A lil’ post on splitting

It’s important to remember that splitting is going from one extreme to another (black to white, to put it in terms of the diagnostic criteria), rather than just going from neutral/not an extreme to an extreme. 

Splitting is going from intense love of someone to massive hate. Going from intense hatred to love. From love to feeling nothing, and from hate to feeling nothing. From love to disgust/repulsion.

If you’re feeling a non-extreme feeling for someone, and then go to an extreme feeling- esp when a rational event causes it- that wouldn’t be classed as splitting. 

If you’re friends with someone and they do something to hurt you, and that causes you to become very angry at them and hate them- even though because of BPD that reaction is likely more extreme than those without PDs would have- this wouldn’t be classified as splitting unless before that you ae feeling extreme emotion towards them.

Splitting is specifically about the black-and-white thinking caused by BPD- feeling/experiencing things in extremes- but people with BPD can experience the “grey”! We can be neutral towards people, or have non-intense care/dislike of people. 

It’s important to understand that going from a non-extreme emotion to an extreme isn’t splitting- but also important to emphasise that this experience is still valid, and likely unique to those with BPD due to our unique way of experiencing things!

Idk what my gender is, but of you get a crush on me it makes you gay

having bpd is like having the volume of your emotions turned all the way up all the time, and everyone else is just telling you to turn it down but you can’t fucking find the remote

Types Of BPD

According to field expert Theodore Melton, there are four different types of borderline personality disorder:

Someone suffering from BPD may or may not fall into one of these subcategories, and some may even fall into more than one category. Over time, these symptoms can change and manifest differently as well.

The discouraged borderline exhibits clingy and codependent behavior, tending to follow along in a group setting although seeming dejected. They are usually brimming with disappointment and anger under the surface directed at those around them. Discouraged borderlines are more likely to engage in self-mutilation and even suicide. They seek approval but also tend to avoid people, feel unworthy, and can trend toward depression.

An impulsive borderline is often highly charismatic, energetic and engaging. They can be superficial, flirtatious and elusive, seeking thrills and becoming quickly bored. Impulsive borderlines thrive on attention and excitement and often get themselves into trouble after acting first and thinking later. This can lead to substance abuse and self-injurious behavior as they seek approval from those around them and seek to avoid disappointment and abandonment.

Unpredictability, irritability, defiance and impatience signify the petulant borderline. They tend to be stubborn, pessimistic and resentful as well. They teeter between extreme feelings of being unworthy and anger. They can explode with these episodes of anger. Petulant borderlines fear being disappointed by others but also can’t seem to help wanting to rely on them. They tend to be passive-aggressive and can display self-harming behavior to get attention.

The self-destructive borderline engages in self-destructive behavior. At times they may or may not even be aware of its destructive nature. They are bitter and self-loathing. They have no sense of self and are terrified of being abandoned. They may hurt themselves in an effort to feel something. A self-destructive borderline is most likely to engage in risky behavior like reckless driving and degrading sexual acts.

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I swear by all the gods it’s a damn good thing I got out of NC when I did or I’d be burning down everything associated with these fucking clownshoes.

Ah yes, the ever-deviant behaviours of “existing in public” and “needing to pee”.

Fucking hell.

Credit to Beth Wilson.

[Image description: An illustration broken into two vertical panels. The style of the illustration is simple, bright, and cartoony. The first panel reads “How autism is portrayed in the media”.

The first illustration is of a masculine-presenting child and adult standing side by side. The child has light skin and short blond hair, and they are wearing a blue sweater, jeans, and blue shoes. They are wearing headphones connected to an MP3 player, which they are holding in front of them and looking down at, smiling slightly. The adult has short brown hair and light skin, and they are wearing a brown suit jacket and pants, a red bow tie and a red pocket square, and dark shoes. The adult stand awkwardly with their arms hanging by their sides, looking directly at the viewer with a blank expression.

The second panel reads “What autism actually looks like”, and, “We are all different”. The second illustration is of a diverse group of people with a variety of ages, genders, ability, and ethnicities. Some look at the viewer, some look at others in the group, and some look elsewhere. All look happy and/or content.

From left to right there is a young person with long pink hair, wearing a turquoise t-shirt and sitting in a wheelchair; a young person with long red hair wearing a pink shirt and a jean skirt with a sunshine patch; an adult with dark skin and curly dark brown hair, wearing a yellow flow-y shirt and green pants; a child with tan skin and brown hair wearing a pink sweater and jeans, who is holding their hands over their ears; a tall adult with short, spiked brown hair and olive tan skin, wearing a blue and white striped shirt; a young child with light skin and blond hair in two pigtails, wearing a blue dress and looking down at two toys, a unicorn and a dinosaur, in her hands; an elder adult with light skin who is mostly bald head with some grey hair around the ears, wearing round eye-glasses, a dress shirt, a grey tie, and pens in their pocket; and an adult with ruddy tanned skin and short hair dyed blue, wearing a green shirt and brown paints.]

scum. bless jessica williams for constantly suffering these fools.

[Image text: “#autismawareness How would you feel if your parents were raising money to research how to make sure nobody ever has a child like you?”]

Cancerwareness: How would you feel if your parents were raising money to make sure nobody ever has a child like you?

Cysticfibrosisawareness: How would you feel if your parents were raising money to make sure nobody ever has a child like you?

Taysachsawareness: How would you feel if your parents were raising money to make sure nobody ever has a child like you?

Do you realize how ridiculous this sounds?

Maybe your fucking parents care about the troubles and issues you’ve suffered and hope another child doesn’t have to suffer you absolute morons. 

You’re making a common but very dangerous mistake by comparing autism to cancer and chronic illnesses. Unlike cancer, autism is a fundamental part of how our brains are built, which means that autism cannot be separated from who we are as people. Autism isn’t an illness, it’s a neurotype - it’s something we are, not something separate like cancer that is happening to us and which is inherently negative. When you want to remove or cure our autism, you’re saying that you want to cure or remove a central part of who we are, a defining part of our personalities and how we experience the world, and that’s a very dangerous sentiment to have towards your child.

The suffering associated with cancer is caused by cancer. 

The suffering associated with autism is not caused by autism, but by how society treats autistic people.

Stop comparing them.

If you don’t want an autistic person to suffer, just stop making them suffer.

jesus christ, do not compare autism to cancer

jesus christ, do not compare autism to cancer

something that I feel a lot of neurotypicals don’t understand is that mental illness isn’t logical. “there’s no reason to be stressed, why are you anxious?” I don’t know. “why are you sad if you had a good day?” I don’t know. “why are you so irritable today?” I don’t know. “what are you feeling?” I DON’T KNOW.

“Why are you anxious?” because i have anxiety. “No but why are you anxious?” i literally have a mental disorder called anxiety that makes me anxious over nothing. “but what is making you anxious????”

Rinse and repeat

My problem is that I’ll randomly get really motivated to do shit, but it’s within such a small window of time that I must do the thing at that EXACT moment and if I don’t the moment passes and I’ll have to wait like at least whole month for another random burst of motivation to do the thing ya feel