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johnnynemo

Just a question, but if you eliminate the weight talk from children how can a doctor (or anyone really) help the child if they have serious medical issues that stem from their weight. Also, how can a malnourished baby be in the 99th percentile? Not asking to seem flippant or pious just genuinely confused.

There are NO illnesses or problems that are proven to result from being fat, only illnesses that CORRELATE with being fat. Many of those illnesses CAUSE WEIGHT GAIN, and others have common sources (like genetics) with weight gain. There are NO proven health benefits from losing weight (other than losing a SMALL amount of weight POSSIBLY putting off developing type 2 diabetes for a few years, but pre-diabetes is one of the conditions that makes you GAIN WEIGHT). And there are NO methods of long-term major weight loss that WORK. There is no way for a fat person to intentionally lose enough weight to become thin and stay that way. More than 95% of people who lose a lot of weight GAIN IT ALL BACK WITHIN FIVE YEARS. More than 60% of them GAIN BACK MORE WEIGHT THAN THEY LOST.

You’re ignorant and fatphobic and have no clue what you’re talking about. Go read @bigfatscience if you want the studies, they keep track better than we do these days.

Weight talk is dangerous and causes all kinds of mental health problems, including but not limited to eating disorders. Dieting in childhood damages the metabolism and makes kids MORE likely to grow up fat, not LESS.

-MG

Deadass one of my older sisters starved my niece like this to the point where she had to be taken to the emergency room. She was just a toddler and my sisters obsession with calorie intake nearly costed my niece her life. :’(

The only thing I’d like to add to this discussion is that weight-based talks are necessary in medicine to an extent. Medicines are prescribed based on weight, because of how the body will metabolise it.

Do you know how rarely weight is taken into consideration when prescribing medicine? For the most part, weight based dosing is a fringe thing.

When administering anesthesia is basically the only time I can think of that definitely considers weight, and there are so many other factors that go into determining dosage there (drug interactions, conditions/disorders, food consumption)

And of course, metabolism, which is different for everyone. Weight gain can be an indicator of a slow metabolism just as never gaining weight can be an indicator of a very fast metabolism (I have a friend who was doing everything he could to hit 100lbs and half the time he would binge, he’d end up losing a pound rather than gaining).

Here’s the counter intuitive part, because society likes to view us fat people as if we consume more of everything - more space so we should pay for it, more fabric so our clothes should cost more, more food, more everything. But so many factors go into administering anesthesia that my morbidly obese father might take less drugs to make it through a procedure than an incredibly thin, fit person who has a ridiculously fast metabolism. He might take more than someone still fat but smaller than him who has a very slow metabolism. 

And it depends on how it gets metabolized. If it goes through the liver, there are a lot of precautions that need to be taken as metabolizing means storing in fat. Liver disorders can seriously slow this down. Kidney disorders can also slow this down as the liver often tries to metabolize fat soluble substances so they don’t get stored/build up.

In fact, how your kidneys and liver work is by far more important and not at all indicated by your weight.

Weight needs to be treated far more like a symptom and less like the universal causation. And that means that, by itself, it doesn’t actually indicate anything.

Why I always roll my eyes at BUT DOSAGES!

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lordofmasks

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Get the names and locations of these stores and report it. So fucking illegal.

TO REPORT PRICE GOUGING IN TEXAS [X]:

“call the Office of the Attorney General’s Consumer Protection Hotline toll-free at (800) 621-0508 or email consumeremergency@oag.texas.gov”

AND TO THE ASSHOLES ARGUING THAT PRICE GOUGING IS JUST “THE FREE MARKET WORKING” [X] [X]: YOU ARE SELFISH AMORAL ASSHOLES WHO SEE NOTHING WRONG WITH COERCING PEOPLE OUT OF MUCH-NEEDED FUNDS FOR BASIC NECESSITIES. YOU ARE THE REASON PRICE GOUGING IS ILLEGAL.

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When conventionally pretty skinny girls talk about how much they eat and are a “fatass at heart”...

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figured out how to get my Chronically Sleepy gf to wake up in the morning

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My anxiety: somethings off
Me: how so?
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glamorize going to bed early, like, 8pm early

instead of making high stress levels a competition, brag about feeling whole and at peace.

make it cool as hell to take 2pm naps and go on mindful walks by yourself.

talk about mental health and normalize visits to counselors or support systems

teach kids that being different is beautiful and that it’s healthy to love what makes us who we are.

make #selflove and #selfcare the most common hashtags

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You should share this for people in DC and close to you!!

Black Community we have to be careful. Protect our Girls! Spread this! 

IMPORTANT!!!!

Signal Boost! 

Reblog to save life 

This kind of stuff is so common in Mexico, in the best case is just a pyramid scam but thanks to this post I know they may be sex trafficking

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me: I have clinical anxiety and depression and it often limits me from achieving my goals
adults: um.... okay... but can u explain why ur lazy...
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me: *procrastinates necessary things*
me: *procrastinates enjoyable things*
me @ me: why are you like this
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It’s okay to have fat and not feel confident about it.

It’s okay to have stretch marks and not feel comfortable with them.

It’s okay to have cellulite and dislike it.

Self confidence is hard and no one just woke up one day and fully loved themselves. It’s a journey and don’t let anyone shame you for being on that journey.

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