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"Computer games don't affect kids; I mean if Pac-Man affected us as kids, we'd all be running around in darkened rooms, munching magic pills and listening to repetitive electronic music." -Kristian Wilson, Nintendo, Inc., 1989
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Trans/nbi Reading List

This list is in my pinned post but since it's pride month I thought I'd make a separate post for those wanting to learn more about transgender and non-binary people and how to be an ally

Quick Reads

Books

Online

Deeper Dive

Books for Funsies!

  • Mask of Shadows - Amazing 2-part fantasy story featuring a genderfluid assassin as the protagonist. This book helped me begin to really understand just how broad the non binary umbrella really is written by Linsey Miller
  • Gideon the Ninth - Lesbian necromancers in space. Nuff said written by Tamsyn Muir

Books

Family Resources

  • PFLAG: “Our Trans Loved Ones” guide - VERY good in-depth read for family members, warning ~100 pages Formerly the acronym for Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays but now is just the name of the group
  • Trans Lifeline Resources - Great list of resources for supporting a trans loved one Trans Lifeline is a suicide prevention hotline run by and for trans people.

Struggles for Trans People

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It’s important to know that hijab is banned in schools in most of the european countries, such as france, belgium, switzerland etc. Millions of girls have to take their hijab off everyday in order to have access to education, and I am one of them. Please spread this as much as possible, it has become so normal here that I feel like a fool for even mentioning it, but I’m pretty sure it goes against the human rights. This senseless law has been on since 2004 and pretends that all the students have to be “equal” and it is prohibited to show that you belong to any religion, any religious sign must be set aside. However, most of us have to take our hijab off in schools where you can clearly see a christmas tree or a christian cross. “Yeah but it’s not the same”, they say. Tell me about double standards. I pray for days when we don’t have to chose between religion and education.

This, but don’t read the notes. It’s all just French people and/or Catholics going “I’m totally not racist or antisemitic, it’s just that I think that Xmas, a holiday celebrating the birth of Jesus, is secular, whereas a Muslim or Jew wearing a hijab or kippah is somehow forcing their religion on me by existing in public.” LOL

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Society could be much better if people had babies because they actually wanted to raise one and help it grow, instead of having babies because its “what people do”.

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if your characters main character trait is that she’s a woman, You have failed as a writer.

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equalistmako

every time i listen to “you’re a mean one mr. grinch” i can’t help but sit there and think “what did the grinch do to hurt you?” because dude just stands there for 2 minutes and 58 seconds and drags the grinch into the dirt

he stole christmas, kayla! stop with your #notallgrinches propaganda!

you know what if someone told me i was a three-decker sauerkraut and toadstool sandwich with arsenic sauce i’d probably be bitter enough to steal christmas too 

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prokopetz

Interestingly, though The Grinch Who Stole Christmas is narrated by Boris Karloff, the big musical number is sung by the late Thurl Ravenscroft - an American voice actor better known as the voice of Tony the Tiger.

My headcanon is that the Grinch and Tony the Tiger had a bad breakup, and “You’re a Mean One, Mr. Grinch” is the resulting breakup song.

Did this really HAVE to be the first thing I see when I opened up Tumblr?

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iguanamouth

oh god theres art

@altadude you know what must be done.

ive been avoiding reblogging this honestly but just. What the fuck. What the fuck tumblr

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magickspills

I apologize to all my followers for this

if i had to read this you do too

I have a hate-hate relationship with this

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Good grief… I’m sorry, but I can’t not reblog this…

Tis the season bitches

DAMN IT WHY WOULD YOU BRING THIS BACK YOU HEATHEN

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logan-exe

Why is this on my dash?

…..I’m.. Bothered? by the fact that I’m not bothered by this.

You’re not bothered?? I’m not only not bothered, I’m freaking invested. I’m having actual empathetic sadness for The Grinch. I want them to go into couple’s counseling. I want the “ten years later” when Tony visits Whoville on business and meets the reformed Grinch whose heart has grown 3 times its usual size. I want them to reminisce over a shared dinner of roast beast and wine, then spend a drunken night together, then realize that maybe things are different and people really do change. I want a 3-act story where there’s a long dark night of soul searching and the realization that maybe we’ve all got a little bit of bad banana with greasy black peel inside us, but that doesn’t mean we can’t make a damned fine banana bread if someone will give us a chance. 

“maybe we’ve all got a little bit of bad banana with greasy black peel inside us, but that doesn’t mean we can’t make a damned fine banana bread if someone will give us a chance” is an incredibly profound quote and I did NOT expect to get it from a Grinch x Tony the Tiger post

This is actually an amazing fic, I highly recommend :3

oh yeah, everyone’s actually super angry at how well-written it is

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and my personal favorite: “I wish you all the best, but I do hope you one day suffer for your sins”

@biggest-gaudiest-patronuses I don’t ever talk to you, but I am very curious, are you aware of the special in which the Grinch meets The Cat In The Hat and proceeds to torture him because he was eating a picnic near his house and the grinch’s reflection mocked him?

NEW GRINCH LORE DROPPED

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How to use gender-inclusive language

I originally wrote this for an internal blog at work, and my colleagues and friends requested I repost it publicly to be shared more widely. I’ve adapted the original post with some minor updates and stripped out the stuff that was specific to the workplace.

Big thanks to my colleagues Tallulah and Basil for their help in assembling and editing this post!

The words we use are so important. Using gender-inclusive language demonstrates our commitment to cultivating an inclusive and comfortable space for everyone.

There are lots of commonly-used phrases in English that are gender-exclusive. Because many English-speakers are used to hearing and using these phrases, it may not occur to people that these phrases are unintentionally exclusive. But knowledge is power, and we can do better!

For example, references to “men and women” exclude those of us who are nonbinary. Here are some helpful substitutions that are more inclusive:

Instead of: “Ladies and gentlemen” Say: “Everyone,” “everybody,” “folks,” “esteemed colleagues/guests,” “guys, gals, and nonbinary pals”
Instead of: “Men and women,” “boys and girls” Say: “People,” “folks,” “everyone”
Instead of: “You guys” Say: “Friends,” “colleagues,” “y’all,” “yinz,” “everyone,” “folks”

One frequently-asked question: “What do you use instead of ‘ma’am’ or ‘sir’ when speaking to someone whose gender you don’t know?” This is especially tricky for people who work in the service sector, who seek to be extra-polite to customers. I’m hoping we can drop the expectation of adding honorifics to sentences entirely, but some gender-neutral alternatives that work in certain circumstances include “friend,” “comrade,” “captain,” “boss,” “kind patron,” “your eminence,” “honored guest/customer,” or you can rework a sentence to add “thank you” or “pardon me” to make it more polite.

One place where gender-based language gets a little more complicated is when talking about biological processes that have typically been ascribed to a specific gender, but actually happen to people outside of that gender, too. For example, some transgender men, intersex people, and nonbinary people menstruate and get pregnant. Some transgender women can get prostate cancer. Cisgender men can get breast cancer. Labeling these as “women’s health” or “men’s health” issues is alienating and uncomfortable for people who experience these things but don’t align with that gender label.

It’s not always intuitive how to discuss these issues without gender labels, but it can be done! Here are some ideas for substitutions. Please add more to the comments, if you think of them!

Instead of: “Women” or “Female” (when discussing ability to give birth, specifically) Say: “people who can give birth”
Instead of: “Pregnant women” Say: “pregnant people”
Instead of: “Women”/”Female” or “Men”/”Male” (when discussing a biological issue) Say: “people who can get XYZ disorder,” “people with XYZ body part”

Other gender-neutral terms

Here are some gender-neutral options for gendered words we hear a lot. They’re especially handy if you’re not sure of the gender of the person you’re addressing:

Mx.: An honorific, alternative to Mr./Mrs./Ms. (pronounced “mix” or “mux”) Sibling: instead of brother/sister Spouse: instead of husband/wife Partner, datefriend, sweetheart, significant other: instead of boyfriend/girlfriend Parent: instead of mother/father Nibling: instead of niece/nephew Pibling, Entle, Nuncle: instead of aunt/uncle

Please don’t assume people’s pronouns

Remember, even if someone’s name is masculine or feminine-sounding, that doesn’t necessarily mean you know their gender or pronouns. If in doubt of how to address someone, you can share your pronouns and then ask for theirs. For example, “By the way, I use she/her pronouns. What are your pronouns?”

An easy way to share your pronouns online is to include them in your email signature and online profiles. You can also add your pronouns to your Zoom name so that folks can see your pronouns in meetings. By sharing your pronouns, you create a safer space for other folks to share theirs, and you normalize them in conversation.

How to use “they” and neopronouns

They/them has been acceptable in the English language as a gender-neutral pronoun for individuals since the 1300s. Many use it without thinking, like when we don’t know the gender of someone we’re talking about: “When will they arrive?” for example.

If someone uses they/them pronouns, you conjugate it the same as using they/them as plural pronouns:

“What kinds of cheese do they like?” “They enjoy Stilton and cheddar especially.” “Ooo, I wonder if they have any good fondue recipes.”

Some people don’t use he, she, or they as pronouns – there are many more possibilities! These are called neopronouns, and they include sets like per/pers, ze/zir, ey/em, xe/xem, and others. Learn more about various sets of pronouns here, and how to use them!

It’s always correct to use someone’s name in place of their pronouns, if you’re unsure or still getting used to using their pronouns.

“What kinds of cheese does Chris like?” “Chris enjoys Stilton and Cheddar especially.” “Ooo, I wonder if Chris has any good fondue recipes.”

Avoid using the phrases: “identifies as” or “preferred pronouns”

When referring to nonbinary or transgender people, avoid using the terms “identifies as” or “preferred pronouns.” These phrases incorrectly imply that someone’s gender identity or pronouns are a preference and are optional for the speaker to use. These phrases can also incorrectly imply that someone prefers to identify as X but is actually Y. This language is invalidating to nonbinary and transgender people.

Instead of: “What are your preferred pronouns?” Say: “What are your pronouns?”

What if you or someone else makes a mistake?

Mistakes happen! If you slip up and use the wrong name or pronouns for someone, here’s what to do:

  1. Quickly apologize
  2. Correct yourself
  3. Continue the conversation

Example: “Whoops. I’m sorry, I meant ____. As I was saying…”

Over-apologizing or making a big deal of it often makes the person you misgendered uncomfortable, or makes them feel like they have to support you and that your embarrassment is more important than their pain. (We shouldn’t have to say “that’s okay” when someone misgenders us, because it’s not okay, but sometimes we feel obligated to do so in such an awkward situation.) Just make a conscious effort to do better next time, and move on.

If someone else misgenders a friend or uses incorrect pronouns, it can be tricky to know how to respond. First, ask yourself if that friend would appreciate you correcting people on their behalf in that circumstance. If yes, either make the correction briefly and quickly (i.e. if the offender said “he,” immediately say “she”) OR reach out to the offender privately and let them know they made a mistake. Use your best judgment.

Additional resources:

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mxmel34

<3

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bookhobbit

why is “olde vampires in high school” the big thing and not “olde vampires in college”

  • everyone in college is eccentric. everyone
  • you wanna wear full on Victorian suit? the girl in pajamas who clearly hasn’t slept in three days supports you
  • everyone is too preoccupied to care as long as you’re polite and follow class etiquette
  • multiple high school diplomas? eh. same stuff. multiple BAs? Enjoy learning chemistry AND art history! All in detail!
  • wandering around campus at 3am? that’s just the lifestyle tm
  • no matter how old or young you look it’s not really that weird, there’s sixteen year olds and sixty year olds doing BAs somewhere
  • big schools are very anonymous so nobody’s gonna bother to hassle you

the girl in pyjamas is the vampire

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Also:

  • If u put ur blood in a water bottle ppl will assume it’s juice and be Jealous
  • “Oh god I’m a monster” 20 students who r all procrastinating big projects say “same” simultaniousely and with the exact same tone
  • Everything is a joke so if u say “I subsist on the lifeblood of mankind” someone will go “lol what a mood”
  • It would take u like 100 years to major in everything
  • Seen sucking the blood of a fellow classmate and u r instantly the campus Cryptid and Mascot
  • Listen. If u have an ethical dilemma go find a philosophy major that believes in ethical subjectivism and they’ll make u so angry u forget abt whatever the fuck was bothering u
  • College is the only acceptable place to get into fistfights over classical literature
  • Literally all u need to do to avoid suspicion is be the guy that always has gum and a stapler
  • If u have a majestic mustache ppl will just assume ur an English major
  • Allergic to crosses? Cool. So r certain stem majors.

“never seen in the light of the sun//sleeps all day & is awake at night” “can’t eat garlic” “dresses weird” “can’t enter your home uninvited” “won’t go into churches” “drinks weird red liquid”

  • this is just a liberal arts major with a garlic allergy and social anxiety.

You guys are missing the biggest joke, everyone will actively call them “the vampire” but think nothing of it

also everyones an adult and no one’s parents are around much which erases like 80% of the difficulties in high school vampire romances

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lynati

And 98% of the creepiness of high school vampire romances.

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You do owe the world things, actually. It’s just those things tend to be perfectly balanced. 

You owe people respect and dignity; they owe the same to you. 

You owe children kindness; as a child, you are owed a kind world. 

You are owed nourishment by any world that brings you into existence, you are owed a chance to thrive. In return, you owe the same to any people or creatures you agree to take guardianship over.

The issue is not that we, and others, and the world in general, owe each other.  We are all born being owed certain things, and by living we acquire debts; life requires this interdependence to thrive. The issue is that we are often misled as to what this actually means, by those who would take advantage of us. We are lied to by authority figures who do not want to respect us, or acknowledge their responsibility to us. Worse: we mistakenly come to believe that taking advantage of others is the key to restoring balance. We were cheated, so others must be cheated in turn. 

We trap ourselves in these deadly cycles. Society betrays us so we are taught to disengage, to break it further. We are taught to forget the value of repair. We are taught to forget what is owed. Fundamentally, we are taught to forget that people are owed basic decency. When we say we owe the world nothing, we forget we are affirming the opposite: the world owes us nothing in return.

But this is so incredibly untrue. We owe the world things, and are owed in return, and that’s good, that is so so good. I would hate to live in a world where I didn’t believe people were fundamentally owed dignity and decency and kindness. The real issue is that these things often go unpaid, and unreciprocated. We think: “The world gave me nothing, though it should have. Why should I owe anything?” 

And that is such a dangerous way to think. That type of thought just turns you into another gear in a destructive machine. That type of thought just allows despair to self-replicate. That type of thought validates the abusers and ensures there is never a shortage of victims. Feed those kinds of thoughts, and a plug gets pulled somewhere inside you, and lets the humanity drain away. You lose everything, trying to steal from others what was stolen from you. You cheat yourself and the world, with that kind of thinking. 

I promise you this: When we try to balance the scales by refusing to pay forward what wasn’t paid to us, we just double the debt and burden the world in the process. A better world requires that we first do better.

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