fool me once, shame on u; fool me twice, shame on u again for taking advantage of my compassionate & forgiving nature!!!!!! how dare u
wen u come home and u gotta act sober
For the first time ever, I’m DJing BRUNCH at Baby’s All Right on Saturday 12/19! Spinning records from noon - 5pm, featuring broads-only and LOTS from my ‘best of 2015′ repertoire. Would love to see you there! If you have requests, byo vinyl! Let’s kill some bellinis.
flyer by Meghan Doherty
“What’s been most helpful for me as my career grows...whenever I’m finding myself feeling guilty or like I should be minimizing my opinions, I think, 'Would a man do this? How would a man react to this situation or be treated in this situation? If I feel like a bitch for saying what I need to say, then so be it, because a dude would do it, but he wouldn’t be called a bitch — he’d just be called tough or professional. If someone says something offensive, I call them out immediately. If someone belittles me, I fire back. It's not because I’m bitter or jaded or have a chip on my shoulder. It's because respect is something that I deserve.” - me for Village Voice, DJing While Female in NYC: ‘I Can't Believe You’re a Chick...' by Dianca London
I am DJing tonight at Our Wicked Lady if you’d like to come hang! Every first Wednesday of the month.
Relatable casual pink wig (at ALPHAVILLE.)
I write and talk about how to take action against sexism in the music industry pretty regularly, so when I noticed The Stranger wrote about Angel Olsen being harassed at her Neumos show I jumped at the opportunity to read, process, and commiserate. It pained me to think of her being attacked. Her album Burn Your Fire For No Witness was sent from the heavens to rip my insides apart in the best way. She is an actual angel.
The piece is a narrative written by a dude about how he confronted another dude for yelling “show us some titties” to Angel onstage the other night at her Seattle show. While always refreshing to read about an actually decent person confronting sexual harassment, ultimately I became more angry the more I sat with the piece. Like, why don’t more men do this? I am glad the writer did this at this one show (possibly others, idk), but why don’t dudes do this all the time?
“The following thoughts occurred to me (though they are not news to anyone):
1) This must happen to her all the time.
2) This happens to every woman who ever gets on a stage, anywhere, any time.
3) This happens to every woman who ever leaves the house.”
Yes, guy, you are correct. It got me thinking about all the times I’ve had conversations with well-meaning men in my community, both acquaintances and strangers. The conversation usually starts the same way: I’m sitting at the bar where my friend Jess bar-tends, next to a man probably, because more men are alone at bars I guess? The three of us talk about a fucked up sexual harassment thing that happened to me or Jess earlier that day or the night prior, and the guy always says something like “I feel so bad for women I don’t know what to do to help prevent this kind of stuff.”
I launch into the nuances of confronting seemingly harmless instances of sexism. I suggest they call out their friends when misogynistic language is casually thrown around. It doesn’t need to be a fight, just a simple “hey that’s not cool and here’s why.” I explain that these smaller instances of misogyny are like gateway drugs to more horrible actions, like abuse, or feeling entitled to yell at women at shows or follow them on the street. I provide tangible examples of these instances and they always say the same thing: “oh, my friends aren’t like that.”
But yes, they are like that. Sometimes your friends are like that!
Harassment is happening around you all the time and when casual sexism goes unchecked it continues. Men: the best way for you to help women is to NEVER let this kind of behavior slide. Confrontation, much like casual sexism, can be subtle, it doesn’t need to be violent. It can be like what this guy at Neumos for Angel Olsen’s show did. I promise that it helps because “those kinds of men” will listen to other men - much more then they’d listen to someone like me (uh, a woman).
A little goes a long way.
“If I feel like a bitch for saying what I need to say, then so be it, because a dude would do it, but he wouldn’t be called a bitch — he’d just be called tough or professional. If someone says something offensive, I call them out immediately. If someone belittles me, I fire back. It’s not because I’m bitter or jaded or have a chip on my shoulder. It’s because respect is something that I deserve.” - ONE NON BLONDE aka Broadist’s Caroline Shadood Read the rest of my latest piece for the Village Voice’s Music Blog here
Stacking it up for ONE NON BLONDE tomorrow night 💅🏼💅🏼💅🏼💖✨🙋🏻 (at Our Wicked Lady)
s/o to myself for my great taste in music
Prince (via seduction747)
thanks dad
(via meaganrosecroix)
I made a cake.😑🍰
Adulthood in 2015
- potting plants
- framing art
- taking vitamins
- saving money
- demanding respect
I wish everything was this easy to list.
#tbt 6 years ago in my natural habitat at #WMUH.💃📻 I think this photo is by @milkshakesandpancakes? #collegeradio (at Muhlenberg College)
Here is a photo from A Very Great Night (and my last) at Death By Audio: kxlu / Burger Records showcase during CMJ. There’s already a hole in my heart for this venue but I am grateful my last night was just as fun/rad/memorable as my first.
Poured one out for @roxvrox last night. It was a fancy, magical, weirdo drink.😘
Dinosaur laments iPod classic.