To the anon about the exam thingy. Me and my boyfriend usually Skype study when we can. Meaning skype is on but both are studying (occasionally sharing a word or two ofc) Wouldn't know if it works for everyone but it does for us so just felt like sharing :)
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My boyfriend is taking exams and he's in very advanced courses so he's studying a lot. I know he needs to be away to study, but I can't help but miss him and be very depressed and lonely. He's said he's felt the same. What should we do?
Unfortunately, coming from someone in a relationship where we're both in college going through finals, you just have to tough it out. You both are going to miss each other deeply and feel a little lost without them. Try and find little pockets of time to talk, leave messages for each other to check during breaks in studying, but other than that… it's hard. Just keep in mind that it's only for a couple of weeks, and have a countdown until when it's all over! And after it's all over schedule a super long Skype talk or phone call to make up for lost time.
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My ld boyfriend hardly has any time to talk to me between school and work. How should I deal with this?
Try to “schedule” time where you both can look forward to a specific time that way you won’t feel let down when he can’t talk and he can plan ahead so he won’t be busy during that hour or two or three. Sunday nights usually work best. And any other extra time you get to talk will be like a gift!
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My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year now and have been LDR since I left for school a few months ago. She leaves for school soon and will be over a thousand miles away. We're planning on staying together throughout college and to hopefully get married once we are able, but that's years down the road. Do you have any advice for keeping the relationship strong?
Talk talk talk as much as you can. About the normal things, about the deep things, about the silly things. Talk about everything.
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My... Boyfriend? (He doesn't like the term boyfriend, but we're dating) and I live over 300 miles away. Its not that far, but its something like an 8 hour journey and costs about £100 usually. Well I'm going to see him in a week and I am so so so excited! He's already been to where I live and it was amazing. Any ideas on how to keep calm on the journey though? I'm major major anxious about everything and I don't wanna get all nervy and then be in a bad mood when we meet.
You’ve probably already had your trip, so I hope it went well! If you still get nervous on new trips try breathing exercises (there are phone apps to help with anxiety), listening to calming or classical music, reading, etc. There will always be some nerves (I still get nerves after two and a half years of dating!), but don’t think that’s a bad thing. You’re just excited!!
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I had a best guy friend that I knew from college. He moved out of the country for work and surprised me a couple of months ago by showing up on my front porch & taking me on a date. He asked me to be his girlfriend. I was (and am) completely in love with him. He started ignoring me a month into our relationship and he wouldn't respond so I broke up with him. What happened?? I would do anything for him, but was silence his way of telling me he made a mistake asking me out? Help.
There could be a lot of reason, but I wouldn’t assume that it was you. He went above and beyond to ask you out, so I would think that it was something he was going through. Communication is crucial, and maybe he just couldn’t handle long distance dating at this time in his life.
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I just have never felt like this.... and its like a breath of fresh air in the middle of drowning... any advice to get over the constant want to have her?
I always want my boyfriend. But I also have lots of things in my life, from friends to hobbies to schoolwork, that I enjoy that take my mind off things sometimes.
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Hi! Im in a long distance relationship (duh). I live in the USA and my boyfriend lives in Australia. We have been together for almost two years now, and we are very much in love. Problem is, only my mother knows about it, and we do not know how to tell my dad. Everyone says "Well sit him down and tell him and explain to him calmly" and all this. But, I really do feel my father will be really mad, and might try to take me away from the person I love the most. I do not know what to do anymore :(
If you’ve read most of what I’ve written about telling the parents, I do tell you to sit down and explain it to him calmly. I understand that your dad will probably be mad and angry, but if your mom already knows you already have an ally on your side.
The whole point of sitting calmly and telling them is to create an environment in which parents can understand that you are in a serious mood and you should be taken seriously. By talking calmly and rationally, that indicates to them that you have thought about this maturely and are acting like an adult not like a petulant child.
My advice to you would be to talk it over with your mom beforehand and ask her to show her support for you and the relationship when the time comes for the three of you to sit down together to have this talk. Maybe she’ll even give him a heads up so your dad won’t explode and overwhelm you. Be ready to help your dad try to understand in anyway you can (I would like you to meet him over Skype, for example works very well). Be open and honest about as much as you can.
I know this isn’t what you wanted to hear, but all those other people who you went to advice for were right in my opinion!
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