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Kyra Westman

@kyrawestman-blog / kyrawestman-blog.tumblr.com

The magical journey of me.
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Kyra's Guide to Visiting London

So I’ve got some friends visiting London in the coming weeks, and they’re all asking what to do once they get here. So I’ve come up with a guide of sorts that organizes activities and things to see in handy-dandy groups.

Daytime Activities

FREE!

London Walk

  • Big Ben
  • Houses of Parliament
  • Westminster Abbey
  • St. James's Park
  • Buckingham Palace
  • The Mall
  • Trafalgar Square
  • Piccadilly Circus
  • Regent Street
  • Oxford Circus

[2-3 Hours]

South Bank Walk

  • London Eye
  • South Bank towards the London Bridge
  • Tate Modern
  • Shakespeare's Globe
  • Tower of London / Tower Bridge

[1-3 Hours]

Museums

Option 1

  • The British Museum In the area(ish):
  • Covent Garden
  • Soho

Option 2

  • Natural History Museum
  • Science Museum
  • Victoria and Albert Museum

Exploring - Places to Consider

  • Camden
  • Notting Hill
  • Greenwich
  • Kensington Gardens / Hyde Park

£ TREAT YOURSELF £

Attractions to Consider

  • The London Eye
  • Madame Tussauds
  • West End Show
  • River Thames Boat Tour
  • The Shard
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21 People On What They Would Tell Their 19-Year-Old Selves

Jonathan, 55: There is no such thing as “the only one”. You will meet lots of “the ones”. Only commit when the timing is right for the both of you – that can take years for some, and that’s okay.
Miranda, 24: Drop pre-med.
Isaac, 48: Deodorant does not count as a shower, and that haircut only looked good on Bon Jovi.
Anya, 42: Make the conscious decision to be happy, and then stick with it. Society will do everything in its power to convince you that your personal happiness is dependent on something external – beauty, success, wealth, etc. – it isn’t.
Parker, 55: 60% of the things you think are important now won’t matter a whit to you by the time you reach 50. The trick is to figure out the important 40% and work it.
Megan, 34: He doesn’t love you, and you will be okay.
Peter, 58: Don’t let anything stand in your way of taking part (or all) of your junior year abroad. You’ll never again have quite the same opportunity to experience a foreign land, for an extended period of time, in your youth. It is destined to be one of the most memorable aspects of your life.
Eleanor, 67: Talk less. Listen more.
Donald, 27: There’s a huge difference between who you want to be and who everyone around you wants you to be. Figure out which is which.
Camille, 56: Always remember: when falling off a horse, pull your tongue in.
Jackson, 57: No one knows anything for sure. They’re all just doing the best they can with what they have, just like you.
Vicki, 47: You’ll never have all the answers, so make every question count.
Donald, 38: You don’t have to grow up to be the dad you never had.
Katelyn, 30: Make the most out of college. You will never again be at a place where your only goal is to learn. Learn a lot, learn often, and learn with reckless abandon.
Joshua, 55: Women love to laugh.
Annabelle, 38: Drugs are not beautiful, glamorous or opulent. They are not a remedy, a solution, a cure-all, or a cure-anything.
Colin, 50: You miss so much life when you sleep until 3 PM. Wake up to see sunrises; they are the most stunning of nature’s masterpieces.
Eleanor, 26: Eating two pints of ice cream won’t make you happy. Neither will sprinting 10 miles. Be nice to yourself.
Aaron, 52: Don’t forget to ask that girl in the Oberlin library what kind of perfume she’s wearing. You’ll buy it for her in 20 years.
Scarlett, 54: Don’t be afraid to be yourself. Those that get you will love you, those that don’t, well, their loss. Just remember: Wherever you are, it’s a party.
Zack, 9: I hope you’re awesome. And be nice to girls.
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estasfuera

“A little bit of Monica in my life, A little bit of Erica by my side, A little bit of Rita is all I need, A little bit of Tina is what I see, A little bit of Sandra in the sun, A little bit of Mary all night long, A little bit of Jessica, here I am…”

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mi-shellvp

If you don’t know this reference, you’re definitely too young for me. 

bless

Lmao yesss

TOO. YOUNG.

My favorite song forever.

I’m more impressed someone found all of these in a store at the same time and put it together to make this refrence

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Jeeping Collage Summer 2014

From left to right:

  • Boulders on a path from Silverton to Ophir, Colorado.
  • Mailbox at the top of Imogene Pass
  • White-lined sphinx (Hyles lineata), commonly known as the hummingbird moth
  • Flower field on Scotch Creek trail
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Women on YouTube - VidCon 2014

For anyone who wasn’t able to attend VidCon or missed seeing the panel live, here it is online! 

It was so, so brilliant and absolutely worth the watch. 

If only everyone who engages with the YT community would take the time to listen to what these women have to say, it could change so much for the better.

watch this.

This whole discussion is so important. I'm so glad I got the chance to be a room moderator during this panel. (I specifically asked to have my volunteer job switched that day so I could listen to these lovely ladies talk.) We need more things like this!

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When you have mixed feelings about an abusive relationship

Content warning: this post probably uses language that gets used against abuse victims. I’m trying to avoid that, but I don’t think I’ve entirely succeeded, and some of these words might be triggering. Proceed with caution.

So, here’s the thing.

People are complicated, and relationships are even more complicated. Abuse victims are often pressured to pretend that things are simple. They’re pressured to believe that if there was any positive aspect whatsoever to an abusive relationship, then it wasn’t really as abusive as they think it was.

But it doesn’t work that way. People aren’t averaged. People can do some really good things, and some abusive things. They don’t cancel each other out. They coexist. Whatever else happened, the abuse was real, and you’re right not to tolerate it.

Sometimes… sometimes your abuser is also the person who taught you your favorite recipe.

Or something fundamental about how you understand the world.

Or a major skill you now use professionally.

Or maybe they gave you a lot of valuable criticism that made your art better.

Or maybe they supported you materially when you were in real trouble.

Or any number of other things.

And…

…none of that makes the abuse ok. None of that is mitigating in any way. It doesn’t cancel anything out. Sometimes people talk like the abusive interactions and the good ones get put in a blender or something, and like some sort of theoretical blended average is what really counts. That’s not how it works. It’s the actual interactions that count, not some theoretical average. The abuse is real, and significant, no matter what else happened.

It doesn’t have to be one or the other. If some things about an abusive relationship were positive, it’s ok to acknowledge and value them.

And you can still refuse to ever have anything to do with your abuser ever again. You can still be angry. You can still hate them. You can still decide never to forgive them. You can still warn people against them. None of these things are mutually exclusive.

And, most importantly, valuing some aspects of the relationship or having some positive memories does not in *any way* mean the abuse was your fault.

This is so, so important and I can’t believe it has less than 1,000 notes. This needs to be shared.

Bolded emphasis mine.

This is something I struggle with and I can't stress to people enough how important it is to make sure their aware that the abuse wasn't their fault. Thanks to tikken for their additions to the text because they help tie it all up.

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