comma after dearest;

waiting for a package to arrive…..

it arrived after I posted that !!!

This is the package frog, reblog for the package youve been waiting for to arrive

apparently controversial fucking opinion: some of us need closed captions/subtitles to understand what is being said in a video and don’t want to see fan transcribers demolishing captions with zalgo text or giving their own commentary/cracking stupid jokes when we turn those on 

i promise your jokes/theories/fucking leet speek for some reason can stay in the comments and not in the captions where i have to keep rewatching the video to figure out if that’s actually being said or not

stop putting your own jokes/commentary on what’s being said in the video!

if the video is silent while someone is doing something, there are no needed captions! stop putting weird summaries of what’s happening visually!

i guess i can technically read these yes but holy shit it’s annoying cut it out

i’m glad you suddenly realized captions support stylized text but stop using it, neither of those words had any spoken emphasis on them and this stuff only makes it harder to read captions at a glance

and that’s what captions are for- i need to be able to glance at them so i can continue to watch the video while i know what’s being said. i don’t know what’s being said if they’re cluttered with your unnecessary jokes, and i can’t glance at them and call it good if they’re stylized or written weirdly or full of emoticons and stuff.

You must be fun at parties😐

oh my god shut up, it isn’t “not being fun at parties” or “killing the joke” some people are deaf and hard of hearing or have auditory/sensory processing difficulties that make it difficult to hear, especially with or dialects. 

subtitles are there to give accessibility to these people, not for you to have a laugh in and to make the text difficult to read. it’s an accessibility tool not a school note book.

if you want to do this make your own gifs and put fake subtitles on them if you have to. make a parody video. just don’t kill the video for an entire group of people in the name of “fun”

sometimes you need to step back and look at how far youve come :)

remember the time i pitched a longform piece to buzzfeed and the editor was like, “this sure is an interesting idea, how about you write this entire 12,000-word article on spec and then i’ll take a look at it and see if i like it enough to publish it and pay you for it” and i was like, “no, i want some assurance that you will publish my work and pay me for my labour before i spend several months researching and reporting and writing this piece, that is standard in this industry,” and she never replied to me, and i eventually pitched it to another publication with a fraction of buzzfeed’s budget and got paid literally thousands of dollars. bc i think about that a lot.

it’s almost like buzzfeed isn’t real journalism

no, buzzfeed is real journalism, buzzfeed’s news team were pulitzer finalists, it’s just that buzzfeed’s management is made up of grifters and their greed has penetrated every level of the publication! effed up!

this is the funniest twitter thread i’ve ever seen in my goddamn life

The ‘what color’ guy is going places

The “wait no come back” has me weak.

If your vegan “activism” involves holocaust comparisons you owe me a $50 Amazon gift card and a 2,000 word essay explaining why you think Jews are comparable to cattle Goyim reblog (esp. if you’re vegan)

guys this is important

Me: tomorrow is tomorrow I can stay up late fuck shit

My brain:

Always Remember:

– There’s a whole world out there. – There’s one right here. Mamma Mia! Here We Go Again (2018) dir. Ol Parker

Opening night of Hamilton Puerto Rico featuring the Hamilton OBC

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Tom Hiddleston attends the men’s singles final on day thirteen of the Wimbledon Tennis Championships at the All England Lawn Tennis and Croquet Club on July 15, 2018 in London, England.

I just finished babysitting my friend’s children, and she has most definitely mastered the no spanking/alternative discipline route. I always talk about taking it because I don’t believe in abusing children, but I’ve never personally seen it in action by a Black parent. Her children are 2 and 5 and they are the kindest, nicest toddlers I’ve ever met. They listen to her because she’s their mom and they automatically recognize she’s important and she gives them what they want (love and affection and rewards). In return they like to clean for her and give her artwork and cuddles all of the time.

To get them to listen to her, she makes sure to listen to them and what they’ve got to say instead of telling them to shut up all the time. The 5 year old asked her a few months ago why you can’t eat food that was on the floor after picking up food on the floor, and she explained it calmly and clearly. He asked 4 other questions after that and she answered all of them. He was satisfied and happy with the answers, and ever since he hasn’t done those things. She lets them gush and gush about Hot Wheels or Team Umizoomi and engages with them and counts with them and everything, so they never feel alone or neglected enough to not want to obey.

My friend lets them make mistakes by themselves on the rare chance they don’t listen so they can learn from them and let that be punishment enough. For example, the younger one we’ve been telling not to go near the dog cage because he doesn’t like dogs. He went near it a while ago, got his hand licked, freaked out, and hasn’t been anywhere near it since. The board on the wall that she uses has a column for each boy horizontally, and vertically are all the traits she wants them to have, like being nice, listening to her and their teachers, eating their food, cleaning up, having manners, etc. They get a sticker whenever they do it for the day, and they lose all their stickers when they break a habit. That’s enough punishment for them, so they don’t break it.

When they wake up, it’s cleanup time, or bedtime, she plays what she calls “musical habits”. She puts on a playlist of their favorite songs (it’s like 20-25 minutes) that make them feel motivated, and they should be finished getting ready or cleaning by the time the last song is over. If they’re not, they get a toy from their toy bin taken away or an Oreo from their snack bag taken out (aka eaten by her). But she hasn’t ever gotten to that because they always finish. They don’t even like hearing the consequences lol. And I just wanted to say I really enjoyed seeing good parenting by a Black woman that wasn’t abusive or harmful to the child’s development, it gave me inspiration and hope. Just had to talk about it somewhere.

I wrote this post about a year ago. Since then, I’ve become the godmother to both of these babies, and they are STILL so well behaved. I babysit from time to time. They’re also enrolled in Montessori programs.

She’s now teaching them about mindfulness, Spanish, self care, and cooking. They have little yoga mats and practice breathing in and out with her every morning, and then they do affirmations together. I visited them a while back and they have a new board up! She created a system where they’re challenged with the task to do something nice for each other or for someone else every week. With this challenge they’re instructed to use their listening skills to figure out what that person might want or need, and then figure out how they should react. The only reward at the end of the week is a big hug and some snacks, and every month, she lets them have a movie day if they’ve done really well.

She’s also making them use their words when they’re upset instead of grumbling in silence. Her oldest one was notorious for that. She made up a little saying to remind him: “Mommy can’t help if Mommy doesn’t know.” It’s forced him to explain why he’s upset and that gives them a chance to have an actual conversation about it. Now they talk about ANYTHING. If they don’t feel like talking at that moment and they express that, she’ll lead them to their playroom and turn their favorite show on or let them meditate or draw until they’ve cooled down. She also accepts letters if they just didn’t want to use their words. It was so good to watch.

By the way, I got many messages about this post asking me to ask my friend where she learned these techniques. She said that she wrote down all the ways her parents hurt, hindered, or stunted her developmental growth and then wrote down ways they could’ve approached it better or loved her better. That second list is her guideline. 

I usually see people say they’re never gonna treat their kids like their parents treated them yet end up doing it anyways. So this is encouraging… knowing that it is possible to be better than you’re parents.

There are so many unintended consequences to well-intentioned actions. It feels like a game you can’t win.

#CHIDI WAS RIGHT

The Good Place really went with making their new Point ‘there is no ethical consumption under capitalism’ and I respect that

Pepper: *gives Tony a positive pregnancy test for Christmas*

Toby, sobbing: I can’t believe you gave me something you peed on for Christmas. That’s actually kind of kinky. Oh my god, I’m going to be a dad I can’t say stuff like that anymore.

why is this making me feel so much better