Yep, pretty much. People don’t seem to pick up on it but, like, yes Jake is abused! Jake is abused by Hal (who Brain Ghost Dirk reflects much more than he reflects Dirk himself as Jake…literally says), by Jane, by Aranea…He just isn’t abused by DIRK, and when the chips come down Dirk is literally presented as Jake’s ANSWER to all this abuse. Dirk makes Jake feel safe, ergo, when Dirk is around Jake doesn’t feel as threated, which is why them being together is directly correlated with Jake comfortably doing sexy ads and shit on Earth C (at the age of 19 at the earliest which some people also seem to have missed.)
Homestuck DID deal with Jake’s abuse, it just dealt with it in a way that didn’t fit people’s preconceived narrative. You can argue about the nature of the execution (I know a lot of my friends would’ve wanted that laid out with more dialogue, and I can’t help but agree at times) but the symbol language is pretty clear: Jake’s discomfort is a problem for him when he can’t rely on Dirk to fix it. Jake does not consider Dirk one of his aggressors. Jake loves his boyfriend who he wants to call him his boyfriend.