And speaking of gross bros thinking of nerd girls like fucking unicorns…
I was actually talking to a female client once about cannon-fannon and how much I love listening to her talk comics, and had a male client interupt us to tell me he has never met a chick that is into comics before, he’s never even heard of a girl being into comics before, and he has always wanted a nerdy girlfriend and that i absolutely MUST give him her number.
I actually had to explain to him that I wasn’t joking when I said she was out of his league. Yes, she is incredible, she is beautiful, she is intelligent, successful, highly knowledgeable and enthusiastic about comics, and she’s also not even going to look twice at you because literally all you got is that she fulfills a fantasy of yours.
Yes bro i get it, she’s your ideal girl. Trust me, she’s a lot of people’s ideal girl. And you’re not even on her radar. You’re not special because you’re into comics. She has a very wide range of potential partners to choose from and ‘never having met a nerdy girl before’ isn’t a good character trait, because it means you know zero women. Or zero women have trusted your creepy ass with the knowledge that they are into comics.
The most concerning part of that entire conversation was his complete inability to grasp the concept that she wouldn’t date him and his insistence that she would.
He insisted that I give her name/number/fb/actually call her and ask her to come to the studio (wtffff???) because he needed to meet her. And then just could not fathom that I refused. He seemed to be running on this idea that if she met him, she would like him. For no other reason than that he was into comics and he wanted a nerd girlfriend.
And I was somehow out of line for refusing to give my best freinds deets to this creepy nerdbro because I couldn’t possibly know that she wouldn’t be into him.
He got really upset.
He was in my studio for 45 mins arguing with me on and off about this and trying to push me into giving her number.
Out. Of. Your. League. Not on your level. Too fucking good for you. Not a possibility. You’ve got nothing she wants. You’re one of literally thousands who would want her. You have nothing to offer her. You tick zero of her boxes. You do not even meet the minimum requirements for me to even ask her.
NOT
HAPPENING
MATE.
This is why women don’t say they’re women in WoW, this is why women don’t say they’re into games irl. This is why women don’t hang out in comics stores. This is why nerd women hide one of these two aspects of themselves when interacting with nerd men.
Because you creepy as FUCK about us.
‘never having met a nerdy girl before’ isn’t a good character trait, because it means you know zero women.
truuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuth
I had a dude do this to my dad. When my dad was in his early forties ish I was in college and he got a grant to go to a tech school and learn computer repair. There was an awkward dude around my age in his class and he’d just straight up talk about anime porn and shit as ‘normal’ conversation with classmates regardless of their level of interest.
So one day he’s selling some old games and anime and he asks my dad if he’s interested. So my dad says, “Well my daughter and some of my sons are fans of this stuff. Give me a list of what you have, and I’ll bring it to them and see if they’re interested in any of it.”
And this guy is suddenly like wait what, and the thing is my dad has a picture of us all together on his little desk he uses for class, so this dude is suddenly looking at that picture all over again like !!!! And he starts hounding *my father* for my details, my number, my email, ‘man i’ve never met a nerdy girl before man hook me up’
and my dad is like super uncomfortable about it but at least he is able to get this dude to back off because “she lives out of town anyway kid, she’s not interested in you.’….. done and done, or so he thinks. Guy keeps bringing it up periodically the rest of the time they share a classroom like ‘hey how’s your daughter, has she come back to town, you should let me know when she’s home visiting,’
I mean this is only one instance of the ‘oh gosh you’re a nerd girl suddenly i’m interested in you’ nerd dude bullshit but it’s one of the more embarrassing because dude was harassing *my dad* for my information.
I’m going to add to this.
When I came back to live at home after going to college, I was probably at one of the lowest points in my life. I spent most of my time either at work, sleeping, or playing video games. I was a sociable person, but didn’t really have many rl friends, so I stayed at home and chatted to other acquaintances on my console.
One guy in particular seemed to take a very big interest in me when I joined a friend group on Xbox. He’d always hop into the chat as soon as I got on, and would joke with me consistently and I figured he was just doing what I do with all my friends. It didn’t seem like a bad thing at the time.
My other girl friends in the group eventually pulled me aside and told me they had explained to this guy that I had no interest in him, I was there to play a game, and that any kind of hint he thought he saw in me “wanting to be with him” would make him go nuts and immediately want to date me/literally MARRY me. He would not take no for an answer. He refused to believe that I did not like him like that. THE GUY WAS SO CONVINCED I LIKED HIM HE BUILT ME A HOUSE IN MINECRAFT AND HANDED ME FLOWERS IN-GAME WHEN HE HAD ME VISIT. It was insanely creepy and very uncomfortable, and when I sat him down and told him I was not interested, and I would never be, he literally ghosted me and shittalked me and made me look like a feral bitch.
For some reason, men turn stupid when they hear a girl likes video games, or that she plays them. They forget it’s another person behind the screen and treat her instead like some ultimate waifu bc she notches one of their desires in a partner. It’s gross and unsettling, and if you do this to a woman she will never give you the time of day.