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On the Border of Who I Am and Who I Want to Be

@thefamilyichoose / thefamilyichoose.tumblr.com

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aeliad

It has been literal years but every time I see Martin’s tweets posted somewhere and his word is shared as truth while her post is not shared it sort of reiterates the fact that we trust men to speak about feminism more than we believe women who experience it. 

Reading her account of how their boss treated her blows me away. Men are so emboldened that they will literally admit to illegal discrimination casually and face no consequences.

In all the years of seeing this post I’ve never seen a link to her side. Didn’t even know she’d written one.

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pluts04

Adding screenshots of her post. His whole post is there without needing a link. Hers should be, too.

Also, she posted this is 2017! It’s fucking 2020 and I’ve seen his side of this for years, but it took 3 years for her side to make its way to my dash…

I’ve reblogged his story at least twice; it’s time for Nicole’s.

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Venting for my own sake

I’ve been off my anti-depressants for about 2-3 weeks. I forgot what this felt like to be honest - having to ignore this voice in the back of my head to just make it all stop. I feel like a real idiot right now, because I “lost” them. They were in plain sight. Maybe being off of work made it possible for me to be present enough to notice them. Whatever the reason, I’m back on them. I’m sure I’ll make it through the 2 weeks it takes for them to kick in, but knowing that doesn’t make it any easier. Is it even worth it? There’s so much awfulness in my life that I’m yet to undo. Half a life’s worth. It’s not like I made much progress while on the pills. Here I am shouting into the void, hoping that these words will release enough pressure to make it through these 2 weeks, but why? Sure I’ll be better off than I am now, but was I happy? Obviously not if I’m sitting here editing my words, afraid of panicking anyone who might happen upon this post. Maybe I’ll just sleep.

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alliluyevas

National Geographic on Facebook: this is a facial reconstruction of a teenage girl who lived 9000 years ago based on her remains!

half the comments: men criticizing her looks and saying she’s unattractive and mannish

anyway this is the reconstruction and I always enjoy seeing the faces of prehistoric humans and how much we have in common over thousands of years despite how incredibly different our lives are. I support her and I think she looks wonderful.

everyone in the replies of this post saying “well I think she’s pretty!” missed the whole damn point lmao

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benyw

I remember watching a documentary once where historians were trying to work out who a dead girl was and what her life was like. I’m pretty sure they dated the body back to the early Victorian era, and established pretty early on that she lived in poverty, died young, and was most certainly a prostitute.

The grand finale of the show was the reveal of her reconstructed face. Now, bare in mind that through their investigations they discovered that she had lived an awful life and died an agonizing death (syphilis iirc). So, you can imagine my disgust when the historians reacted with disappointment at the reveal of her ‘face’. This poor girl, who had suffered terribly, was obviously not the poor, tragic beauty they had been hoping for.

She was plain, maybe some would say she was ugly, but what was truly hideous was the fact that you could practically see the sympathy these historians had for this poor girl slip away as they looked at her ‘face’, and you could certainly hear it in their voices.

Even in death our value rests on the basis of our looks. Sympathy is conditional - based on where you fall on the looks scale.

Science: *gives us the miracle of seeing long-dead faces*

Men:

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I can tell that my professor doesn’t have ADHD.

I just told my dad and brother about this and my dad said “But you do control your own motivation?” and my brother recoiled in horror so you can probably guess which one of them has ADHD

Motivation is a rare and passing favour granted by the stars. An elusive wind that comes and goes in its own time

Who…who controls their own motivation??

Neurotypicals, allegedly.

Wait.. people can control their motivation???

Allegedly.

Wack.

@ neurotypicals: IS THIS TRUE???????? CAN YOU JUST LIKE…. TURN IT ON AND OFF?????????????????

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cedarspiced
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Over the past few months I have asked a male architect for ideas & drafts for the renovation of the farmhouse, and at every turn I am stunned by his utter disregard for any cleaning-related concerns. For example, he is very into the idea of having in the living-room a big, non-openable window near the ceiling—which, granted, looks pretty, like having a piece of blue sky when you raise your eyes, but immediately I’m like, with a high ceiling, how will I clean this? You can’t open it so you have to clean both sides separately, and you can’t easily reach either side. I’ll need a tool with an absurdly long telescopic handle. He says, a stepladder. I’m like, but I’ll need to carry it by myself to the living-room and the front of the house every time. “So?” So a very tall stepladder is heavy? And it will be hard not to get dirty water dripping down the wall. He reacts like he can’t believe he is being asked to bring the concept of dirty soap water into his grand designs, like these are base, trifling considerations, when to me it’s a crucial factor in the decision to add this decorative window.

Similarly we both agree on leaving most of the wood beams exposed because they’re old and beautiful, but when I ask if we ought to insulate in such a way as to cover every other one, so the remaining ones are farther apart and it’s harder for spiders to use them as ready-made anchors for their webs, he just looks disgusted, like “I am talking about Architecture and you bring up spiderwebs.” At this point I start to entertain the idea that men make horrible architects. You design someone’s house to give them a nice, convenient space to live in, not to make their life more difficult. A man who has never used a sponge in his life should not be allowed to graduate from architect school and that’s the end of it.

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