Have a wonderful 2015 + advices & tips
This is my last post and it is queued to show up at 11:59PM PST. I will not be answering any messages because I will no longer be here. This blog is now an archive.
(To those who don't know why I'm leaving permanently, here's why.)
To all my followers, those who remained with me to the end of my time here, thank you for following me. I appreciate you all and I'm sure many of you have brighten my day many times. Many of you (probably also some of those who already unfollowed) sent goodbye messages and I'm genuinely touched that you gave a moment of your day to send me your good thoughts and wishes. I thank you all. It means a lot to me that my time here meant something to you all.
P.S. To all the friends I've made--thank you for all you've done to brighten my day, whether it was just you being you or posting something hilarious or talking to me. It's been good.
You are all wonderful and too kind. Please be well, take care, and have a wonderful 2015. May we meet again.
P.S. Feel free to unfollow now!
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And now, I present to you some advices and tips I've gathered over a couple years, most of it from this 2014 year.
—In Romantic Relationship (many that can apply to all kinds of love)— 1. Sometimes, it’s not worth fighting when you can spend time making memories with the person you love. 2. Sometimes, you are wrong and you should acknowledge that to yourself and to your partner. 3. Sometimes that means apologizing. It is not a competition to see who can one-up the other. Apologize and make up. 4. Fights, bickering, arguments—these things happen. Try to instead debate calmly and respectfully (and probably most importantly, logically). This often can lead to a nicer outcome. 5. If you both have an argument that comes to a bitter climax, one must be willing to compromise and the other must be willing to listen and accept. This is not the art of war; this is a relationship. You’re not trying to destroy the other; you’re trying to connect. 6. You both must be willing to talk things out and listen to each other.* *This is pretty much the biggest deciding factor because if you both aren’t willing to even talk about your issues, how can you both understand each other? 7. If ever deciding between two people (or wondering if you should be with this one person), here’s one advice I’ve taken from a movie that affected me profoundly: Who makes you the better person? Does this person make you strive to be better? 8. That sense of humor thing is for reals. Someone who either shares your sense of humor or understand your sense of humor is someone who will last a long time with you. 9. Be affectionate. It’s a good thing. 10. (I just didn’t want to end on point 9 so here’s one last adivce, probably the most generic and cliche one but—) Saying “I love you” ain’t too bad. It’s really nice, actually. In short, a healthy relationship requires both to be willing to talk and listen—hopefully to lead to understanding and evolving (because you definitely don’t want to be down the road 2 years and having your partner bring up an old beaten down issue like an old ex or something; if it happens, refer back to points 1-6) —In Life— 1. There is a time and reason to take up arms and rise and there is a time to let it go. You must weigh your reasons and ask yourself, “Do I really want to fight for this? Or can I let it go?” 2. When indecisive, here are some questions to help you figure it out: “Which is currently more important?” or “Which choice won’t be here again/won’t present itself again for a long time if I don’t choose it now?” 3. When arguing with someone, fight with logic. Most people don’t actually fight with logic so when you do, it throws them off. 4. Take control of your happiness. It’s not easy, I know, especially when there are a lot of factors you can’t control. So then, take control of what you CAN change—your outlook of the situation and your reactions. You can control what YOU do—never doubt that. 5. THINK. BE MINDFUL. BE CONSIDERATE. 6. Be kind. I know this sounds just like every life advice/tip out there, but really, really really try to be kind. It’s so so so important, as people become more cynical and pessimistic and sad—kindness, compassion, sympathy—these things can save us all. 7. Many will tell you to “YOLO” and “FUCK IT it’s your life, do whatever you want!” etc—a lot of carpe diem stuff—but do more than that: carpe diem + consideration. Refer back to point 2 and also consider things like do you have the money? Do you have the time? Will it be worth it? 8. Find the people who loves you and you love them—keep them close. You’ll need them in hard times for hugs and support and love. Seize the day, friend, seize the day after thoughtful consideration. Be happy and well. Take care of yourself. —In Tumblr— 1. Be kind. For goodness’s sake, be kind. 2. Don’t put down others. If they are ignorant, teach. Educate and inspire others to think. Thinking is good. 3. For the most part, people who steal your edits, gifs etc. don’t actually know they’re stealing it. Google tends to bring up everything that you make, so don’t go angry monster at the person (because they’re usually newbies on Tumblr, still trying to figure their way around and what to do). Let them know calmly. Most of the time, they’ll listen. 4. Don’t believe everything you see on Tumblr. It’s super easy to distort or fake things. 5. Anon haters want your attention--don't give it to them. Delete their negativity, delete their messages; it'll drive them nuts when they see you haven't answered. Don't let them take control of your emotions and feelings. You do you.
That's all I have to say.
Happy new year and I wish you all a great 2015! Please be well and take care of yourself. :')
