White ppl/non south asian ppl

My mama, the real Rani before you all found ur misaligned chakras and idolised Bollywood.

Naath are just not for u (esp white people)

You are not appreciating my culture, you are making an aesthetic out of it so it becomes inaccessible and unaffordable for me. I remember henna being cheap as hell until it became a coachella trend. I remember the way my mom had to order a naath from back home and pay assload in shipping because nowhere sold it, but now Topshop does one for $20. I remember before septum piercing with the “ethnic” looking designs came around bc I remember the traditional designs that “inspired” them. 

Before thick brows and sharp contour became a thing, before Instagram makeup artists talked about doing a heavy Arab eye, we South Asian mixed people were creating and shunned for looking this way. We still are.

Next time you buy choorian (bangles) or a naath (nosering of this type) or imitate s asian wedding culture let me remind you that if it isnt yours to consume you don’t own it.

ps using bindi tag because s.asian pakistani. i dont wanna hear about indians telling me this isnt our tag too bc let me remind you we’re all from the same land and we fought for it

love to my south asian women/nb people/folk on the gender spectrum

your culture is not their coachella costume, fuck that. you are not their om shanti peace weed chia seed aesthetic. 

Yes, we definitely are from the same land that we fought for - No one can look at us and tell us apart for being India and Pakistani. 

Darshana Suresh, “and then you tell me that i’m overreacting"  (via afterthelonely)

Precisely 780 languages, more than 2000 dialects and 86 different scripts... No nothing is simple about my country, Jaan .. Or the country right beside mine, Pakistan. We might have two different names .. but all of us and our mothers and grandmothers wear their bindi proudly .. The married woman wear it as a symbol of their marriage every day ... we girls wear it to honor the elders and the traditions and culture we are brought up in .. they come in different shapes and designs .. they match out clothes .. our salwaar-kameez and lehenga and saree .. Because they are forever incomplete without the bindi on our forehead or the ones beside our eyes and on our chins.

Nothing about our countries is simple -- not even the design of our basic mehendi patterns and the various rich and homegrown spices in our karee and paneer/chicken tikka .. 

Zayn really is the favorite boy here -- Like, people do love all the boys but Zayn, he feels like he is ours. Idk I ain't exactly ashamed of saying it either -- I love Liam no less but Zayn is the one who people connect with the most in India. And people are blissfully unaware of any and every gay rumors or at least know how to filter it and pretend it is non-existent.

Matty Karas, MusicREDEF Newsletter 4/13/15 (via marmitechicken)

liam always put that shoulder smile on when he smiles at zayn..

yes im fine..

Isn’t that just speculation? At the end of the day, neither the boys nor Paul said anything about why he actually left. All we got from 1DHQ was the usual sad to see him go/part of the family storyline. Another theory was that Paul, who apparently has a young daughter, wanted to spend more time with his family rather than touring with the boys nine months out of the year. We know close to nothing of the actual reason so how can anyone say Paul quit because he was disappointed with how Zayn “treated events”? We saw almost nothing of their interactions and even less was said about Paul’s departure. What’s with this fandom’s need to constantly villainize Zayn?

Blogs have been running their mouths with this RUMOR with NOTHING to back that shit up …but hey it’s Zayn right?  So everything is his fault ;)…damn that person doesn’t even have the decency to speculate.. “due to Zayn actually” reallyyyy? boo boo REALLY? did Paul called u up? or maybe Zayn ? gtfo with that bullshit I’m not playing anymore. oh btw your favs texted me that they love to snort cocaine off stripers asses….and always leave the toilet seat up :) #fact yeah it’s true ‘cause I just said it

Not only that, but when asked about which was his favorite among the Boys, Paul had replied “Zayn” and when the (staged) catfight between Louis and NB Occured, Paul followed NB twitter account. ‘nough said!

Old school paul and zayn

paul and zayn literally days before it was announced paul was no longer the boys manager

More Paul and Zayn on 1D Day just because…

grow up you assholes. and stop spreading your bullshit.

Reblogging for additional comments. This whole situation is a study in human nature. People are highly suggestible. It’s fascinating but also disturbing.

As a Larry shipper who recently discovered the beauty that is Ziam, I’m pretty upset about how a good chunk of Larry fans are handling this situation. I learned from them that we need to question everything and never put blind faith in things that we can’t/won’t ever be able to prove, like Louis’ twitter, for example. Up until now we’ve done well with remembering that we won’t know who’s tweeted what from that account and to not take anything at face value, but a few pictures on IG, and a suspiciously set up twitter fight somehow threw all of that out the window and hardly anyone is questioning what’s being said on his twitter anymore, which makes @Louis manipulation that much easier for management to pull off. The worst part about the twitter thing is when @Louis’ been snippy, it’s been against the fandom (bullshit 1+2), but some of us don’t undestand that @Louis saying things in defense of us doesn’t necessarily mean it’s him tweeting or that it isn’t a part of the rebranding stunt currently taking place.

Another example is the sudden inability to accept that nothing about this band is coincidental (aka the recent Zerrie stunting after Zayn ‘left’). We were able to spot an Elounor stunt from miles away no problem, but look at how fast people are buying the cheating/abandonment narrative about Zayn, even with the clear Little Mix promo that’s happening as a result of it.

 I don’t think anyone can spell this shit out any clearer than they already have, but the Larry tunnel vision is not only alarmingly common (I had it for a long time myself), but extremely powerful in allowing fans to just somehow forget that the other bandmembers, including Zayn, are also capable of being used by management to line pockets in green.

Honestly, this whole thing could be a huge support system for both ships, but a lot of Larry shippers are kind of dropping the ball here.

Cosign on allllllll of this.

One last thing I’ll add: while Larries are very good, on the whole, with LGBTQ issues, their race consciousness is really not there yet. The ones I followed (and I followed many of the big ones) did not ever really discuss Zayn - which, okay, fine, we all have preferences - but when they did, they failed to account for race in their analysis.

As a Muslim woman of color, this didn’t sit right with me. Especially with the racialized language around “greasy” “evil” Naughty Boy. It was jarring to see people who generally analyze things well to miss the racial component so completely.

I’m protective of the only boy in the group who looks like me. I’m protective of a talented Pakistani-British Muslim who tweeted “freepalestine” and succeeds in an islamophobic post-9/11 world. I’m angry when people say thoughtless things about him, or reinforce their whiteness/whiteness-enabling politics.

You don’t have to make jihadi jokes to be racist. When fans believe gross narratives more readily around a man of color than they do around a white man, they perpetuate white supremacy. When they presume a drug problem in a man of color and give the white man a free pass, they perpetuate white supremacy.

This is what whiteness as a construct of power does: the silences mean something, and the narratives come loaded with racial history. (Esp around drugs and “trustworthiness.”) It’s subtle but it’s there. And if you’re a fan of color with a working knowledge of race theory/white supremacy, these sorts of things are going to bug you.

If you’re liberal and good on LGBTQ rights, that’s great, but you need to get with the program on race, too.

That was what drove me away from so many Larry blogs— the thoughtlessness on Zayn and the role of race— and what has me ranting like a madwoman lately.

You don’t have to make jihadi jokes to be racist. When fans believe gross narratives more readily around a man of color than they do around a white man, they perpetuate white supremacy. When they presume a drug problem in a man of color and give the white man a free pass, they perpetuate white supremacy.

This is what whiteness as a construct of power does: the silences mean something, and the narratives come loaded with racial history. (Esp around drugs and “trustworthiness.”) It’s subtle but it’s there. And if you’re a fan of color with a working knowledge of race theory/white supremacy, these sorts of things are going to bug you.

^This. This right here. All of this right here.

The Larry fandom has a huge race issue and it’s really reared its ugly head in the midst of all the recent craziness. In the past I’ve tended to shy away from calling folks racist in this fandom because I believe in giving people the benefit of the doubt but after a while you just have to believe folks when they show you who they really are.

Because Zayn leaving has finally given those people more freedom with their islamophobia and racism hidden beneath the guise of ‘concern’ ... It is like a flood gate has been opened. For a fandom which was supposedly a safe house for Muslims and browns appears to be more toxic and harmful  from the inside in the wake of all the drama. Now people are being more blatant in their show of ‘concern’ for Zayn, I guess. Outsiders are more supportive and have a 100 percent more positive image of Zayn. People felt like being in the fandom gives them the right to joke about Zayn’s heritage and culture. I was so over the skin and Muslim ‘jokes’ but now people don’t even try to pass it off as such. And (most of) the Larries don’t really see the other boys as more than ‘Props’ for Larry CO narrative anyway, never did ... Niall doesn’t fit into it, Zayn and Liam’s individuality and their own problems are nothing more than PR for Larry anyway ... A little load of Zayn shade and Liam involved in it by extension doesn’t hurt anyone, now does it?

On the Zayn vs. “The Larries” Debate

I get what you are all saying, I really do. Intersectionality has long been a difficulty within the LGBTQ+ community and our allies. And lord knows the current political climate doesn’t help with encouraging sympathy towards anyone of Muslim faith.

But YOU are not helping with your daily attacks on the “Larries”. Honestly, it seems that the moment Eleanor went away, it was the Zayn fans selected to hate on the Larries as a group. You’re quickly becoming just as bad as the people many of you fought against only weeks ago.

I agree, some Larry-centric blogs have difficulty with intersectionality. Some, but not all as many of the recent posts I have read are claiming. Many of us have been furious over the suppression of Zayn’s rich heritage and faith since the day we entered the fandom. Many of us have, and continue to write frequently on the way Zayn has been treated in the business and by the fans. To make general statements like “All of the big Larry blogs”, while maybe being emotionally soothing, is inflammatory, divisive, and absolutely inaccurate.

If you have an issue with something a blog is saying, call it out! Don’t hide behind general statements as you chat among yourself in public. Don’t pretend that you are doing something by bemoaning the state of the current discourse. Step up, call out anyone you feel deserves it, and make the debate a public one! Nothing will ever change - this fandom will never get over the loss of Zayn - unless we face our internalized systemic Islamophobia head on. So come on - let’s start: my ask box is open, bring it on. If you want to discuss Zayn, and the problems of intersectionality in human rights, I’m game. If you want to call out a blog, the “@” feature works wonders. But I am telling you now, if this “The Larries have always hated Zayn” shit continues, and comes anywhere near the bullying we’ve had to endure before, you will find a fierce enemy in me. 

As Dr. King said, “In the end it is not the words of our enemies we will remember, but the silence of our friends.” 

First of all, you have no business trying to police anyone’s blog or dictate the terms under which this long overdue conversation takes place. Don’t come at us disguising your stick as an olive branch. I see you. Don’t try putting us on the defensive when WE are the marginalized people in this scenario. WE have been bullied. WE have been told how to run our blogs. WE have been the subject of shade and hate. Funny when it comes to the subject of racism and Islamophobia, WE are the ones expected not to pull YOU out of YOUR comfort zone. GTFOH with that white privileged bullshit. Where were you when I was called a “nig” and “miserable half breed”??  Where was pretty much everybody except the same squad of crusaders you see fit to lecture now?

As far as not naming names, consider that an act of mercy, not cowardice. If I published all the receipts I have, all hell would break loose in this fandom. I’ve seen the whatsapp conversations, I’ve seen the kik conversations, I have e-mails, I’ve seen those “private” tweets. I’ve seen y’all foolishly chasing “inside” information. I’ve even received first person accounts of irl bitchery committed by these fandom princesses. People’s shit is not as locked down as they think and hasn’t been for a hot minute. Personally I choose not to be at the center of that much controversy. But I do strongly encourage people to look at what people blog—right down to the tags—with fresh eyes, with a critical eye. I always encourage people to sort it out for themselves. And people have. And now you mad? *bitter laughter* 

I haven’t seen one post on my dash that “attacks” ALL the Larries. Dramatic much? Technically, some of us ARE Larries. Although I don’t appreciate being lumped in with some of you folks—some Larries are clearly not my people. I have seen people mock and make light of the situation the same way Larries have mocked and made light of Elounor shippers over the course of YEARS. A few months of swallowing your own medicine got you all apoplectic now?? Well ain’t that some shit?   

Now in terms of the very real anger you’re seeing, that anger is justified, imo. This fandom is full of hypocrites. This fandom is full of bullies. This fandom has its share of manipulators. This fandom has its share of racists and Islamophobes. It’s not the job of POC or Muslims in this fandom to spend 24/7 holding your hand, explaining and explaining, and being careful not to offend white people. Fuck that. It’s your job—if you all are as open, willing and un-bigoted as you claim—to educate your damn selves and act accordingly. Show and PROVE. PROVE yourselves or STFU. And why do people continually claim they aren’t the one, yet protest so much?? Why? And not for nothing, there are few things more offensive than some white person who doesn’t “get” it quoting MLK. You tried it.

Now was that enough of a callout for you? It’s Good Friday so consider thata callout in the name of Jesus. Let the church say amen.

Amen to all of this.  Beautifully said, Sasha.

Amen, Inshallah, Tathastu  ...

Reblogging this because it’s 100.  Read it!  Especially on how Larry has become a fetish and not a relationship between two people for many fans.  Yes, Larry is real and many of us 1D fans support Harry and Louis.  But the levels of fuckery and absurdity some Larries have been taking it are too much.

Hey guys. So, my lovely friend (Zarryiest) found something quite interesting and I couldn’t help but share it with you and also try and to connect some of the hints being dropped in what she’s found earlier today. Honestly, we are both taking it with a grant of salt ‘cause…

Your feedback is very much appreciated. I’ll completely agree with you and also, add that the fact that they use their official sources to spread narratives and none of them being the ones pushing this sort of unreliable post yet with these hints at such convenient timing made us both raise our eyebrowns. 

At this point I believe anything can happen, maybe a push of narratives then give it a turn around, push a break up and finish the relationship in August which would make sense, but yeah…we’d mostly thought of sharing it so we’re all aware and we could be alert in case it’d mean something. Taking it with a graint of salt, of course. 

Thank you and zarryiest for sharing this!

In light of the articles bashing M!M, it seems there is behind-the-scenes fuckery between M!M and the new team that might be bubbling to the surface.  I agree with you that anything can happen—with the new team possibly playing hardball with M!M and Zayn and the boys slipping from their control, I do wonder how outrageous M!M will go with future stunts.  (Don’t forget Sophiam is still on the table too, though I think it will end quietly like Elounor.)  Honestly, I thought Zerrie would be the catalyst for Zayn rejoining, but the “M!M sucks, Zayn ‘quit’ because of them” articles and the 403 error on M!M’s website preempted that, and that ain’t coincidence—I admit did not see that coming.

Reblogging for this:

Why is it so easy to believe these rumors about the brown one? And don’t forget the one the brown one is closest to is also pretty unliked by this same clique. It’s the politics of othering in full effect. I am not a fool. And I see you.

Racism and Islamophobia are why these folks push the Zayn is “stressed” and the “drugs” narrative.  Let’s say it out loud—not in tags and not by suggestion: racism and Islamophobia.  It is why they tag shade him, why they don’t extend the generosity reserved for Harry and Louis to him, why they not only believe but put on full blast the bullshit M!M/HJPR and 1DHQ are known to spread about Harry and Louis, but apparently not Zayn.  Period.

Racism and Islamophobia are why these folks shade Liam, who is Zayn’s boyfriend.  Has anyone noticed that Liam is the bad white boy for the same people who trash Zayn?  Checklist: he likes hip hop and R&B (racialize him!) and is in an interracial and interfaith relationship (racialize him by collateral!); therefore, he is ignorant and homophobic (because Duck Dynasty wasn’t suspicious like Bullshit 1.0 and 2.0, right?), he might have a “drinking problem” (like Zayn has a “drug issue”) and is dumb and trashy (racism! now with more classism).

Let’s talk about covert heterosexism.  Said people be like “heteronormativity is bad y’all!” to their followers, only to turn and deploy heteronormativity to not only deny Ziam in the face of overwhelming evidence not unlike that given for Larry, but also to reduce them to a bit role in the fetishistic mess known as The Larry Show.  “Liam and Zayn can’t be together!  They’re so manly.  Zayn fucks groupies.  Liam went surfing.  Stop hating on Perrie, Zayn cheats on her.  Liam and Sophia are so cute together.  Oh, they kissed?—they’re just covering for Larry!”  It is already heterosexist to practically demand Harry and Louis to come out as if they own them, and to turn them into signposts for their politics, regardless of Harry and Louis’ wants and needs.  On top of that it is heterosexist and generally hateful to treat Zayn and Liam as if they were unworthy of the condescending “kindness” these fans bestow upon Harry and Louis.  They talk a good game about supporting Harry and Louis against the homophobia they have endured under M!M/HJPR and 1DHQ, only to trivialize the same hardships that Zayn and Liam have also endured.  Add some virulent racism and Islamophobia with a dash of classism and some decontextualized pictures about how Zayn “looks bad” and we have a special brand of Larrie™.

I don’t see these people trashing Niall in the way they trash Zayn and Liam.  They reserve benign neglect for him.  I wonder why?

Despite what these people say the problem is not Zayn or Liam—these people have a problem with Zayn, and by extension Liam, and there are names for that problem.

I’m pretty content to stay out of this since Lord knows it’s been a while since I gave a fuck about anything you say, but this shit right here is offensive and irresponsible. So here I am to offer a counterpoint to this statement:

“When Zayn looked like walking death this November…”

Here’s Zayn looking like walking death November 2014:

And if you’re planning on attacking his weight, please note he and Niall are pretty much the same size. And if you’re planning on saying you meant around the time of the missed Today Show performance, well…

Now please tell me more about this “walking death” thing because evidently your standards are pretty damn high. Educate me. And I’m sure you’re killing it 100% of the time, right? Attacking people’s looks is pretty low. Attacking Zayn Malik’s looks is pretty stupid. 

well i mean since the beginning of november

right up until the end of it he has clearly looked like death so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

Thankfully I found the reblogs the poster meant with walking death, because I wanted to investigate it bit better. :)

He looks gaunt to you, and like Michael Jackson. Noted.

Still not seeing walking death myself. I’m seeing a lovable smiley kid who doesn’t deserve any of these comments.

Let’s see what else we have here… These are from around the time Zayn left the tour:

You and the rest of them are all pretty similar. None of you are trained health professionals as far as I know (but feel free to correct me if I’m wrong). None of you either have any proof for your claims. Good luck with that.

Edit: Gonna edit out thisiskatsblog, since at least she responded and apologised her careless words.

Bill Maher would feel right at home with some of people in this fandom.  That’s all i’m gonna say….

Seriously a FanDUMB ..  It is like Zayn leaving has finally forced people to come out and show their real faces .. This fandom is so toxic ..

Well, thank fuck Zayn is not a part of it anymore ..

HOW WAS LITTLE SKINNY ZAYN ALWAYS PICKING UP LUMBERJACK LIAM LIKE HE WEIGHED NOTHING???

He had LOADS of practice ...

Hmm, and with the reunion -- what do you think about a management transition too? I don’t get it - the whole Zayn quitting narrative is very messy and badly plotted even for Modest - as if Zayn actually took them by surprise.

Can we expect an actual change in management around the time Zayn and Perrie finally ‘breakup’?