Dean deserved better.

peopl on here are like don't call someone a piece of shit, it's ableist towards everyone with piece of shit personality disorder, a diagnosis that seems completely reasonable and definitely not designed to stigmatize the patient

it is absolutely wild how much absolute fucking nonsense the obsessive pathologization models of the mental health industry produce, and how much of this nonsense gets taken seriously and used as excuses for institutionalization

"Oppositional Defiant Disorder" that is fake. that is a made-up-ass disorder. that sounds like some shit theyd diagnose you with in the 1920s if you wanted your husband to stop beating you and would prescribe radium-infused cocaine as treatment

"Pathological demand avoidance"

"Conduct disorder"

"Wandering/elopement"

So many diagnostic terms that just mean "Doesn't do what they're told"!

Still not as insidious as the ones that basically have one of two possible meanings: Either you're a domestic abuser, which our neurobigoted society can't condemn as wrong unless we claim it's "caused" by a "mental disorder", Or you're a victim of domestic abuse being pathologized by your abuser for being disobedient. Could go either way!

The important thing is rhetorically and ideologically solidifying that "Disobedient person," "neurodivergent person," "Abusive person," and "Intrinsically Bad person" are all ontologically linked.

is this what she meant

some of y'all need to learn how to accept hospitality. stop assuming people are only offering to look after you out of twisted obligation that they don't actually want to do. when you assume that, you are often denying someone the opportunity to genuinely show a friend or stranger love. even if you don't really care about what they're offering, it's respectful of their desire to be kind to accept it anyways.

i had a bunch of girls i've never met over for a women's group. every single one of them denied my offer to make them tea (despite already making myself a mug anyways), get them water, a scone, etc.

i can tell when people refuse to let me be a good host because they "don't want to be a bother". like no!! please be a bother!!! i want to serve you and make you comfortable in my home!

not to be like "we live in a society" but really do live in a modern culture than emphasizes individualism to the point where people will reflexively deny any help or kindness from others for fear of treading on their independence. newsflash: dependence on each other is what makes a community. next time someone offers you kindness, accept it instead of making excuses for why you don't need it. otherwise you've robbed both yourself of being loved and someone else from showing love.

One of the things that really helped me make friends as an adult was learning that people want to be wanted, they want to be useful

Accepting help and offering help in return was key to deepening acquaintances into fully-fledged friendships

This is why I get so tired about “whose a real women” and “are transgender people real” and the like because it’s so irrelevant. We have group or people that have an insane suicide rate and we have a solution that reduces that by an insane amount.

No matter how you slice it no theoretical reason nor gender rhetoric can change the gender affirming care is improving more lives than it’ll ever hurt

i think this belongs here too

all the statistics are massively in favor of gender affirming care no matter how you slice it.

Favourite type???

AARON DESSNER I'LL GET YOU THAT GRAMMY FOR PRODUCER OF THE YEAR EVEN IF ITS THE LAST THING I DO IN THIS LIFE

reblog w the song lyrics in your head NOW. either stuck in yr head or what yr listening to

nothing is embarrassing if i don't believe in being embarrassed by anything

You look like Stevie Nicks

In ‘75 the hair and the lips

Crowd goes wild at her fingertips

half moonshine a full eclipse

im having his baby no im not because i got an abortion #prochoice

taylor discount the album on your store and post about it. get that 3.4M baby!

The funniest recurring theme of Taylor's life and career is that the haters and naysayers are always the loudest when she's released something that they know fundamentally is good and they can't stand the fact that it's breaking records and outperforming everyone else to such a degree that it's hard to be on the other side of it...

…as she was leaving it felt like breathing

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