please fucking vote
This. ^^^
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please fucking vote
This. ^^^
This is the best photo I've ever taken of my cat
what's the most cancelable shit y'all do when ur not online
sometimes i like to acknowledge nuance
that's exactly the type of name background extras get on credit rolls
man this year is gonna be the year i either die or become someone else i dont know which one maybe both
Everytime i think of the future i nearly throw up
hate to say it but the cow is right
Oh plush cow we're really in it now
I don't know why, but I find it even more comforting to look at it this way:
can't have shit in Baltimore
somehow this guy was the most considerate carjacker in all of Baltimore. did he pull a gun on me? yeah. but he let me keep my phone and my wallet, and when he was driving away he rolled down the window and yelled at me "REPORT YOUR CAR STOLEN!" (the cops were confused and laughed when I told them this)
I told my husband @beemovieerotica that's what great about Baltimore, the crime is streamlined here.
the youth today, they have no class. these zoomers don't understand social cues and good manners. it takes a real upstanding citizen to rob your car at gunpoint and then immediately yell at you how to resolve your current dilemma. that's called community building
the downside of having comprehensive insurance
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I’m just thinking about how many times I’ve heard my dad on a long call with an obvious scammer and I’ll start begging him to get off the phone because I always think he’s a very easy mark and he’ll just keep going and then after a while he’ll say something like “I died 20 years ago” and hang up.
Virgin Millennial Daughter with 20 hrs of screentime a day: Dad! They’re scamming you! Dad! Stop! They will take your savings and your identity! Hang up before they SWAT you!
Chad Boomer dad with a flip phone he has not recharged since 2014: Well gee I wish I could give you my bank account number after you spent all this time on the phone explaining this car deal with me but I don’t have access to my finances because I am in Rikers for felony murder.
Imsane rule
I love posts like this. Terminally online people finding out that reality isn't anything like the propaganda they've been fed. Terfs realizing that nobody likes their weird mental gymnastics. Incels realizing their bone measurement bullshit means nothing. It's always magical to watch someone's toxic world view crumble before them
I don’t like how the comments are like “haha you’re so stupid for believing those things, your ideals are crumbling” like that’s not how you deradicalize people. (You’re also not immune to radicalization btw) and you don’t get internet points for mocking people for learning and growing. GOOD FOR THIS GUY!! I’m so happy for him that he was able to get out of a community that obviously preyed on his anxiety, fear, and poor self esteem to keep him controlled. I hope he makes friends and continues to realize that YES the incels WERE lying to him, and YES he is allowed to be in a society and YES he has inherent worth as a human being beyond his physical body. GOOD FOR HIM!!!!
there's a pretty intense one posted after you posted this where someone pointed out that deradicalization is important and you can't just get rid of bad people without addressing the root of the problem and got an "I loathe you on a personal level." for one reply. over the possibility of deradicalization! like, i understand given context, but holy shit we have got to start understanding that the answer to there being bad people with dangerous ideas is not to hope that we get to get rid of all of the bad people eventually--it's to turn those bad people into less bad people, then not bad people, then good people. it's a messy and strenuous process that is uncomfortable for everyone involved but its necessary
similarly i see a lot of sentiment in general against "praising people for basic decency" but like. humans are simple creatures. if you being nice and exercising good habits is constantly met with people pointedly refusing to congratulate you on improving, and your bad habits are encouraged quite a lot--and ESPECIALLY if people treat you like you still have your bad habits even after you throw them away just for having ever had those bad habits--then you're gonna backslide and confirm what people thought: you were ontologically evil and just trying to trick them when you were sincerely trying.
tumblr just doesn't believe that people can change for the better, it feels.
As far as "praising people for basic decency", I think people fuck up when they say that by forgetting that people deserve praise for the first step. People always deserve praise for significant progress but also for that first occasion. As an adult who has tied my own shoes for more than 2 decades now, I don't deserve a cookie for tying my shoes today. It's a non event, because it's easy and routine for me. FOR ME.
Someone who has never tied their own shoes before, regardless of age, deserves a cookie for managing it today though.
Also if illness or injury fucked or injury fucked with my ability to tie shoelaces, I would deserve a goddamn cookie for managing to tie my laces again. Just to be clear, because it wouldn't be easy or routine for me in that case.
Stop comparing people to your own capacity for five fucking minutes and think instead about how much better they're doing today vs last month.
Some people don't pick up the important life skills of making friends and figuring out who is or isn't full of shit in a timely manner. Then they grow up and they fall in with people who are full of shit - they deserve a fucking cookie for figuring out that community is full of shit.
One of the core issues with incel ideology is that it ends up self reinforcing; Too much time spent in incel spaces means they end up adopting their meme laden hateful vernacular, which makes communicating with them incredibly unpleasant and difficult, which makes people avoid them, which makes them think that the point about how everyone will hate them forever is true, which makes them dig deeper into incel space which-you get it. The same is broadly true for TERFs and white nationalists, although that is a Venn diagram with a lot of overlap.
Getting people out and communicating with normal people before they get in too deep, before they take the Black Pill or start transvestigating their friends, is crucial to deradicalization. It might grate against your sensibilities to congratulate someone for not using the word "Femoid" or suggesting that some random women are secretly trans, but letting people know that there's an out, that they aren't permanently ruined by their time spent in these circles, is the best tool to help them leave.
my dad actually started repeating a couple incel talking points the other day and i paused the whole conversation to brief him on what incels were and how these initially plausible concepts were the start of a very dangerous funnel that would leave you bitter, miserable, and isolated... and dependent on the group of assholes who had led you to that despair. and also that the concepts themselves broke down quickly once you started thinking about real life counter examples.
it's hard to deal with entrenched ideology, but it's always worth working this particular angle of 'scammers want you to be scared and angry about a problem they made up, so you trust the very guys who are ripping you off.' it's the most efficient wedge ive ever found to let the light in.
like, people wrapped in cynicism and bitterness dismiss you if you try to jolly them out of it and they hate you if you just bluntly fight them. but we're all inclined to listen if someone who cares about says 'oh, wait, i think maybe you're getting scammed.'
Unmute !