What fucking witchcraft is this 😂

The hell I will!

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God Damn

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“The boy seeks to emulate the father because it is safer to be like the father than like the mother. He learns to threaten or hit because men can and men must. He dissociates himself from the powerlessness he did experience, the powerlessness to which females as a class are consigned. The boy becomes a man by taking on the behaviors of men — to the best of his ability.

The boy escapes, into manhood, into power. It is his option, based on the social valuation of his anatomy. This route of escape is the only one now charted. 

But the boy remembers, he always remembers, that once he was a child, close to women in powerlessness, in potential or actual humiliation, in danger from male aggression. The boy must build up a male identity, a fortressed castle with an impenetrable moat, so that he is inaccessible, so that he is invulnerable to the memory of his origins, to the sorrowful or enraged calls of the women he left behind. The boy, whatever his chosen style, turns martial in his masculinity, fierce, stubborn, rigid, humorless. His fear of men turns into aggression against women. He keeps the distance between himself and women unbridgeable, transforms women into the dreaded She, or, as Simone de Beauvoir expresses it, “the Other.” He learns to be a man — poet man, gangster man, professional religious man, rapist man, any kind of man — and the first rule of masculinity is that whatever he is, women are not.

[…] Boys become men to escape being victims by definition. Girls would become men if girls could, because it would mean freedom from: freedom from rape most of the time; freedom from continuous petty insult and violent devaluation of self; freedom from debilitating economic and emotional dependence on someone else; freedom from the male aggression channeled against women in intimacy and throughout the culture.”

— Andrea Dworkin, Pornography: Men Possessing Women; 1981 

After years of living in the adulting world, I think I’ve come to a realization: Manners exist to guide you to good conduct even when you’re in a bad mood.

When you’re happy, when you’re feeling generous, when you’re pleased with your gift or your service or your outcome, it’s easy to be nice. It’s easy to tip the waiter well when you’ve had a good day. It’s easy to thank the teller or the clerk when you got what you wanted out of the transaction. It’s easy to smile and chit-chat with strangers on the road when you’re in a good mood.

It’s hard to tip the waiter when you didn’t enjoy your food. It’s hard to thank the clerk for their time when you’ve just been told there’s a problem with their account and they weren’t able to fix it for you. It’s hard to think of something nice to say when your aunt gave you a crappy sweater you neither need nor want. It’s hard to be nice to people when you’ve had a shitty day. It’s HARD.

That’s what manners are for. Scripts and phrases that you learn by rote to say when you can’t think of a single nice or good thing to say from your own volition. Yes, they’re scripted. Yes, the sentiment is empty. But the scripts work in every situation, and the emptiness provides a buffer between your own unhappiness and the rest of society.

Because most of the time, it’s not the waiter’s fault that the food you ordered wasn’t what you expected. It’s not the clerk’s fault that your account is overdrawn. It’s not the fault of the barista or the stranger on the subway that you got fired today or your favorite aunt died. But even when you can’t summon a smile or a cheery word, you can still have manners, because they will serve you the same in sunshine or rain.

This is very wise and very well put.

I HATE Elon Musk saying shit about how we need to preserve humanity by making other planets inhabitable before Earth isn’t inhabitable… if we can make MARS, a genuine lifeless shithole, or any other barren planet near us, into a habitable planet, why not just do that to post-climate disaster Earth? The planet that specifically suits our species? I’ve talked about this before but like, Earth will ALWAYS be more habitable than any other planet because we specifically evolved to survive here, even if it gets fucked up by climate change, living on here will still be better than living on mars or the fucking moon or whatever.

EARTH is a unique phenomena and if we lose it we will probably NEVER find anything like it again. This isn’t fucking Star Trek. I doubt we’re gonna find an “M Class Planet” or whatever within close range of travel. This is the world we have. If we can “FIX” some freezing lifeless rock like Mars than we can fix earth.

when your long distance girlfriend gets to visit you for the first time in ages

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— Sanaya Roman, Living with Joy (via icreatewhatibelieve)

This is the Lucky Ace. Reblog to recieve a wad of cash that is oddly specific to your current needs.

I reblogged this shit two days ago y’all… what kinda sorcery is this. Oddly specific too …. I’ll take it tho 🤯

I think I did it wrong

Uh I reblogged this like 3 days ago and I start my new job on Monday??? Like idk how you accidentally find a job but I did.

I need to get paid asap so pls ace help

I GOT PAID I GOT PAID!!!!!! MUCH MORE THAN I EXPECTED AAAAAAAAAAAA THANK YOU ACE

I legit have a specific amount i want in my head rn it better come true 😭

I ALSO HAVE A CERTAIN AMOUNT OF MONEY I WOULD LIKE TO ACQUIRE, PLEASE HELP

This has worked before, so why not again?

you can have more notes just please give me money

Sounds like a decent money spell to me?

You’re not stuck. You’re just committed to certain patterns of behavior because they helped you in the past. Now those behaviors have become more harmful than helpful. The reason why you can’t move forward is because you keep applying an old formula to a new level of your life. Change the formula to get different results. Stop being committed to your own bullshit and self-sabotage. You can expect to keep repeating the same things over and over and still wonder why nothing changes. Shift your focus!

Many abused children cling to the hope that growing up will bring escape and freedom. 

The survivor is left with fundamental problems in basic trust, autonomy, and initiative. 

She is still a prisoner of her childhood; attempting to create a new life, she re-encounters the trauma.

— Judith Herman

Tireless Caregivers have a hard time setting limits, feel guilty when they are not caregiving, and are particularly sensitive to being perceived as selfish, unkind, or unloving. 

Bring “nice” and taking care of others is central to their identity and sense of self-worth. TCs are thus very desirable to narcissists, since both partners will wind up agreeing that the narcissist’s needs are the more important ones in the relationship.

How Narcissists Provide “Job Security” for Tireless Caregivers

The downside of this combination of strengths and vulnerabilities is that it makes Tireless Caregivers ripe for attracting self-centered people. 

So, why do TCs so often choose to be with, and stay with, self-centered people, instead of finding partners and friends who are just as compassionate and caring as the TCs themselves?

And because the perennially self-absorbed are unmotivated to change (and no one can change another person who is unwilling to do so), the most important thing a TC can do is work on the self.

— Thich Nhat Hanh

2019 is the year of people getting left. If I say I wanna take a trip and you hesitate or don’t respond, do not think the trip isn’t happening.

I’M GOING EITHER WAY.

Not necessarily a trip but no one wanted to hit Six Flags with me so I went by myself. We not missing out on good days for lack of presence.

Flew to Ohio solo, copped some tickets to Cedar Point and had the time of my life!

Then drove to Detroit

Then Canada!

2 countries, 5 cities in 4 days 😊

My goal is to visit 3 new cities and 7 theme parks this year!

I’m currently at 2/7 for theme parks and 2/3 for new cities 😊

reminder that yearly goals are achieved by setting monthly goals that are achieved by setting weekly goals. Achieving your major goals comes through progress and setting smaller, challenging but achievable goals that leads to getting through those major goals. This helps make those major, daunting goals less daunting, having step by step for yourself to achieve whatever you want.