The secret to a happy life
The school holidays are coming to an end and as a school teacher I am in preparation mode for the upcoming term. I am all abuzz with the possibilities that lie ahead. I will be teaching my students persuasive writing, delving into a film study and beginning to expand my pupils knowledge of the world- starting with ancient China. My mind however keeps returning to the students I know are riddled with anxiety and anger. They come to school with folded fists and clenched jaws ready to swing at anything that looks their way. The work challenges them- they throw a right hook, they prefer math and science- cue the verbal attack and god forbid another student crosses their path. They come to school prepared for a fight and they will do anything in their power to get one. BUT WHY? I was mulling over this question knowing full well I could deliver the content for next semester but could I provide an environment where all my students thrive? I stopped and wondered ‘what was the secret to happiness I seemed to possess when I was at school?’ and ‘Did I unwittingly learn how to come to school happy, or was it simply circumstance?’
The answer in full detail: Firstly I came from a happy home. My parents taught me what happy looked like. My dad was diagnosed with depression and insomnia when I was 8 and spent a chunk of time in hospital receiving treatment. That being said he is the happiest man I know. He knows how to find joy. He appreciates what he has rather than what he is lacking (and the stories of his childhood suggest he was lacking a lot). My dad does not create lists of things he would be happier with instead he points out what he has. My mum ensures those around her achieve their best and finds happiness in providing happiness in others. She is happy with what she has and shares that . I came to school knowing what happy looked liked and could replicate it. I did not observe what others had or what I was missing instead i focused on what I had (and luckily for me the school encouraged it). Secondly, somewhere along the way i picked up the skill of self-confidence. I had absolute faith in my ability (even when I was trash). I knew I was a little odd; I dressed differently, I read non-stop and I even wore my hair short (for a girl in late primary and early high school this was apparently unimaginable). I knew who I was and what I was capable of thus I walked into the school yard head held high. So how do I get my students to feel the same way? Well I realised I cant..... I can ask them to list the things that make them happy, not the material objects but the things that make them happy that they did not buy they simply had them. I can talk about sparing compassionate thoughts for others and loving themselves BUT ultimately they have to choose to be happy and thats hard!!