How do you protect yourself from being stalked online by your parents?
I often get messages from teens living with their abusive parents telling me about how terrifying it is for them to even look at my blog in case their parent finds out. I was a teenager before social networking on the internet. Honestly, when I was a teenager there was barely an internet yet. So, I donât know how people protect themselves but I feel like probably there are ways. If you know please do share! A lot of people would find it helpful.
Advice for keeping your phone safe in toxic environments:
Keep things in google apps
- Everything is saved to your account, ex. you can delete google photos when your phone is checked, and download it again afterwards and get all your photos back
- Also because itâs on your account you can log into google on a friendâs computer or a library computer or something if you need to
- Iâm not sure about other apps but I know you can put a password on google docs
- People are more likely to check notes but assume you have google docs for school assignments and not check that
- A lot of people monitor texts/use programs that monitor texts, but whoâs going to remember to check Google Hangouts?
Use the internet on apps that arenât Safari
- Download another browser and put it in a different folder, because most people can check your safari history but wonât find another app and then figure out how to check the search history of that app
- Also use the internet when you click the link in social media ex. If you click a link on a Pinterest pin it can take you to that link on the internet but stay in Pinterest, so it wonât show up in search histories
Inform your friends and if you want to be really sneaky use code when texting
- Sending messages as code helps. Ending sentences with certain letters can work. Need something? Definitely use code. Friends can help you. Or other family. Or teachers. Donât hesitate to reach out. (the first letter of every sentence spelled out SEND FOOD)
- Literally just google pigpen code or ceasarian cipher or whatever you want and you can find a way to talk that most people wouldnât understand
Awesome info. Thank you!
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I was in this situation a while ago, another thing to do is you can make second accounts on your social media and block your parents account so they donât find it
For social media, I either go by a different name/photo w/e and block my family or I just make a second account and block them all again.
And Iâve always had a password on everything, so they canât go through it and I wonât let them.
no one is coming after me but still reblogging because other people definitely need this info
Thank you! Yes. Please, everyone boost. So many need this info.
Fake/second accounts are great for this, as long as you still use your other accounts for safe messages and websites, etc so they donât get suspicious when they check it. Also, only deleting the parts of your search history that your parents would object to is less suspect than deleting the whole thing.
If theyâre being sneaky and checking things while youâre not around, make sure to log out of all social media after using it and try to have a slightly different password for each one.
Let your friends and other people know so that they donât accidentally send unsafe messages to your main account.
(Stay safe,guys.Reblog to help each other out.)
- If your parents look through the apps on your phone to make sure you arenât using anything like tumblr or a messaging app, you can create a folder filled with boring stuff like settings, the notes app, general shit like that and give it a name like âutilitiesâ or âgeneralâ or something like that. Fill up the first page with those apps, and then put the ones youâre trying to hide on the second or third pages. Your parents will see the app icons from the homescreen and ignore it as they can tell whatâs inside, but only if they arent that tech savvy. Only do this if you know that they wouldnât open the folder and click to other pages
- Download duck duck go. Itâs a search engine thats similar to google, but it has a much more thorough and easier way of deleting search history. Your parents might even think its a game, as the logo is literally just a happy duck, which would decrease the odds of them actually looking at the app properly
I just discovered Hide It Pro. It looks like an audio manager but itâs actually a secret vault where you can store apps your abusive parents will lose their minds over. Anyone ever use this?
I have like 5 active followers but in case anyone ever needs this
A search engine/ browser that my parents literally NEVER CHECK is called puffin- it seems like nobody knows about it but itâs pretty standard and similar to google chrome. It lets you use everything in desktop mode, only it no longer works for iOS devices. Android users, however, are in the clear.
Hide It Pro is AMAZING, if youâre on the fence about getting it please do.
First of all, sharing to save a life yo.
Secondly, this might seem counterproductive, but it seems like an appropriate time to raise awareness of Noonlight for more extreme cases of abusive parents. Itâs an app that can alert a list of people of your choosing when you are in danger, or summon the police in an emergency. Works at home, school, work, or anywhere in-between.
Iâll always signal boost this stuff until itâs no longer needed.
thank you guys
also of you need to store things on notes you dont want your parents finding, search calculator diary into the appstore or google play and theres a tonne of secret diary things disguised as calculators which only open if a code is typed in, do even of they do check it they probably womt be able to do anything with it
GUEST MODE GUEST MODE GUEST MODE. this is a good way of getting around monitoring apps. Its very easy to delete all your data quickly too, just click remove guest mode. I donât think this works on apple but it definitely works on most android devices
The best I can add to this is to say keep the safe people in your life informed and stay in regular
