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Wicked things for Wicked Queers

@wickedqueer / wickedqueer.tumblr.com

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sinbadism

so like do butch women not experience misogyny? cos thats what im getting from this and its a disgusting point of view

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loveinthetimeofscience

while this list is femme-focused perhaps it may reassure you that nothing about that fact says “butch women do not experience misogyny”

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sinbadism

ok but theres a lot of language here equating misogyny to prejudice against femmes

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vag-enius

one of the most common ways misogyny shows up within queer communities is through the negative treatment of femmes and femininity, which this list of resources is trying to address. femmes and femininity are marginalized/trivialized/suspect in queer communities (in addition to “mainstream” ones) which translates into violence, discrimination, etc. 

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wickedqueer

“What about the mascs?????” 

Enjoying a renewed interest in the “Not yr Wendy” pins, and wearing one right.now.  

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Check out the new patch that I just got from the delightful Wicked Queer Etsy.  Also, say goodbye to my purple/pink hair.

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wickedqueer

Share where you stick it!

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www.etsy.com

To create LGBT visibility and safe spaces in STEM fields. 

“It’s scary to be open because you don’t realized the impact that it might have on so many aspects of your life,” said Tam. “You worry about grants, about whether you’ll be able to continue writing children’s textbooks; we were scared that if sponsors knew the founders of Sally Ride Science were two lesbians, if that would affect our organization.” 

Source: etsy.com
#sally ride#space#lgbt#pride#gay pride#lesbian#lesbian pride#queer#girlswholikegirls#geekery#geek gifts
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boredangry
thegoddessisalesbiantoo-deactiv asked:

Could you explain what you meant about femme invisibility being connected to cis privilege? I'm a little confused.

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boredangry answered:

i don’t remember where i was talking about this! and am kinda surprised i was talking about it online at all, since it is the kind of thing that people like to have infinitely life-sapping endless arguments about on tumblr, and i stay away from those arguments as a form of self-care. but i guess the short version of my take on this is probably that as a trans woman i’d take the kind of invisibility that femme cis women often find frustrating over the things that are frustrating about being a trans woman - inside and outside of queer communities - like, any day. 

I mean, I went back and forth about identifying as femme for a lot of years, and where I landed with it is basically I’m like ‘idk *shrug*.’ Like femme as an identity gets attributed to me and that’s fine with me but I feel like discourse around femme stuff centers female-assigned people so consistently and automatically that it’s not worth it to me to be like ‘hey also what about me and my different experience of that though’ all the time, you know? and a subcategory of that is femme invisibility - when people talk about femme invisibility, in my experience they’re usually not talking about me. which is fine! people can talk about their stuff all they want.  i still find that femme / femmey women are the people i like most and get along best with, whether trans or cis. especially bitter jaded over it femme / femmey women.

(whoa what if i am talking about femme invisibility within already-invisible femme communities - what if this is the inception of solipsistic identity politics)

so i mean if i was talking about this in the past i probably was thinking something like ‘if the problem is that your identity is invisible, that seems like a less serious problem to me than the problem of an entire culture having internalized toxic representations of my own [trans woman] identity - and if you and i are both people who like to wear dresses and eyeliner (and to embody all the innumerable tangible and intangible contradictory other things that make up the borderless identity category ‘femme’ as it is understood on college campuses the world over), then that is directly connected to the fact that i’m trans and you’re cis.’ nowadays that kinda feels like to me like hierarchy of oppression stuff, though, so i probably wouldn’t say it. i have no doubt that femme invisibility sucks for the people it sucks for. and i know that there are trans women who feel afflicted by it. so in the end i dunno

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wickedqueer

I def remember this from a couple years ago, and have been thinking it about it recently! An old stencil of mine is making the rounds again ("Fuck femme 'invisibility' you're not looking) and i just counted up my 2015 pin-ventory.

I was elbows-deep in Whipping Girl when I started messing around with the phrases and had finally started  noticing that a lot of the trans women in my life had to *keep coming out* as dykes? Like, esp around the queer community.  It was like they were TRANS, full stop, w little/no orientation visibility.  That's what I'd wanted to get at, putting the onus on queer observers to, like, expand their dumbrella of inclusion or something. "Hello we are sitting in the same dumb coffee shop reading the same books but for some reason we don't count HMMMM WHY NOT! " I still think it's a flaw of the observer to not see dykes where there are dykes, but I'm much more ambivalent about Femme Invisibility as a concept.  Plus in the interim the Cotton Ceiling conversations started happening, which were much better at mapping dyke/visibility ground.

I wish I could remember when the convos were! I want to say it was mostly you and odofemi, maybe nicbravo? Circa 2010? You also coined a new femme phenotype, i think it was dumpster femme. Gutter femme?  Anyway.  My takeaway was Fuck Femme Phobia cause that is way more bullshit and affects way more people than cis-centric invisibility arguments ever will.

#fuck femme phobia
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