On the issue of ethics
Had an emergency come up on Friday. My mother in law's 14 year old dog was dyspneic, ataxic, and was displaying signs of being blind in her right eye. This left the dog in a panic.
As a back story my mother in law needs to rethink some life decisions and possibly make some changes. People sometimes enable her by paying for her things instead of teaching her how to better manage her finances or possibly look at other job opportunities. (This has been going on for over 5 years) so this isn't any sort of temporary situation.
The poor dog is in a panic (I would be too) so I call my vet and set up at appointment, and per usual she doesn't have money......so....ethical decision of the day... Let the dog suffer so my mother in law will learn a lesson, or help the dog. Radiographs revealed that the dog has a bowling ball sized mass in her abdomen. Dr. Spink believes that a part of the mass broke off and became lodged in the brain, causing the disorientation, and sudden blindness. She prescribed pain meds with a mild sedative for the dog and had a private chat with me informing me that the prognosis was fairly grim. 14 is geriatric for a dog and these sorts of issues progress downhill quickly. My mother in law can't let go very easily so she took the dog home with her and is feeding her pain pills.
Needless to say I didn't feel that the dog needed to suffer for her inadequacy, so I paid. I did manage to pay in secret, so she still believes that she owes a few hundred dollars in three weeks. My hope is that she will start scraping money together to pay the bill and when she calls to make the payment and they inform her that her balance is zero it may cause her to think "Hmm...I saved up this much money by being smarter....maybe there are OTHER changes that can be made to help me live a better and more stable life." Of course this is in my idealistic brain....knowing MY luck she will sucker some other poor fool into paying for it and will use it for something stupid instead of looking for a better job or making a life change.
Oh from the land of "I wish...."