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There’s someone who knows a lot about me. And I think I know a lot about her too. Are you happy? I’m sad. I’m sad she knows who I am.

in addition to the fact that people just have different natural rhythms, a big reason why we can’t seem to go to bed as early as we “should” is that nighttime is, for many of us, our safest and most fulfilling time of day. we don’t have to work, we won’t be contacted by bosses or insurance companies or collection agencies or other suffocating life business… we’re likely only to be contacted by our friends, or by no one at all. night time is release; it’s ours. we can rest or recreate. we can do things we actually want to do. who would choose to cut that short?? just to usher in the next morning when our lives are not our own again? nighttime is precious and nothing could be more normal than the desire to embrace this

y’all ever see the dumbest most useless comment on your post and you go to their blog and see Oh They Just Live Like This

what it feels like to go to the bathroom right when you wake up

Update from hell town

….I want to know what could have possibly happened that didn’t only prompt the closing of the McDonald’s but it’s over night demolition and Erasure

well i know why since i live here but im not going to tell you

But… But why not?

im shy.

Robert Downey Jr. discusses the role of Tony Stark and his legacy.

eating sugar doesn’t cause type 2 diabetes but growing up with ongoing experiences of adversity may

poverty, racism, abuse, family violence, a lack of social support and positive experiences… these permanently alter biological systems - embed themselves in the brain and body - and are strongly associated (there are also theories in the literature about causal pathways) with the development of type 2 diabetes, hypertension, cardiovascular disease, immune dysfunction, cancer, depression, addiction, and more

bonjour, just a reminder that consuming sugar doesn’t cause type 2 diabetes. the link the data shows is a correlation between heavier body weights and T2D. there’s no proven cause or causal direction there, either… insulin resistance/diabetes could be the cause of weight gain, or both higher weight and insulin resistance/diabetes could be caused by something else (stress! that’s actually well supported by data!)

it’s appalling how frequently journalists get this wrong, like a simple google search will show that the ‘sugar causes diabetes’ idea is a myth. but when it comes to nutrition & weight issues people are bizarrely confident in just blaming food for illnesses that are much more likely to have systemic causes (the stress of oppression!)

highly recommend this wonderfully info-packed episode of don’t salt my game, on diabetes and disordered eating. it’s long but so worth the listen, and honestly illuminating whether you have one, both, or neither of those issues. i really want to recount all the things they covered but i’ll just hit some of the salient points, which were: - diabetics have a higher rate of EDs, for obvious reasons (necessarily assiduous attention to food intake and energy expenditure). the mortality rate of T1 diabetics w anorexia is extremely alarming

- lots of factors influence blood glucose, including food, menstrual cycle, sleep, stress, activity, individual variation in response to dietary sugars. makes dosing insulin a tricky practice 

- covers the three types of diabetes. basically, T1 doesn’t produce insulin, T2 insulin resistance, and gestational like T2 but temporary. no restrictive dietary interventions are recommended for these conditions

- diabulimia is restriction of insulin use in order make sure that energy intake from food can’t be utilized by cells or to store fat. this causes glucose dump into kidneys. highly highly dangerous

- T2 diabetes has even greater genetic component than T1 (i slack on discussing genetic components bc of my social determinants obsession but this is important)

- diabetics of all kinds who have disorder really need to find specialized care bc tx as usual for diabetics often influenced by diet culture. hard to access, obvs

- weight cycling increases insulin resistance AND (this piece was news to me) the complications seen from all types of diabetes correlate with weight cycling in individuals–more weight fluctuation, more complications

LMAOOOOOOOOOOO

SHIT!

sometimes i actually get my shit together but then i lose it again like 2 days later

two great podcast episodes w/ edifying scientific content:

non-diet, HAES approach to managing PCOS (aimed at disordered eaters, chronic dieters, etc., rather than ppl w clinical EDs, but still super helpful)

gut, periods, & hormones from a non-diet, HAES perspective 

and one more:

the truth about elimination diets and orthorexia

every mother who’s critiqued her daughter’s appearance based on ~what men do or do not like~ owes that child an apology

maybe we need a more specific name for this issue than “abuse”, but sometimes the difference between a child developing a negative & brittle sense of self or a healthy & resilient sense of self is whether a parent is willing/able to admit and apologize for their own mistakes. 

because we’re human and we inevitably make mistakes, and childhood will be riddled with parents’ mistakes no matter how good the parents are, those mistakes will be processed in one way or another by a child. if the parent owns & articulates what they did wrong, and treats the child like a human who deserves an apology when they’ve been wronged, the child will learn that a) making mistakes is normal and okay, and b) whatever occurred was not their fault. 

but if a parent doesn’t acknowledge and apologize for their mistakes, children will automatically blame themselves. they’re wired to do this, bc in order to preserve a basic sense of safety in the world, young kids see their parents as Correct™; the parent creates the child’s entire framework for viewing their own & others’ behavior. the idea of your parent being fallible doesn’t develop until adolescence, but by that time the damage to a child’s self concept might already be done if their parents have failed to own their mistakes.

the “no one will love you until you love yourself” and “you have to be fine on your own before you can have a good relationship” maxims are just not true. for one thing, no one loves themselves or is fine on their own all the time – these are not stable characteristics, they’re attitudes that are constantly in flux. we are dynamic and capable of growth on our own, and we are dynamic and capable of growth from within a relationship. 

we learn to love (ourselves included) by being loved. we should first get that from our parents, but often we don’t and we only get it later from chosen family and partners. sometimes it isn’t until adulthood that we complete the developmental phases which were stymied by a lack of what we felt as love in childhood. this is a beautiful thing, an opportunity for huge growth, and it’s not wrong to look for it.

sure, if you’re compulsively seeking partnership then you may not choose well and won’t get all you want out of it. but we’re all partly-formed, fluctuating selves groping for connection. it’s best not to do that blindly, but it doesn’t have to - in fact cannot - wait until we’ve arrived at some highly self-assured, self-sufficient state 

There is much talk about Toph’s inventing metalbending, and she is clearly an absolute genius, but you know what I love about her even more?

Toph’s response to not being able to control sand absolutely perfectly (as in hold up a sinking tower with one hand and fight off a gang of sandbenders with the other) is to work on her sandbending until she’s fully in control of every speck of dirt. 

She is so wonderfully stubborn - she pursues bending not as a tool to defeat someone or gain power, but just to prove that she can do it. She’s the basic researcher of earthbending - just keeps pushing the limits of what can be done with no mind to the practical application.