gouache painting of gerard <33

cool adults or whatever

nitw outfit redesigns!! :> transparent versions are available on my deviantart 

twitter post + deviantart + buy me a coffee! 

SAFE SEX /// SAFE FOR WHOM? 

from Assume Nothing Zine (2014)

reblogging this cuz i was kinda proud of myself back when i made it and besides, my less popular posts are always the best ones anyway

this is an Extremely Good Post

i love this post So Much

this what i did instead of breakfast or writing an add this mornin 

Just made 20 of these.

“Men r gross robitussin is weird cops murder I steal”

oh no oh no oh no oh no oh no oh no oh no

this is exactly why the pedo community on the internet needs to crash and burn cause you know all of these poor kids are being actively groomed by people who have fooled them into thinking theyre oppressed and thats absolutely fucking terrifying

burn all pedos and their communities. This is disgusting

@ my followers; i have heard a lot of things about this. do not follow or interact with anyone who has the word “MAP” on their profile page, especially if it says they are pro-contact- and especially if you are a minor.

one important thing to add; do not include pedophiles/maps in lgbt spaces. they do not belong there.

stay safe everyone!!!!

What exactly is a map?

map in this context stands for “minor-attracted person,” making it a flowery term for “pedophile”

Oh my god what the fuck that’s disgusting

Thank you for telling me I will be sure to never go near a map ever

I was fooled into this kind of stuff when I was a kid - pedophile support groups posing as LGBT resources. They weasel their “boylove” and “girllove” topics into LGBT spaces to intentionally deceive questioning youth into accepting their predatory bullshit.

It’s had long-lasting effects on my perceptions of sex and relationships. I don’t want any kid to ever go through anything like that, or worse.

It’s an adult responsibility to keep children safe online. Report these blogs when you find them, and if you suspect illegal activity, report that to authorities or websites like CyberTip.

https://report.cybertip.org/

Aaaaand this is why I will never support anyone who proudly calls themself a pedophile or MAP or whatever cutesy non-aggressive-sounding new term they come up with

mood

Kicked out of the Garden of Eden

Eve:

I hate this. I fucking hate this. This is essentially a fucking hieroglyphic. I see that picture and I immediately hear a combination of sounds in my head with a very specific and comprehendable meaning. Like, I hear it. It’s not even a fucking video, its a still fucking picture but I hear it and know exactly what the OP was trying to convey because this picture has a word inherently attached to it

I feel like there’s a lot of infographics out there about STI prevention, but not enough about what happens if you already have one.  (The answer is not “you give up because your life is over.”)  So here, have some education!

Click to make text bigger.

But I’m a Cheerleader (2000) dir. Jamie Babbit

Wilkes-Barre | Pennsylvania

tips for having sex with trans mlm

Okay, since it seems this question pops up a lot from cis mlm who are interested in having a sexual relationship with trans men, I decided to compile a list of tips for approaching safe, enjoyable, non-dysphoria inducing sex. Sorry about the length:

1. Ask about terminology:

This is such an important first step and why I listed it first: if you don’t know what to call a partner’s body part–ask them! Don’t assume they’re totally fine with one thing or the other. Getting it wrong can be awkward at best, incredibly dysphoria inducing at worst (and a relationship ender right off the bat). Some guys like to call a part of themselves their “clit”, while others prefer to call the same part “dick/cock” or just “junk”. The best way to phrase this question is to make it neutral, something like “what terms do you use for your body parts?” rather than something like “what do you call your vagina?” which implies that one term is already more valid/”real” than another. Of course, this is after you’ve already established that sexual stuff is going to ensue–don’t make this your first message to the guy on a hook up app.

2. Ask about boundaries:

Especially if you are dealing with a dysphoric person, but also just in general, knowing which parts are okay to touch, which parts are 100% off limits, and which parts may have certain conditions for interacting with them is a must. Again, communication is very important. Maybe your guy really likes using his front hole, but butt stuff is off-limits. You never know until you ask, and maybe you have boundaries as well you want to go over.

This goes the other way too! Don’t just automatically assume something will make your partner dysphoric–it may very well be something they actually enjoy.

3. Don’t make assumptions about our bodies or preferred positions.

I’ve already said it multiple times already, but open communication rather than making assumptions is really key. I’ve seen many cis guys who have assumed that all trans men want to strictly bottom, and even a few who thought the exact opposite. The reality is that trans men have as much variety in sex preferences as anyone else–some bottom, some top, some are verse, some don’t enjoy penetrative sex at all. And for those of you wondering how a trans man could top, or worrying that it might be less enjoyable for either party than a cis man topping–don’t knock it till you try it. There are plenty of toys, strap-ons and other sex technology wonders that you have yet to explore, not to mention that many trans men do have flesh and blood penises that they are more than happy to use. 

4. If you use toys, strap-ons, and prosthetics:

Don’t assume everything is a “toy”. For some trans men, their prosthetic is a natural part of their anatomy, and it can be upsetting and disorienting to refer to it as a toy.

If shopping for toys or prosthetics, make sure it’s something your partner actually wants (again don’t assume!) and make sure your partner actually likes what you pick. I know it can seem nice or sexy to surprise your partner with a gift, but toys and prosthetics can be extremely personal, so whoever is using the product should have a say what it’ll be like. If you still want to go for the surprise element, think about giving them a gift certificate or an I.O.U. for a sex shop instead. Then you can make it a fun outing together.

5. Don’t ask them about surgeries, hormones, or their life “before”: 

This should be a no-brainer, but unfortunately too many guys make this mistake immediately upon meeting a trans person. Maybe you’re going into a very committed, long-term relationship with the guy. Maybe just a one night grindr hook up. Doesn’t matter. If he wants to talk to you about it, he will. Otherwise it’s none of your business.

6. Don’t bring up passing.

Really, the amount of guys that think they’re being helpful when they tell us how we “look so much more manly than other trans guys!” or how we’d “pass so much better if you just did x”. It’s obnoxious and upsetting. Trans people know a hell of a lot more about the intricacies of passing than whatever you think you do, and we don’t like back-handed compliments that come from comparing us to other trans people. You’re not winning any brownie points from these comments, they just make you seem ignorant and rude.

7. We are not an encyclopedia of trans knowledge.

If we’re on a dating website or app, we’re there for the same reason as you: to meet people for sex, romance, friendship, etc. We’re not there to answer questions that you have about trans people, especially when almost all of them are easy to answer on a cursory google search. We don’t want to be asked to help write your gender studies essay, or asked how we feel about [insert trans celebrity]. Really, just don’t do this. It’s an immediate block for most people.

8. Don’t tell us we’re brave.

Kinda on the same note as the last one, don’t tell us “we’re so brave” for existing or that you’re “proud” or even about the trans sibling cousin roommate friend neighbor teacher etc that you have. We don’t need cringe-y condescension when we’re trying to hook up. And c’mon, you should know this already from when straight people tell you this.

9. We’re not your experiment.

Don’t have sex with us just because you want to “experiment” with having sex with a trans person, and especially not because you see us as some kind of stepping stone to having sex with “real” men.

10. Don’t assume we all think the same.

Again, should be obvious, but it unfortunately isn’t. Just because you dated a trans man in the past that was comfortable with x, doesn’t mean your new partner feels the same way. We aren’t a hivemind. Trans people are individuals with varied experiences, pasts, preferences, and levels of dysphoria. Follow all the above steps again every time you engage with a new partner.

11. You won’t always know you’re having sex with a trans person. And that’s okay.

Yes, you read that right. This is something that actually happens. Some trans men are “stealth”, meaning that they live their lives with little to zero people aware that they are trans. This doesn’t mean they’re trying to “trick” you, and this doesn’t make them a bad person. Many trans people do this for a variety of reasons, such as safety and their own comfort–some guys just think of being trans as part of their medical history, and not worth mentioning. Regardless of reasons, it is an incredibly personal decision. Don’t be offended if a trans man chooses not to come out to you. He has his reasons, and you should respect that.

12. Have fun with it.

Seriously, this may seem like a terribly long list of responsibilities, but almost all of these are things you should be doing with any partner. And once you’ve got them down, they become surprisingly more natural than you’d think. Remember that you’re doing this because you want to share an enjoyable experience with another person. And yeah, you might occasionally slip up, but we know that, and it’s usually pretty obvious when you’re trying. So relax and have fun.

If any other trans mlm have something to add, feel free to contribute.

ok for cis people to reblog! (please do)