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DyeAnne

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I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?

HI darling,

I’ve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:

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Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:

Reasons to move out of home

You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:

  • wishing to live independently
  • location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university
  • conflict with your parents
  • being asked to leave by your parents.

Issues to consider when moving out of home

It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t anticipate, such as:

  • Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.
  • Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise, especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything. Debt may become an issue.
  • Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time, sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.

Your parents may be worried

Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different things. For example:

  • They may worry that you are not ready.
  • They may be sad because they will miss you.
  • They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.
  • They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.

Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly. Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your plans and support your decision.

Tips for a successful move

Tips include:

  • Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?
  • Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include ‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond (usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.
  • Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too – getting along is a two-way street.
  • Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.
  • Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking). Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.
  • Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.

If your family home does not provide support

Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to cope.

If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden transition to independence.

If you need support, help is available from a range of community and government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents, call one of the associations below for information, advice and assistance.

Where to get help

  • Your doctor
  • Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 55 1800
  • Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44
  • Home Ground Services Tel. 1800 048 325
  • Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277
  • Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50
  • Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. (03) 9416 2577

Things to remember

  • Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.
  • Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses, such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.
  • Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations. 

Keep me updated? xx

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bridgyrose

reblogging for those that follow me that may be starting to move out

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Early concept art of the four Lords (supposedly five), the Duke, and their families. Alcina Dimitrescu, Donna Beneviento, Salvatore Moreau, and Karl Heisenberg in Resident Evil Village (2021).

Salvatore Moreau’s hunched back was supposed to be a girl whom he had feelings for.

The Benevientos were supposed to be a ghost family, and the Duke was supposed to be the fifth Lord.

The two pictures on the bottom are Karl Heisenberg’s family (his mother, father, and brothers).

The fifth picture was the leader of the village’s religion. He might be a priest. They came up with this idea before Mother Miranda. His transformation was like Alcina’s, but they scrapped the idea, and used it on Alcina instead.

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i cant get over the fact that Chackett was like sure me and most of my family are werewolves but that’s not going to stop me from hosting a summer camp that spans the length of multiple full moons in known werewolf territory

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Vampires when they sip on your blood and catch extra strength Tylenol, at least two psychiatric meds, two cups of coffee, weed, and microplastics 

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do u ever get so jealous of other people who have their lives together and actually do stuff on the weekends and see their friends and have people who love them and talk to them everyday and actually have functioning relationships and u just look at the mess that is ur life and wonder why it’s so fucking hard for u to have all that like its a fantasy for you because it just seems so unattainable

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Okay no joke, shit that turned my life around: From a clinically depressed, neuroatypical shut-in who used to get panic attacks on my way to the grocery store:

1. Through little baby steps, build up your self-confidence. Take note of your successes, and try not to minimize them. Maybe even keep a list on your phone of tiny victories. Smalltalk with a stranger? Success! Try a new food? Success! Washed a plate even though it was really really hard and you really couldn’t make yourself do it? Success! If it was hard for you and you did it anyway, you’re killing it!

2. Go somewhere regularly, and be kind to the people there. Maybe you buy a drink at the same place once a week, or perhaps you take the same bus home every night. Say hi to the barista, say Hi to the driver, say Hi to the person you always see at the stop. It doesn’t have to be anything complex! Just “Geez, it’s cold out today” or, “How’s your shift going?”. Once you open the door for interaction, people will feel more comfortable with you. Sometimes they’ll start to initiate. You’re not the only one struggling for community! Lots of others are looking for friendly faces!

3. If you really, really can’t get yourself to stop thinking self-depreciating thoughts, at the very least try to avoid saying them out loud. A few years back, if I fell on the sidewalk, I’d freak out, tell myself I looked like an idiot, say something about being a disaster, and run away. Now? So many options. “Bitches wish they could be this graceful”. “Parkour”. “Guess I live here now”. “I am a God laid low”. “I am as Icarus, who flew too close to the sun, and was punished for his hubris.” People love to laugh, and it feels good to make people laugh! If you can laugh at yourself, bad things stop feeling so bad. And if nobody laughs? “I am underappreciated in my time.” Sucks how people can’t get on your level, queen.

4. Say yes to things! “Want to go to my cooking class?” Sure! “Want to hang out sometime?” Take a leap! “Have you ever been to a ping pong tournament?” Level up! Try as any new things as you can, and if it goes badly? New story to tell at parties! Sure, it might be nerve wracking, and I’m not saying to take dangerous risks or go into things you know you hate, but over time, it gets easier to be spontaneous and do things yourself!

5. Plan things! Start group chats! Take an interest in people’s lives and hobbies! Anyone wanna come to your place and watch a TV show you love? Anyone want to go thrifting? I’m headed downtown in 10, anyone want to join me for coffee? Offer!

6. Show you care. As I said, other people crave relationships just like you. Would you like it if someone at work remembered your birthday? Would it be nice if someone heard you got married and took the time to get you a card? Would you love if someone took an interest in your board game collection? Build those bridges! Don’t fake an interest in something you aren’t into, but try and see what they see, and if you *do* enjoy it, you’ve got someone to enjoy it with!

Families aren’t built out of thin air. A big part of making them work is working on yourself, and being dedicated to being the best person you can be. Kind, reliable people attract kind, reliable people, and if you surround yourself with people you admire and respect, you’ll find that the future isn’t really all that scary at all.

It’s hard. It’s going to be hard, and for a long time it will seem like you aren’t making any progress at all, but if you try your best, I promise a few years down the line you’ll be able to look back at yourself and see a completely different person, and you’ll be proud.

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[Growing up, I always imagined I would be getting married to early 2000's teen idol and gay icon, Hilary Duff. So you could understand my shock today to see you at the end of the aisle and not her. This week I was doing research into Hilary Duff's famed character Lizzie McGuire. In hopes to find some cute connection between you two and in the end say, "thought Hilary Duff isn't here I still have you". But, that's when I made the shocking discovery that I am Lizzie McGuire.

Now hear me out, like her, I'm a bit eccentric, I wear one too many accessories, I'm constantly getting into trouble, and I am a bit fearful of the world and my own path. That's when I made the even more shocking discovery, that while Lizzie McGuire was lost in this crazy world, making mistakes and getting into trouble. She had one constant by her side to help her find her peace and her happiness in life. Her slightly shorter than her, much more hairy, creative, level headed, bad dad joke making, loving, Jewish, best friend Gordo.

Spoiler, they end up together in the end. My whole life I was searching for my Lizzie McGuire, when really I should have been searching for my Gordo. Now I know you're probably as shocked as everyone else sitting here that my vows are so much about Hilary Duff. But, as her iconic chart topping single What Dreams are Made Of says, I've got somewhere to belong. I've got somebody to love. This is what dreams are made of. As cheesy-]

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