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The Borg Circus

@vidrig

NERF (Non-Exclusive Radical Feminist) Swedish | Atheist | Lesbian | She/her Believer of empathy, respect and equality
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I have a friend who was consulting with a slaughter house that was using a digital camera feed to train AI for inspecting quality on the conveyor belt. The large hurdle they were running into was anytime an employee was in frame the program labeled them as meat to be inspected. This is in no way ominous or concerning.

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"The trannies should be able to piss in whatever toilet they want and change their bodies however they want. Why is it my business if some chick has a dick or a guy has a pie? I'm not a trannie or a fag so I don't care, just give 'em the medicine they need."

"This is an LGBT safe space. Of COURSE I fully support individuals who identify as transgender and their right to self-determination! I just think that transitioning is a very serious choice and should be heavily regulated. And there could be a lot of harm in exposing cis children to such topics, so we should be really careful about when it is appropriate to mention trans issues or have too much trans visibility."

One of the above statements is Problematic and the other is slightly annoying. If we disagree on which is which then working together for a better future is going to get really fucking difficult.

Someone who says they don't care if dudes wear dresses and makeup is a better ally than someone who says they're a safe space for women and non-binary people. I am not joking.

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yeah I went to a gay bar recently with my husband tumblr user beemovieerotica, and a VERY confused capital S Southerner straight man in cargo shorts and a trucker hat showed up

apparently he (who through my drunken memory I remember only as Earl) liked some woman, and she told him that he wasn't cultured enough and needed to attend his first drag show (she also flaked on him)

Now I'm reasonably androgynous and was wearing makeup, a short leather skirt, and black heeled boots, but still when this guy came up to me when I was standing off alone and asked "So. Do you come here often?" with a very earnest expression, I thought. Surely not. This guy doesn't think I'm a straight woman does he????

Anyway I start talking with this guy and he has no idea what the fuck is going on but he is just a very kind and earnest dude and asked a lot of questions (while asking if it was alright if he asked those questions). I track down my husband and friends and I'm like y'all. We need to make sure that Earl has a Good Fucking Time tonight.

Man was completely out of his depth. At one point they put on a puppy auction to raise money for Pride, that started with a 6 ft drag queen in all her glory leading a leather pup out on a leash to the tune of that damned RSPCA "in the arms of the angels" song

We look at Earl. Nervous. He squints, laughs, and then goes "I was wondering why people were dressed like that!" He turned to me and asked "So they're like dogs?" And I said yeah pretty much. And he just chuckled and went "Yeah I thought so with the tails! Never seen this before!"

When the first drag king came out, Earl looked at me wide eyed and went "There's a dude version too?!" And I said yeah they're called drag kings. And he said, low, "Drag kings."

During one of the queens performances, he frowned, shook his head and told me, "Your legs are better than hers." in a tone that implied he thought there was some travesty taking place and I should also be getting paid

When he found out I was there with my husband (and that I am not a woman) he profusely apologized and said "I'm so sorry, it's dark in here and I thought you were a hot chick! I wouldn't have said nothing if I knew you had a husband, I'm so sorry about that."

When beemovie invited me to the dance floor with him later and I still had a drink in my hand, Earl said "Oh don't worry about that I can hold your drink, you get on out there and shake your ass with your husband!" Then before we left, Earl bought me drinks for "Putting up with me all night and answering everything. Y'all helped me have a great time tonight."

like. You gotta recognize there's going to people who have never had interacted outside of their of their own community. This includes you. And just because your community is familiar with all the right vocabulary and how to correctly say something, it doesn't mean they're actually going to support you. If someone like Earl shows up, confused and out of their depth but kind and curious and earnest, you gotta have patience and truck through the small things, so when he goes back to his friends and his coworkers and they snicker asking how the drag show was, he can genuinely talk about how included we tried to make him feel and that he had a great time

The person matters more than the language

I will reblog this EVERY TIME.

Sanitized language is a tool of oppression, always has been and always will be.

And yes, I get being pissed off by slurs. I do. But in the times we are living in right now, we really need to all pivot our priorities to safety.

"Earl" will talk to all his Busch drinking, tractor-pulling, gun toting, conservative voting friends about the nice and friendly and harmless trannies he met, and they will understand him.

They do not know what gender non-conforming, trans-femme/masc, demiboy, agender genderqueer bisexual lesbians are, and quite frankly, they do not need to.

What we need from Earl and his friends is for them to feel neutrally enough about us to not become violent with us, and to spread the idea that violence against us is not necessary or warranted. They are simply not going to do that in a language that is not their own.

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Hi! For some reason I am able to see that you mentioned me in a comment but I can't see the comment itself. If you like, would you care to share what you wrote?

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Oh! Tumblr may have eaten the reply, or the OP might have deleted it or something. I was just replying to your comment from December on how you call yourself rad fem but don't follow the brainbugs from that big list - I talked about how labels tend to have a lot of wiggle room, and how Joanna Russ started out transphobic and ended up a trans ally and called herself a radical feminist the whole time

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vidrig

Oh, that's pretty cool. I haven't heard of her before, but I'm glad there is movement in our direction as well! I called myself a radical feminist long before the label was filled with assholes - I mean, there were always some, but not nearly on the scale we're seeing now.

I really don't think the radfem label itself is the problem. After talking to a lot of TERFs here I think the problem is simply fear and narrow mindedness, pretty much the same mechanisms that lead to rasism, fascism and other terrible ideologies. If your core beliefs are bad, you'll never do any good no matter what label you're using, and vice versa. In Brennan Lee Mulligan's words, "Personality predates ideology. Meaning, before you were a fascist, you were a bully and an asshole."

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pityboy

my toxic trait is simply not doing things if i don't want to do them

i am suffering academically

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zerozerozio

bring back tumblr ask culture let me. bother you with questions and statements

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poopyboiman

reblog to let people know it's ok to bother you with questions and statements

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fernacular

something I really dont get, when a chracter whose gender identity is a lil ambiguous gets headcanoned as a trans man or nonbinary or even gnc by some people, and then a bunch of other people get all up in arms about how theyre trying to erase a strong female character and “just let them be a woman you misogynist” and shit like that and Im like.

Why do they specifically have to be a cis woman for their story to resonate with you?

now im not transmasculine but I know a lot of transmasculine people have experienced a lot of the same shit a lot of women have to deal with, because the overarching powers of the world we live in dont want to recognize them as anything other than women as well. Transmasc people do have to deal with mysogyny, with pressure to just be feminine in a “normal” way, with threats against their ability to control their own reproduction, with people trying to squash them into a restrictive little box and control every aspect of their lives, with threats of violence if they deviate.

I dont want to insinuate its all exactly the same, transmasculine people obviously have their own specific contexts for it, but like, it fucking resonantes, doesn’t it? Do you really see nothing to relate to? Does all of that extremely recognizeable bullshit just… not count anymore when it’s happening to a dude? We dont have a monopoly on this, it happens to trans guys all the time. Hell it happens to a lot of cis dudes! And transfeminine people! Most people actually! so many fuckin’ people are effected by sexist heteronormative fuckery, and I think its kinda messed up that the only time you can empathize with it in another person is when they look and act exactly like you.

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vidrig

I think you're talking about two separate issues here. One, the inability to empathize and resonate with someone not completely like ourselves. I can sympathize with this - representation matters, which is why it's so important that we have a variety of different kinds of people being seen in media. That's the whole reason these vaguely nonbinary people are written as transmasc etc in the first place, isn't it? So I don't think it's strange that some people just don't vibe with those rewritten characters.

But then there's issue number two. What is strange, is when the very same people try to gate keep what others are writing and start speaking of erasure just because a character is written as something other than a woman. I'd say that just comes down to the regular ol' transphobia. Everything isn't for you, Karen.

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