Ye olde English screaming

Fascinating!

let's not forget romeo saying "i swear by the moon that i love you!!!!!" and juliet being like "can you be normal about this"

there is no heterosexual explanation for this.

What happens!!?? I want this romance…. so cute

Ummm im here for vintage lesbians

i’m sure someone probably commented on this post already but this is calamity jane, they eventually move into a tiny cabin together and sing a song about how “a woman’s touch” can fix anything. i watched this movie daily when i was about 7 and now i’m a dyke

my butch lesbian professor who is well into her sixties had told me that this was her first real exposure to the concept that a woman could not only be attracted to other women, but be butch while doing it. she said this movie propelled her into her sexuality with a sense of pride and remains a cornerstone of her coming-out journey. in short, representation matters and always has. 

Reblogging for Calamity Jane, actual lesbian disaster.

since the cowboy and the samurai were both dying out in the 1800s i want an action adventure historically wildly inaccurate comic about the last cowboy and the last samurai teaming up BUT one of them is gay and the other doesn’t understand what being gay is and there are multiple comedic mishaps resulting from this

after lots of frantic googling of “were samurais gay” “were cowboys gay” “how did gay samurais work” “did gay cowboys love each other” ad nauseam i have decided that it’s actually funnier if both the cowboy AND the samurai are gay but not for each other and also they both have their very culturally specific understandings of gay social politics so both of them still are equally like “dude why are you like this” to each other

samurai, trying to comfort the cowboy who just got dumped over pony express: when my lover left me for another man, i killed both him and his new lover, and proved to all in shudo that it is what happens when you leave me for another, and i felt much lighter. would doing that also help you?

cowboy, absolutely reeking of the flask, who stopped howling purely out of confusion to try and figure out if the samurai was being serious: dude what the fuck is wrong with you

the depictions of homosexual identity at the time are painstakingly accurate and very clearly heavily researched, and this is purposefully in direct contrast to how absolutely absurd and crazy the entire rest of the premise of the comic is

another absolute banger

Something that I first applied to working with children, and have applied in a limited form to working with adults: you don't need to tell someone when they read your instructions wrong. Sometimes it's enough to point out what they did right and then whatever they didn't do? You ask them to do it in more precise words, and you make it sound like it's a new request. Remarkable how fast things get done this way.

This is also a habit I built up from emergency response training. If I say "I need you to bring me a first aid kit and an accident report" and you bring me just a first aid kit, it's so much more efficient to say "thanks now can you bring me an accident report" than "I asked you to bring an accident report why didn't you bring me one".

Once you've internalized "a person bleeding out is one of the worst times to start an argument" you start to wonder what other tasks could get accomplished without arguing

born with a hatred of mondays and a hunger for lasagna

Tags by @tzikeh .

So true.

And things you could fix yourself to make them last even longer.

Clothes that you could literally wear for decades (I have a wearable 110 year old dress and an 80 year old coat), appliances you could replace parts on (I only got rid of my 50s stove because the oven was y big enough and someone else wanted to fix it), cars you could tune in your yard that would run like a dream and rust out before the engine failed....

An economy where one job could sustain a family and allow for some dreaming along the way.

And yes, we could own things. Not lease or rent or subscribe.

Oh, and all the good shows were on broadcast because that's all their was and once you had a TV, it was free to watch.

So... basically, it's all a scam and life via the pay to play model is shit and not normal.

I’d divorce him too lmao

It’s never JUST about the tomatoes.

Basically!

Throughout the day, partners would make requests for connection, what Gottman calls “bids.” For example, say that the husband is a bird enthusiast and notices a goldfinch fly across the yard. He might say to his wife, “Look at that beautiful bird outside!” He’s not just commenting on the bird here: He’s requesting a response from his wife—a sign of interest or support—hoping they’ll connect, however momentarily, over the bird.

The wife now has a choice. She can respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away” from her husband, as Gottman puts it. Though the bird-bid might seem minor and silly, it can actually reveal a lot about the health of the relationship. The husband thought the bird was important enough to bring it up in conversation and the question is whether his wife recognizes and respects that.

These bidding interactions had profound effects on marital well-being. Couples who had divorced after a six-year follow-up had “turn-toward bids” 33 percent of the time. Only three in 10 of their bids for emotional connection were met with intimacy. The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” 87 percent of the time. Nine times out of 10, they were meeting their partner’s emotional needs.

Damn, this made me think of all the “shouting into the void” social media posts everyone makes. Just bids for connection. From ANYONE.

I think that is ABSOLUTELY what a lot of that is. Our culture is very isolated (even BEFORE covid!), and we’re desperate to connect with others. I read an article one time that suggested that childcare workers stop saying that a child is “Just wants attention” and start saying that the child is “looking for connection.” We’re starved for it even from childhood.

When they are speaking about a passion, respond to children as if you would a tenured professor at a prestigious university, and to an adult as if you would a child free of the burdens of adulthood. 

Children are desperate to teach the wonders of the world that they know, that they have just learned, and share it with anyone interested.  Adults pour passion they didn’t know they had into voluntary obligations, and crave a simple acknowledgment of that passion as being worthy and valid. 

“Dear third grader, tell me exactly why you chose <x> as you third favorite carnivorous dinosaur instead of second, as specifically as possible.”

“Hey neighbor, your vegetable garden is absolutely gorgeous this year…and no I’m not just saying that because the tomatoes you gave me last year were absolute perfection.”

This is why I find it odd when people disparage/make fun of people for live streaming mundane things like them chilling and eating and going “who would watch that?” 

Someone also chilling and eating and just looking for a brief connection to another human being? Even if it’s on the other side of the screen? Even if they’re not necessarily even speaking to each other. 

It’s knowing that at this moment in time you know what another human is doing across a vast distance and for a moment the world doesn’t feel so large and empty.

If someone tells you about something they think is cool, the odds are that they hope you’ll think so too.

If they generally act obnoxious and like all they ever want is an audience, ignore them. But if not… consider that they know what they like but may not know what you like, and that if you get to know them, they might just spam you with stuff YOU like eventually.

And you might even find it fun to spam them with the weird thing once YOU get to know THEM.

Funny how that works.

Also, if someone’s bids for connection are annoying or noxious to you, DO something about it that’s not perpetual rejection. Either consider whether you’re actually compatible, or look into getting enough space from them if that’s what you need, or communicate about what’s so bothersome about how they’re bidding.

Sometimes people are annoying, and also rejecting a bid for connection can feel like a secure or enjoyable exercise of power. Sometimes, too, people really don’t understand that you may not like something, and need to be told.

Sometimes what the relationship needs is someone saying “I’m really not up for a conversation when I just came in the door from work,” or “please don’t interrupt me when I’m reading,” or “I’m sorry, but I don’t find [x] anywhere near as fascinating as you do, and while I’ll spend a minute listening to you talk about it with enthusiasm, please don’t take that as me wanting to hear every last detail,” and maybe steering them towards alternatives before you become that person who bitches to their friends about how annoying their significant other is.

Or maybe you find out that they’re deliberately interrupting you while you’re reading because why should your time be for YOU when it could be for THEM, and you get the fuck out and find someone who cares about you enough to make their connection bids pleasant for you.

Holy fuck I want banjo frog so badly omg

I have a banjo frog watch

okay you can’t just post that without a picture c’mon :0

Ask and ye shall receive I guess

OH FUCK YEA DUDE

that’s rad as heck :D

I'm just over here subtly hinting to my girlfriend like "hey isn't this video funny 😏😏😉😏... 😉😉😉 😉😉 😉 😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😉 😏😉"

BANJO FROG! BANJO FROOOOOOOG!

i would kill for banjo frog

Oversized army green cowl dress with "faith" written in a cross shape, for the life of me I cant figure out the event you'd wear this to

Isn’t this the potion Snow White’s stepmom used to turn herself into a witch 

I love how pleased with this whole process he looks.

^^^😊

need someone to look at me the way this man looks at his science experiment

Greatest science teacher ever = worst bartender ever

he’s playing he’s having fun!!!!!!

Ladies love me for my whimsical swagger and ability to figure out sales tax without using my phone

This guy gets it

I apologize for calling Macklemore cringe