so true man, so true.

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1. Always treat them according to what their true gender is. This should be true in all areas, all the time, whether they are in the room or not. It’s simply human decency.

2. Avoid their triggers. Triggers can be anything from their birthname to the kind of movies you watch.

For example, as a…

holden-laine

if I was a cis person reading this would make me feel b terrified of talking to, hitting on, or befriending a trans person. I also have such a problem with the term ’ girly activities’. I am not insensitive to triggers and have them myself but when I talk about triggers I speak about the specifics around it. using the term ‘girly activities’ to describe activities that are perceived as feminine. don’t get me wrong here, if this is something that is a trigger for you then v that is OK, but in this post you have chosen to speak on my behalf ( as a trans person) so I’m feeling the need to speak for myself here because I personally would not want v any cis person who is interested in communicating with me to be scared of suggesting a movie or activity that is too ‘girly’. my partners 6 yr old son and I have a very close relationship. he understands that some girls have a penis and v some boys are born with vaginas and that has nothing to do with how much of a boy or girl they are. one of our favorite activities is painting our nails together. if my partner read this and explained it to her son, then he never would have thought it was OK to come to me and say ’ hoe-din (holden) can we do our nails, it’s OK for boys to paint nails right?’ I am so happy that my partner and my family are the kind of allies that want to tear down gender norms instead of reinforcing them from the other side

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being trans. being proud

do you want a man like me? the man I am was made by me. we call ourselves ’ self made men’ the words bring to mind the physical stuff. how can we make our bodies appear to be on the outside as ‘manly’ as we feel. but when that happens we need to remember that the making never stops. we make and re make ourselves everyday. our journies never end. privilege and oppression take different forms just as often as we do. recognize where that lives. remember that our masculinity lives beyond the mirror.

#transgender #transpride #ftm #love #queer #genderfuck #transmen

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some of the scratches ended up looking like markings of some kind. later on in the night I woke from a night mare and my back was burning and there were more marks and c some sort of sliver in my back

#paranormal #scratches #ghosts haunting

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what now?

the last few days/nights have been tough. it’s hard to talk about something that is creating real tangible damage but is anything but tangible itself. how do you keep from sounding crazy when there v is c something happening that makes you feel like you’re going crazy? how do you stay on a team when the thing you are standing up against together is doing what it can to tear you apart? what happens when it succeeds and you’re left v alone to try and explain all the sounds the feelings and the physical stuff? it’s hard enough to explain or believe when we are in the same room seeing and feeling the same things. I’ve never had first hand paranormal experiences before. I was never a skeptic but I also never had v anything happen to me directly before. this stuff had been escalating for a couple months now and something that felt light and playful is becoming more sinister. things v are going missing/ being moved. shadows appear over v and v around me. noises. breathing knocking has happened. now it’s night mares, being touched v and pulled on. last night v it was a phone call and scratches v and burns on my back. I have pictures video and evp recordings. I’m not sure what to do from here. im out of sage and asking it to go away barely works if v at all. if anyone is reading v this and you have some advice please help. i keep telling myself c that c it’s my v own c fault because im thinking about it. but I can’t stop and turn it off when it’s v around me all the time.

#paranormal #haunting #ghost #love