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Help Provide My Niece with Emergency Safe Housing
I am fighting to save my niece from an abusive household, and to provide her with a safe alternative to her current living situation.
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During a recent visit, my eight year old niece informed me that she is being abused and neglected by her mother. She is regularly beaten, verbally abused, left to fend for herself for long periods of time, and subjected to days without food or bathing. […]

This March I’m proceeding with legal action to prove abuse and neglect, so that legal guardianship can be granted to other family members. Because these proceedings may take months, I’m also filing an emergency ex parte order to gain temporary custody while the case ensues. I’m raising funds to rent an apartment in the city where my niece lives, so I can provide her with safe housing and keep her daily life as stable as possible during the proceedings.

With your help I’ve raised $640 so far! Please consider donating. If you are unable to donate please share with your friends and family (on FB, Twitter, IG, etc)! Thank you so much!

It would be mad cute if we could get this to 2,000 notes! Filing for emergency placement in early March (less than 30 days) so donations are desperately needed!

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also, esp hearing from americans talking about ED-treatment i’m literally so grateful that mine was covered here, there’s no way i could afford the 9 months i’ve spent in hospitals cumulatively (for ED alone, not even counting other things) if i had to pay for it.  it would be an impossibility.  

i’m in treatment now with women who are struggling to find the money for groceries and to cover the meals they have to eat for our program, and as hard as that is for them they are fully covered in terms of treatment.  things aren’t perfect (medication is expensive! food is expensive! taking time off work for treatment is expensive!) but i know we would be shut out of accessing the kind of care we have without socialized medicine.

i went back to the hospital in may, and did (almost) 3 months partial (ie, 7 days a week, all day except sleeping at home) hospitalization before i was eligible to switch to outpatients, which is where i’ve been since.  this time, things are headed in the right direction, so thanks to everyone who’s been supportive of me and thanks in general to other canadians paying my way through this in taxes.

#the hot in psychotic#ed tw#eating disorders
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also working on coming out of my self-imposed anorexic isolation and numbness.  gonna feel and heal and deal, as the embarrassing motivational mural at the ED clinic says.

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been a long time but

i don't know if it's the clomipramine reducing my OCD thoughts, the clomipramine having an anti-dep effect (maybe???), the support that i have rn in my life, or switching to an academic career that i feel inspired by and motivated in but now even when things are bad

(and they have been bad, this month) i feel like i can ride those waves instead of being swept away.  it's an amazing feeling.  there is still lots of pain in my life, as there is in everyone's lives, but for the first time in almost 10 years i'd rather be alive to feel it.

& also - my ex-gf got married last night (!!!) and while i felt a little sad knowing the reason we broke up is because i went Cray Cray and my life went out the fucking window, i was grateful to see her married and happy to a wonderful (nerd) woman, and also so grateful and happy

grateful that i'm in a secure and loving relationship with a woman who loves me v v much.  i'm still in love with her and I still get butterflies in my stomach almost 6 years down the line, and much of my anxiety about the future is tempered by knowing she's here for me, always

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I was able to do a mini-episode before June ran out and my plan restarted, woohoo! Anyway, it’s just me talking about immigration and the Families Belong Together protests.

To listen to Not Safe for Weebs (my podcast):

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I got a third episode up! It’s on Korea, with a little bit in the beginning on Sorry to Bother You. 

And with that being said I’m gonna catch up on Preacher tonight and then I’ll be on the road so updates here will be a bit scarce. 

hey, so i was interviewed here!! it was a pleasure to be on the podcast & i hope people learn a thing or two about korean & korean american perspectives on american military bases in south korea, current american discourses on north korea, & a bit of background on the korean war & how that impacts these discourses.

http://notsafeforweebs.libsyn.com/episode-3

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i haven’t been around that much but my gf did a wonderful podcast and i urge you all to check it out if you haven’t yet <3

#yeoujari#podcasts#korea#korean diaspora#us military#imperialism
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a collections of links to readings on asian-american gay and lesbian history

“Asian Lesbians in San Francisco: Struggles to Create a Safe Space, 1970s-1980s,” Trinity A. Ordona, in Asian/Pacific Islander American Women: A Historical Anthology, 2003 [starts on p. 319]

“Tomboy, Dyke, Lezzie, and Bi: Filipina Lesbian and Bisexual Women Speak Out,” Christine T. Lipat, Trinity A. Ordona, Cianna Pamintuan Steward, and Mary Ann Ubaldo, in Pinay Power: Peminist Critical Theory (2005)

“Slicing Silence: Asian Progressives Come Out,” Daniel C. Tsang, in Asian Americans: The Movement and the Moment, 2001

“Sexuality, Identity, and the Uses of History,” Nayan Shah, in Q & A: Queer in Asian American, 1998 [starts on p. 141]

“Subverting Seductions,” Gupta, Unruly Immigrants, 2007 [starts on p. 159]

“Queer Asian American Historiography,” Amy Sueyoshi, in The Oxford Handbook of Asian American History, 2016 [contains discussion of csa]

“Miss Morning Glory: Orientalism and Misogyny in the Queer Writings of Yone Noguchi,” Amy Sueyoshi, in Amerasia Journal, 2011

“Breathing Fire: Remembering Asian Pacific American Activism in Queer History,” Amy Sueyoshi, in LGBTQ America: A Theme Study of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer History, 2016

“Looking for Jiro Onuma: A Queer Meditation on the Incarceration of Japanese Americans during World War II,“ Tina Takemoto, in GLQ: A Journal of Lesbian and Gay Studies, 2014

”Gay Asian Community Oral History Project“ (abstracts only)

#lgbtq#Asian american#readings
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Please help me afford housing!

(4/23/18) Hi y’all! I need a little help! I’m 24-year-old lesbian and I have a 2 yr old cat! I realized in March that my house isn’t liveable after we found items we had laying around the house completely covered in thick green mold. Long story short the house is really old and basically has a lot of factors that have made it the perfect breeding ground for mold. My landlord says the roof, floors, and windows all need to be replaced & central AC/heat installed. Obviously, we can’t live here with ongoing construction & I’m really concerned about how living in this house is affecting our (me +cat) health, since all of the roommates have experienced adverse health effects. But I’ve been stuck here bc until earlier this month I was unemployed and had no income other than what I could borrow & earn by selling belongings. We terminated our lease to avoid paying rent and our landlord has given us until the 1st to relocate.

If you follow me you know that in addition to the actual house having so many issues I’ve also had a pretty hellish time living with my current roommates. I’ve dealt with everything from strangers being let into my room without my permission to, most recently, someone leaving the back door open and allowing my cat to escape (I found her). It’s been terrible. But I found open housing that seems perfect. It’s in a better part of town, a much newer house, and affordable. I’d be living with other gay women who are serious about establishing boundaries and having mutual respect between roommates (exactly what is missing from my current situation).

I struggle with mental illness and some other stuff and I’ve been working really hard to better myself in every way I can- like recently celebrating 1 month sober, scheduling therapy & psych appointments and finally finding a new job. I know that being able to move to a new house with new people is an important step on my continued path towards recovery and I just really need help to achieve it. I prayed my tax return would arrive in time for me to use but it’s not going to happen. I won’t receive my paycheck from my new job in time, & the few members of my family I have relationships with are not in the position to help me financially. So I need to raise $780 ($390 rent + $390 deposit) by May 1st to be able to move. I’m taking donations via PayPal rather than GoFundMe bc PayPal keeps less of the money donated and bc it’s much faster to receive a payout (instant or only 1 day vs like a week via GoFundMe).  I’ll provide screenshots of my PayPal, photos of mold around my house, screenshots of emails between my landlord and myself, and screenshots of convos with my potential new roommates upon request! Total transparency bc I understand if anyone is skeptical and I really do just need the help! Thank you in advance for sharing or donating!

paypal.me/womminist

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Needing to feel like things are real is also a major factor in my ED, as well, because my weight feels like a tangible reflection of the reality of what I do. and after all the years of dealing with professionals who act like i'm hysterical and lying about everything, it's motivating to actually be able to prove, quantitatively, what's happening.

of course, the truth is i still had a doctor tell me last week that none of my symptoms were ED related (in an infuriating, calming voice!) and that my weight was fine. in a way, it helped me, because i know he's wrong - even by fucked up bmi standards, he's wrong, and that means there's no point in trying anymore.

I will find other ways to feel real. I've found myself wishing fervently that I'd had a digital camera or a cellphone (it was a long time ago) the night my dad attacked me. There was physical proof on my body that I wasn't just some crazy bitch, and now it's gone forever. I've been fixating on that, and I need to let it go.

#auntbutch wrote something about needing evidence recently and it made me feel some kind of way because I've been thinking of this a lot#abuse tw#ed tw#abuse#ed
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After my exam yesterday my professor came up to me and told me to email her after I completed research methods next fall, because she'd like me to work with her on research and that my writing was very good.

I've been insecure about this class because I missed a very small assignment when I was really depressed in January, and I actually didn't think she had a very high opinion of me?

It was surprising and I feel so unreal right now because I've spent so long hating and doubting everything I do. I have a desperate need for things to be real and concrete and proven, and as small as it might be this is tangible evidence of something more in my life.

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