The Beautiful Bureaucrat by Helen Phillips - (Publisher Summary: In a windowless building in a remote part of town, the newly employed Josephine inputs an endless string of numbers into something known only as The Database. When one evening her husband Joseph disappears and then returns, offering no explanation as to his whereabouts, her creeping unease shifts decidedly to dread.) 

Witches of America by Alex Mar - (Publisher Summary: Witches of America follows Mar on her immersive five-year trip into the occult, charting modern Paganism from its roots in 1950s England to its current American mecca in the San Francisco Bay Area; from a gathering of more than a thousand witches in the Illinois woods to the New Orleans branch of one of the world's most influential magical societies.) 

Stoned by Aja Raden - (Publisher Summary: What makes a stone a jewel? What makes a jewel priceless? And why do we covet beautiful things? In this brilliant account of how eight jewels shaped the course of history, jeweler and scientist Aja Raden tells an original and often startling story about our unshakeable addiction to beauty and the darker side of human desire.) 

Little Victories by Jason Gay - (Publisher Summary: The Wall Street Journal's popular columnist Jason Gay delivers a hilarious and heartfelt guide to modern living.) 

The Mare by Mary Gaitskill - (Publisher Summary: Velveteen Vargas is eleven years old, a Fresh Air Fund kid from Brooklyn. Her host family is a couple in upstate New York: Ginger, a failed artist and shakily recovered alcoholic, and her academic husband, Paul, who wonder what it will mean to “make a difference” in such a contrived situation. Gaitskill illuminates their shifting relationship with Velvet over several years, as well as Velvet’s  encounter with the horses at the stable down the road—especially with an abused, unruly mare called Fugly Girl.) 

The Givenness of Things by Marilynne Robinson - (Publisher Summary: In The Givenness of Things, the incomparable Marilynne Robinson delivers an impassioned critique of our contemporary society while arguing that reverence must be given to who we are and what we are: creatures of singular interest and value, despite our errors and depredations.)

Hi 2016. Good to see you. 

The Book of Aron by Jim Shepard - (Publisher Summary: Aron, the narrator, is an engaging if peculiar and unhappy young boy whose family is driven by the German onslaught from the Polish countryside into Warsaw and slowly battered by deprivation, disease, and persecution.) 

Blackout: Remembering the Things I Drank to Forget by Sarah Hepola - (Publisher Summary: A memoir of unblinking honesty and poignant, laugh-out-loud humor, Blackout is the story of a woman stumbling into a new kind of adventure--the sober life she never wanted. Shining a light into her blackouts, she discovers the person she buried, as well as the confidence, intimacy, and creativity she once believed came only from a bottle.)

The Blondes by Emily Schultz - (Publisher Summary: Hazel Hayes is a grad student living in New York City. As the novel opens, she learns she is pregnant (from an affair with her married professor) at an apocalyptically bad time: random but deadly attacks on passers-by, all by blonde women, are terrorizing New Yorkers. Soon it becomes clear that the attacks are symptoms of a strange illness that is transforming blondes―whether CEOs, flight attendants, students or accountants―into rabid killers.) 

League of Denial by Mark Fainaru-Wada and Steve Fainaru - (Publisher Summary: League of Denial reveals how the NFL, over a period of nearly two decades, sought to cover up and deny mounting evidence of the connection between football and brain damage.)

The Witches by Stacy Schiff - (Publisher Summary: It began in 1692, over an exceptionally raw Massachusetts winter, when a minister's daughter began to scream and convulse. It ended less than a year later, but not before 19 men and women had been hanged and an elderly man crushed to death.) 

A Head Full of Ghosts by Paul Tremblay - (Publisher Summary: The lives of the Barretts, a normal suburban New England family, are torn apart when fourteen-year-old Marjorie begins to display signs of acute schizophrenia.To her parents’ despair, the doctors are unable to stop Marjorie’s descent into madness. As their stable home devolves into a house of horrors, they reluctantly turn to a local Catholic priest for help. Father Wanderly suggests an exorcism; he believes the vulnerable teenager is the victim of demonic possession.) 

Dragonfish by Vu Tran - (Publisher Summary: Robert, an Oakland cop, still can't let go of Suzy, the enigmatic Vietnamese wife who left him two years ago. Now she's disappeared from her new husband, Sonny, a violent Vietnamese smuggler and gambler who's blackmailing Robert into finding her for him.) 

H is for Hawk by Helen Macdonald - (Publisher Summary: When Helen Macdonald’s father died suddenly on a London street, she was devastated. An experienced falconer—Helen had been captivated by hawks since childhood—she’d never before been tempted to train one of the most vicious predators, the goshawk. But in her grief, she saw that the goshawk’s fierce and feral temperament mirrored her own.) 

Bird by Noy Holland - (Publisher Summary: This is a novel about the persistence of longing in which the twin lives of the title character blur and overlap. Bird puts her child on the bus for school and passes the day with her baby. Interwoven into the passage of the day are phone calls from a promiscuous, unmarried friend, and Bird’s recollection of the feral, reckless love she knew as a young woman. It’s a day infused with fear and longing, an exploration of the ways the past shapes and dislodges the present.) 

The Awakening by Kate Chopin - (Publisher Summary: The Awakening, originally titled A Solitary Soul, is a novel by Kate Chopin, first published in 1899. Set in New Orleans and the Southern Louisiana coast at the end of the nineteenth century, the plot centers on Edna Pontellier and her struggle to reconcile her increasingly unorthodox views on femininity and motherhood with the prevailing social attitudes of the turn-of-the-century American South. It is one of the earliest American novels that focuses on women's issues without condescension.)

(Did you miss my best books of 2015? That post is here.) 

The Improbability of Love by Hannah Rothschild - (Publisher Summary: Wickedly funny, this totally engaging, richly observed first novel by Hannah Rothschild is a tour de force. Its sweeping narrative and cast of wildly colorful characters takes you behind the scenes of a London auction house, into the secret operations of a powerful art dealer, to a flamboyant eighteenth-century-style dinner party, and into a modest living room in Berlin, among many other unexpected settings.) 

Undermajordomo Minor by Patrick deWitt - (Publisher Summary: Lucien (Lucy) Minor is the resident odd duck in the bucolic hamlet of Bury. Friendless and loveless, young and aimless, Lucy is a compulsive liar, a sickly weakling in a town famous for producing brutish giants. Then Lucy accepts employment assisting the Majordomo of the remote, foreboding Castle Von Aux.While tending to his new post as Undermajordomo, Lucy soon discovers the place harbors many dark secrets [...]) 

Men Explain Things to Me by Rebecca Solnit - (Publisher Summary: In her comic, scathing essay, "Men Explain Things to Me," Rebecca Solnit took on what often goes wrong in conversations between men and women. She wrote about men who wrongly assume they know things and wrongly assume women don't, about why this arises, and how this aspect of the gender wars works, airing some of her own hilariously awful encounters.) 

Harriet Wolf’s Seventh Book of Wonders by Julianna Baggott - (Publisher Summary: The reclusive Harriet Wolf, revered author and family matriarch, has a final confession-a love story. Years after her death, as her family comes together one last time, the mystery of Harriet's life hangs in the balance. Does the truth lie in the rumored final book of the series that made Harriet a world-famous writer, or will her final confession be lost forever?) 

You Don’t Have to Like Me by Alida Nugent - (Publisher Summary: Nugent is a proud feminist—and she’s not afraid to say it. From the “scarlet F” thrust upon you if you declare yourself a feminist at a party to how to handle judgmental store clerks when you buy Plan B, You Don’t Have to Like Me skewers a range of cultural issues, and confirms Nugent as a star on the rise.) 

Not on Fire, but Burning by Greg Hrbek - (Publisher Summary: Twenty-year-old Skyler saw the incident out her window: Some sort of metallic object hovering over the Golden Gate Bridge just before it collapsed and a mushroom cloud lifted above the city. Like everyone, she ran, but she couldn't outrun the radiation, with her last thoughts being of her beloved baby brother, Dorian, safe in her distant family home. Flash forward to a post-incident America, where the country has been broken up into territories and Muslims have been herded onto the old Indian reservations in the west.) 

Pretty Girls by Karin Slaughter - (Publisher Summary: More than twenty years ago, Claire and Lydia’s teenaged sister Julia vanished without a trace. The two women have not spoken since, and now their lives could not be more different. Claire is the glamorous trophy wife of an Atlanta millionaire. Lydia, a single mother, dates an ex-con and struggles to make ends meet. But neither has recovered from the horror and heartbreak of their shared loss—a devastating wound that's cruelly ripped open when Claire's husband is killed.) 

Hey you, over there. You with the tired eyes, the breastmilk or formula drying stiff on your shirt, the bag of diapers growing heavy on your shoulder: I see you. I see your toddler screaming in the store as you sweat and scurry, rush to comfort, eyes darting. You’re wondering if we’re annoyed. If we’re judging you. If you give him a candy, will we roll our eyes? (We won’t.) Hey, mom–yes, you. On the plane, standing in the aisle to rock your wailing infant until you absolutely had to sit down, apologizing to every soul you could, “I’m sorry, I’m sorry”–I see you too.

I want to hug you. It’s weird, so I don’t, but I want to. I want to ask if I can help, even though I know you’ll say no, because there were so many times I fantasized about someone offering the same to me and when it happened, I politely declined, feeling the burden should be mine alone to bear. 

I want to talk to you about how we all understand. We get it. We, mothers, all of us: no matter our background, our circumstances, the number of children we have. We have all known the baby that won’t stop crying, though we’ve tried everything, everything, everything. And we have all sat and wondered, “Who am I now? Do I even exist anymore?”

I won’t lie: there is the rare creature, the one person who will say a terrible thing to you about your mothering, the awful specter of a human being who floats into your personal space and makes you question your parental worthiness on an almost infinite scale. There are those people, I know, and I’m sorry. Don’t pay attention to them. There are more of us that understand. I promise. Just look around.

In the moments you feel most vulnerable, take a moment to breathe and know that you are vulnerable with us too. You are not alone, though the state of motherhood can sometimes feel like the loneliest of places. You are not as isolated as you seem, though occasionally you may wonder if anyone still exists outside the miniature human you have in your arms.

And for the pregnant women–the mothers who are not yet mothers–lest you think you have been excluded, know that we see you too. You are happy, ecstatic, fulfilled. You may also be frightened, anxious, ambivalent. These things are okay. We felt them too, and we still feel them, but not in the anticipatory way that you do. We feel them on a bigger scale now, a roller coaster of boundless love and overwhelming fear. Embrace all the feelings you have: they are yours, and it’s okay to feel them now, and it’s okay to feel them later too.

And in that later time, if your feelings become suffocating, if the scary ones threaten to overtake all the good, if the clouds grow so dark you cannot possibly see the sun, you don’t think it’s even there anymore: there is help for you. There is good help. Ask for it. Don’t be ashamed to speak up, even softly. If you extend a hand, there will be someone to take it. 

Everyone says it gets better. They’re lying. It doesn’t get better. It gets different. Sometimes now, I think about Isobel’s infancy, and I yearn mightily for the warm weight of a sleeping child upon my chest, the concept of time cast aside, the hours promising nothing but abject fascination with the sight of a human that did not exist but is here, somehow, and that belongs to me, body and soul. How can that get better? How can that feeling be improved upon? It can’t, I’m sorry. But, later, when your child is a little older, they will come to you and place their small hand in yours, whisper, “I love you,” and rest their head alongside yours. How can that get better? It does not, I’m sorry. And later, your child will sit in the backseat of the car and talk to you incessantly, telling you about the world through their extraordinary eyes, and you will see a small part of yourself, a part you can’t remember, coming back to life. The childlike wonder that you couldn’t access if you tried will come to you, unbidden, and you will smile at your child and they will smile back and you’ll think, oh. Oh. You are my child and you are also this independent person, coming into your own, and one day, you will realize this. And that day will be beautiful and terrible. But not better. Just different.

I’m running out of stories to tell here. I don’t think I’ll ever run out of stories, whether it be my standard navel-gazing introspection, or the mundane and the complex and wonderful things about being a parent and a person and trying to be both things at once.

But I’m running out of stories for this space, for this little spot, just for now. This may not always be the case. I’ll probably find something to talk about, sometime, that’s not a suggestion about what shoes to wear or sales to look at. But lately, I’ve pulled back, just a bit. 

Writing is cathartic for me. I love it and always have. And, part of the reason I enjoy this space is because I can write amongst so many of you. Sometimes shouting in an empty room feels just right. Sometimes shouting in a crowded space feels better. Mostly, right now, I like the empty room.

There are so many things I want to write about: I want to tell you about Isobel, about her getting so much bigger, about the way parenting has changed for me. I want to tell you about me, about how depression has truly crippled me at times this year, and offer you a hand if you’ve felt the same. I want to write about all those things, in detail, spread them all out here, but this is all I can do right now.

Blogging about clothes is so stupid, right? The title “lifestyle blogger” is terrible. Like a life is something you can construct out of gold accents and Anthropologie sale racks. That’s not to say there isn’t value in self-care or in indulging occasionally, because there is. I had a massage right before Thanksgiving and it was so phenomonal, so completely blissful, that I almost forgot I was a human on this earth for 90 minutes. (Yes, I sprang for 90 minutes. I encourage you to do the same.) My mind was quiet, my body was still, and it was an indulgence and that’s okay. I needed it. (“Oh my god, your shoulders.” I know, lady. I KNOW. They’re well up around my ears most of the time.)

But, anyway: this space. It might feel empty, or even bland for a while. Maybe it has already–if so, I’m sorry. (I hope you like books. -___-) At some point, I want to be here again in earnest, talking occasionally about things that matter to me that are not just oversized sweaters. (I love oversized sweaters.) Still, I’m not sure how to do that yet. I recently stumbled on a couple old posts–things I wrote about being pregnant, being scared, having a new baby. Those were real feelings, and I enjoyed writing about them, hearing from you (many of you who are my friends) about you feeling the same. That’s really lovely when that can happen.

For now, it’s almost the holidays, and then–praise! The new year. 2016, finally. I’m excited for Iz to turn 4. My sister is coming back from Ecuador soon for a brief stay. Oh, and it’s 70 degrees today, December 14. I am wearing an oversized sweater. This is me, saying hi. Shouting in the crowded room.

My Best Books of 2015

Hi friends. 2015 was a good reading year. These are my favorites: 

Fiction:

Nonfiction:

There was very little middle ground with fiction this year: I mostly either loved what I read or found it just okay. These four, though--wow. They’re so different, but they’re all emotional, readable, and unforgettable. 

Preparation for the Next Life is an intense read, not unlike A Little Life. Both these books tore me apart. I felt the characters and their struggles in an emotionally-gutted, visceral way. And the connection I had to these stories went deep: I thought about both books for weeks after I’d finished them. They’re difficult reads in that way, and also because both are rather lengthy (A Little Life puts George R.R. Martin to shame). Still, if you can make the time, please put these on your list. 

Kitchens of the Great Midwest and Bull Mountain are very different than the other two. They’re designed to entertain and they do--they really do. The former is just a beautiful, sweet story, constructed so cleverly that you can’t help but smile by the end. Bull Mountain, on the other hand, is just packed with suspense and violence. Of everything I read this year, this book captured and held my attention in the most obnoxious--but wonderful--way. I don’t think I let go of this until I finished it. (Cooking while reading is not advisable.) Anyway, the story is heart-pounding and the twists are fantastic and hard to see coming. Really amazing story-telling. 

I read a lot of fantastic, informative nonfiction this year too, but Missoula and Chasing the Scream easily topped the last. Missoula is hard to read, but it’s important to, if you can. I was skeptical of a man handling this topic at first, though I’ve always loved Krakauer’s books. I needn’t have worried: Missoula puts a grim spotlight on our country’s rape culture and its influence on the criminal justice system. Krakauer is careful with the victims he follows, and allows them to tell their stories honestly and compassionately. We feel for them, for ourselves, for our friends, daughters, and acquaintances. Chasing the Scream is a bit of a whistle-blowing operation in the same way Missoula is. Neither the drug wars or rape culture are new topics per se, but both books come at the issues in a way that allows us to internalize and bring more attention to them. Chasing the Scream, about the murky origins of America’s drug laws, and the devastating trickle-down effect they’ve had since their start, is a book of horrors and questions. Some chapters, the ones in drug-laden Mexican cities particularly, are violent beyond imagining. The genius of this book is how effortlessly Hari takes one of the most complex legal and cultural issues of our time and breaks it down into logical, comprehensible chapters. Ultimately, he offers a few possible solutions, while acknowledging the futility and frustration that exists even trying to posit them to the reader. Really amazing book. 

How to Cook a Moose is very different: part culinary memoir, part personal journal. Christensen writes beautifully about her life, her loves, and the food that she eats along the way. It’s not groundbreaking territory, but she has a lovely way with words that makes this really enjoyable. I feel similarly about Skyfaring. It’s not a flight manual, but more of a longform poem about the mystery and magic of humans taking flight. It’s calming to read, almost meditative, and the imagery that he evokes--talking about the topography of the earth below his cockpit window, for example--is fantastic. 

Well! That sums up my favorites. I hope you read and enjoyed some of the same ones this year. 

In addition to these, I read many more that I loved, a few that I really liked, and a good number that I read and would not recommend. Find those after the cut. If you’d like to see my lists from previous years, click here: 2014, 2013, 2012, 2011. To read my full reviews, you can browse back here. 

Sunday night PSA: these Yosi Samra flats (you already know I love them, I won’t rehash why) are 20% off on Bare Necessities and you can get an additional 25% off on top of that using code GET25. That brings the grand total to $46-ish from $77. They are worth it. (I got the black pair for a few upcoming trips.) 

In the Unlikely Event by Judy Blume - (Publisher Summary: In 1987, Miri Ammerman returns to her hometown of Elizabeth, New Jersey, to attend a commemoration of the worst year of her life. Thirty-five years earlier, when Miri was fifteen, and in love for the first time, a succession of airplanes fell from the sky, leaving a community reeling.) 

The Revenant by Michael Punke - (Publisher Summary: The year is 1823, and the trappers of the Rocky Mountain Fur Company live a brutal frontier life. Hugh Glass is among the Company’s finest men, an experienced frontiersman and an expert tracker. But when a scouting mission puts him face-to-face with a grizzly bear, he is viciously mauled and not expected to survive. Two Company men are dispatched to stay behind and tend to Glass before he dies. When the men abandon him instead, Glass is driven to survive by one desire: revenge.) 

Skyfaring: A Journey with a Pilot by Mark Vanhoenacker - (Publisher Summary: A poetic and nuanced exploration of the human experience of flight that reminds us of the full imaginative weight of our most ordinary journeys—and reawakens our capacity to be amazed.)  

Beast: Blood, Struggle, and Dreams at the Heart of Mixed Martial Arts by Doug Merlino - (Publisher Summary: The first book to bring readers deep inside a top mixed martial arts gym, Beast shows exactly what it takes to reach the top of this exacting sport. Doug Merlino spent two years at Florida’s American Top Team, living, eating, and training alongside some of the world’s best fighters, and traveled with them to fights around the world.) 

Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. - (Publisher Summary: Researchers have spent the last decade trying to develop a “pink pill” for women to function like Viagra does for men. So where is it? Well, for reasons this book makes crystal clear, that pill will never be the answer—but as a result of the research that’s gone into it, scientists in the last few years have learned more about how women’s sexuality works than we ever thought possible, and Come as You Are explains it all.) 

The First Bad Man by Miranda July - (Publisher Summary: Miranda July tells the story of Cheryl, a vulnerable, uptight woman in her early forties who lives alone, with a perpetual lump in her throat, unable to cry. Cheryl is haunted by a baby boy she met when she was six; she also believes she has a profound connection with Phillip, a philandering board member at Open Palm, the women’s self-defense studio where she has worked for twenty years. When Cheryl’s bosses ask if their twenty-one-year-old daughter Clee can move into her house for a little while, Cheryl’s eccentrically ordered world explodes.) 

Spinster by Kate Bolick - (Publisher Summary: “Whom to marry, and when will it happen—these two questions define every woman’s existence.” So begins Spinster, a revelatory and slyly erudite look at the pleasures and possibilities of remaining single. Using her own experiences as a starting point, journalist and cultural critic Kate Bolick invites us into her carefully considered, passionately lived life, weaving together the past and present. […])

For Her Gift Guide

This is my last gift guide for 2015 and I decided to do something a little different this time. 

For the past couple of years, I posted a big round-up of things you might like to add to your own wish list, but it can get a little cluttered and crazy. Instead, I listed a few categories below and my own, completely biased recommendations. Happy Monday! 

I’ve yet to meet someone who doesn’t like (love) Cuyana and that’s why it makes a perfect gift for yourself or someone you care about. The Classic Leather Tote ($150, available in 14 colors) is the perfect everyday bag: minimal design, high-quality leather, and it’s beautiful to hold and look at. For someone who travels frequently or just can’t make a small wallet work, the oversized Leather Travel Wallet ($185) is a luxurious, thoughtful gift. Last--something I’m thinking of buying for myself--is the Oversized Carryall Tote ($265). It’s available in 3 colors, but black is most practical for the frequent traveler. I own a few Cuyana tees too and love the super-soft cotton. The long-sleeved tee is just $55 and is perfect in your true size for a sleek (but not tight) fit, or go up a size for a slouchier look. 

Everlane has been touch and go for me this year, but their $22 Drop Shoulder Tee (11 colors) is a great basic t-shirt. If you’re looking for a more decadent gift, their affordably priced cashmere (Turtleneck, $170 or Crew, $125) would become a wardrobe staple. The Chunky Wool Sweater, $110, is very pretty too. 

It’s hard to buy apparel if you’re pregnant, but Hatch’s clothes are designed to be worn post-pregnancy too. The 100% cashmere Nadine sweater (left, $288) is really amazing. The drop-shoulder Longsleeve tee in stripe ($98, middle) would be perfect to wear with leggings post-baby too. Last, the wool-blend Sophie turtleneck ($268) could be worn with maternity trousers and a blazer to work, or with leggings and slippers on the weekend. 

It was hard to narrow down beauty recommendations to just four things. I love these for their moisturizing effects--perfect for the dry, cold winter air that’s starting to settle in. Josie Maran’s Argan Infinity Cream Intensive Creamy Oil ($28) is a fun, multi-tasking product. You can use it as a balm on dry areas: cuticles, elbows, hands, but it can also be worn as a highlighter on cheekbones, on eyebrows to tame them a bit, or mixed with powder blush to create moisturizing, creamy color for cheeks and lips. I love this stuff. If you’re going all out, might as well grab Chanel’s Hydra Beauty Serum ($135). The bottle lasts forever, with a tiny dab covering your whole face, providing instant hydration that looks glowy and pretty. Bobbi Brown lip balm ($20) smells so good and does not contain coconut oil (!!). I hate coconut oil balms and it’s rare to find one now without it. Last, pick up First Aid Beauty’s Ultra Repair Cream ($12-$30) if you struggle keeping your face or body moisturized in the winter. It helps Iz’s eczema and calms my keratosis pilaris.  

My favorite gift! Even if you don’t plan to work out in them, Zella’s Live-In leggings ($52, left) are worth the purchase. (And if I’m wrong, and you hate them, they’re from Nordstrom--free returns!) I’m guessing you’ll probably like them, though, and that’s because they’re thick and compressive without being overly so and last through dozens and dozens and dozens of washings. (I haven’t had to buy a new pair in three years. I have several different styles and they still look like new.) If you wear a lot of boots with your leggings in the winter, invest in a pair of stirrup leggings (I like the Fabletics Houston Stirrup Leggings, $45, right). They’re available in petite and tall sizes, and are especially good for wearing with shorter boots/booties--no cold ankles this winter. For a more luxurious take, AllSaints’ Cashmere Leggings ($268) look wonderful. 

I have a few friends and family members who hate giving gift cards (IT’S NOT A REAL GIFT, they whine). Gift cards are so good, though. No one hates getting a gift card. No one has ever received a gift card and said, nope, go pick something out for me instead. So, anyway, here are three that I love: Drybar ($10+) first. Check and make sure your recipient has one near them--hey, thanks, umm the closest one is 10 hours away, etc--but if they do, they’ll love this gift. Someone else doing your hair is the best. Next, Lululemon ($10+). It’s a good gift even for someone that doesn’t work out--they have amazing bags, good winter weather accessories, and comfy sweaters. J.Crew ($25+) is another great gift card option. 

There are lots of places you could look for affordable, comfortable sweaters right now, but may I gently steer you to LOFT? I’ve made out like a bandit there the past two months and their new arrivals are only getting better and better. Soft fabrics, flattering cuts, beautiful colors, CONSTANT PROMOTIONS. The Hi-Side Split Sweater ($60, middle) is my favorite slug sweater right now. The Fauxmere Sweater ($60, left) would be pretty with jeans and ankle boots. I love the dark burgundy color of the Fireside Sweater ($60, right). All these are 50% off at checkout right now, by the way. 

For pricier, but minimal/pretty jewelry pieces, Vrai & Oro has a great selection. Their Diamond Stacker Ring ($140, left) is very nice. I love Gorjana for inexpensive, fun jewelry, like this Ear Climber ($60). Also definitely take a look at Edor on Etsy. This dainty 14K solid gold ring (second from right) is just $42. Last, I like Madewell’s jewelry for stocking stuffers or small gifts, like this Bangle Bracelet ($25, right). 

I’m not too precious about sleepwear, so I usually look to Target’s Gilligan and O’Malley line for soft, comfortable things, like this Sleep Shirt ($20) or this Pajama Set ($25). Aerie always makes the most cozy stuff. Their Sleep Shorts ($25) are wonderful. This Striped Robe ($40) looks awesome. Both Aerie and Target are BOGO 50% off today. 

PAPER THINGS! I love paper gifts. The Day Designer planner is expensive ($59) and worth it if you religiously use a paper planner or to-do list. If you don’t want something quite as pricey, check out the $29 Simple Seize the Day Planner. If you prefer a less structured planner, it’s a good option. Decomposition Notebooks ($10 each) are fun. Last, pencil sets are really making the rounds this year, and I like this Dot & Bo version for just $11. 

As I’m traveling more and more frequently, I’m starting to make a little wish list of things I’d like to purchase. First on the list is AWAY’s carry-on luggage ($225). The downside is that it doesn’t ship until February 2016, but it looks well worth the wait. For travel bags, I’m going back and forth between a Cuyana bag, this Dagne Dover 15-inch bag ($265, left), and the Lo & Sons O.G. bag ($221.25, right). 

My favorite cookbooks right now: My Kitchen Year: 136 Recipes that Saved My Life by Ruth Reichl ($24), Sunday Suppers by Karen Mordechai ($25), and The Forest Feast: Simple Vegetarian Recipes by Erin Gleeson ($21). They’re all so good (follow Ruth Reichl on Twitter right now!), but if I had to choose a favorite, I’d probably pick The Forest Feast. The photography is amazing and the recipes are so simple and delicious. Most have less than 5 ingredients and a handful of steps. It’s just easy, healthy food. 

For the book lover in your life, From the Page’s soy candles ($11) are cheeky and fun. I want the Mother of Dragons one. If you don’t already have one, the Kindle Paperwhite ($120) is the perfect e-reader. I have nothing bad to say about it except that mine bricked three years in. Last, any bookworm/wine lover should appreciate Wine Folly: The Essential Guide to Wine by Madeline Puckette  and Justin Hammack ($15). 

See the 2014 For Her and Slug guides. 

See the 2015 Home guide here, Kids guide here, Beauty guide here, For Him guide here, and the Activewear guide here. 

See all previous gift guides here.

[twinkle light clip art by Kelly Jane Creative]

Good news! Many of these items are on sale today so grab them while they’re still discounted. :) Hope you had a great Thanksgiving. 

See the 2014 Activewear guide here.

See the 2015 Home guide here, Kids guide here, Beauty guide here, and the For Him guide here.

See all previous gift guides here.

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Forensics: What Bugs, Burns, Prints, DNA and More Tell Us About Crime by Val McDermid - (Publisher Summary: In the course of researching her bestselling novels McDermid has become familiar with every branch of forensics, and now she uncovers the history of this science, real-world murders and the people who must solve them.) 

Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert - (Publisher Summary: Readers of all ages and walks of life have drawn inspiration and empowerment from Elizabeth Gilbert’s books for years. Now this beloved author digs deep into her own generative process to share her wisdom and unique perspective about creativity.) 

Before, During, After by Richard Bausch - (Publisher Summary: Although they are separated in age by almost two decades, when Natasha, a young artist, meets Michael Faulk, a priest struggling with his faith, the stars seem to align. But shortly before their wedding day, as the terrorist attacks of 9/11 shake the country, cracks in their relationship begin to emerge.) 

The Admissions by Meg Mitchell Moore - (Publisher Summary: The Hawthorne family has it all. Great jobs, a beautiful house in one of the most affluent areas of northern California, and three charming kids with perfectly straight teeth. And then comes their eldest daughter's senior year of high school.) 

Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates - (Publisher Summary: In a profound work that pivots from the biggest questions about American history and ideals to the most intimate concerns of a father for his son, Ta-Nehisi Coates offers a powerful new framework for understanding our nation’s history and current crisis.) 

The Unspeakable by Meghan Daum - (Publisher Summary: Where her previous collection explores what it is to be a struggling twenty-something urban dweller with an overdrawn bank account and oversized ambition, The Unspeakable contends with parental death, the decision not to have children, and more-a new set of challenges tackled by a writer at her best, investigated in the same uncompromising voice that made Daum one of the most engaging thinkers writing today.) 

Furiously Happy by Jenny Lawson - (Publisher Summary: In Furiously Happy, #1 New York Times bestselling author Jenny Lawson explores her lifelong battle with mental illness. A hysterical, ridiculous book about crippling depression and anxiety? That sounds like a terrible idea.) 

Cleopatra’s Shadows by Emily Holleman - (Publisher Summary: Before Caesar and the carpet, before Antony and Actium, before Octavian and the asp, there was Arsinoe. Abandoned by her beloved Cleopatra and an indifferent father, young Arsinoe must fight for her survival in the bloodthirsty royal court when her half-sister Berenice seizes Egypt's throne.) 

Unfinished Business: Women, Men, Work, Family by Anne-Marie Slaughter - (Publisher Summary: Anne-Marie Slaughter returns with her vision for what true equality between men and women really means, and how we can get there. She uncovers the missing piece of the puzzle, presenting a new focus that can reunite the women’s movement and provide a common banner under which both men and women can advance and thrive.) 

Happy Thanksgiving Eve! I wanted to get this one posted before this Friday/next Monday since some of the items will probably go on sale. Safe travels. 

See the 2014 For Him guide here.

See the 2015 Home guide here, Kids guide here, and Beauty guide here. 

See all previous gift guides here.

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Happy Monday! I really love doing this gift guide each year--beauty or skincare gifts are perfect for your mother, sister, friends. (Or yourself.) 

See the 2014 Beauty guide here.

See the 2015 Home guide here and the 2015 Kids guide here.

See all previous gift guides here.

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As you can see, I’m just a *little* behind so these will be short and sweet:

Fates and Furies by Lauren Groff - (Publisher Summary: Every story has two sides. Every relationship has two perspectives. And sometimes, it turns out, the key to a great marriage is not its truths but its secrets. At the core of this rich, expansive, layered novel, Lauren Groff presents the story of one such marriage over the course of twenty-four years.) 

The Bazaar of Bad Dreams by Stephen King - (Publisher Summary: Stephen King delivers a generous collection of stories, several of them brand-new, featuring revelatory autobiographical comments on when, why, and how he came to write (or rewrite) each story.) 

Ghettoside by Jill Leovy - (Publisher Summary: On a warm spring evening in South Los Angeles, a young man is shot and killed on a sidewalk minutes away from his home, one of the thousands of black Americans murdered that year. His assailant runs down the street, jumps into an SUV, and vanishes, hoping to join the scores of killers in American cities who are never arrested for their crimes. But as soon as the case is assigned to Detective John Skaggs, the odds shift.) 

Red Notice by Bill Browder - (Publisher Summary: This is a story about an accidental activist. Bill Browder started out his adult life as the Wall Street maverick whose instincts led him to Russia just after the breakup of the Soviet Union, where he made his fortune. Along the way he exposed corruption, and when he did, he barely escaped with his life. His Russian lawyer wasn’t so lucky: he ended up in jail, where he was tortured to death.) 

Our Souls at Night by Kent Haruf - (Publisher Summary: A spare yet eloquent, bittersweet yet inspiring story of a man and a woman who, in advanced age, come together to wrestle with the events of their lives and their hopes for the imminent future.) 

The World Between Two Covers by Ann Morgan - (Publisher Summary: A beguiling exploration of the joys of reading across boundaries, inspired by the author’s year-long journey through a book from every country.) 

The Green Road by Anne Enright - (Publisher Summary: From internationally acclaimed author Anne Enright comes a shattering novel set in a small town on Ireland's Atlantic coast. The Green Road is a tale of family and fracture, compassion and selfishness―a book about the gaps in the human heart and how we strive to fill them.) 

Recipes for a Beautiful Life by Rebecca Barry - (Publisher Summary: Writing with a delicate balance of humor and truth, critically acclaimed author Rebecca Barry reflects on motherhood, work, and marriage in her new memoir about trying to build a creative life.) 

Pirate Hunters by Robert Kurson - (Publisher Summary: Finding and identifying a pirate ship is the hardest thing to do under the sea. But two men—John Chatterton and John Mattera—are willing to risk everything to find the Golden Fleece, the ship of the infamous pirate Joseph Bannister.) 

Foreign Faction by James Kolar - (Publisher Summary: A former lead investigator in the JonBenet Ramsey homicide case breaks six years of silence. Foreign Faction blows the cover off the lone-intruder / sexual predator theory and reveals startling new evidence that heretofore has only been seen by a select few.) 

What are you reading these days? 

This one is getting harder to put together because each passing year means I’m that much fuzzier on what kids younger than my own would like. (I forget everything about babies. A friend asked me the other day when babies start walking and I had to google it.) Anyway, if this guide skews to 3 and 4 year olds, that’s my own life-bubble bias showing...but I hope you still find something that works for the kid(s) in your life. :) 

A lot of the items in my 2014 Kids Guide are still available so check it out for additional ideas. 

See the 2015 Home guide here. 

See all previous gift guides here. 

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Gift guide time! I always have fun putting these together and I hope you enjoy them too. See all the previous gift guides here. If you have a specific question, feel free to reach out here. 

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