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Anybody can create community with people who believe just like they do. The true test of community rests in the ability to create it with people who disagree with us. -Lee Barker (Unitarian Universalist, minister, educator)

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Going beyond the Western gender binary - unlearning our backward cultural conditioning 

In Western colonial society (which dominates many aspects of the globalized, capitalist world today) we operate under the presumption that there are only two genders, male and female. But gender is a social construction. One’s options for what gender they identify with are shaped by the culture they are born into. Biological factors are most-often the primary driving forces that choose among the available socially-constructed gender categories.

Cultures around the world have different ways of talking about, thinking about, and identifying gender. It’s often a challenge for (particularly cis-sexual) Westerns to think about other ways gender can be socially constructed. Westerns have the false equivalency of gender and sex drilled into their eternal psyche from the time they are very young, and re-enforced through examples in popular culture. There is no biological reality to gender. Many Westerners have the bizarre belief that one’s XY-sex-determination should also inform one’s gender identity, a socially constructed role in society.

In some cultures, there is no distinction made between gender and sexual orientation and the same can be said for sexual orientation - our culture socially-constructs the options and our biology helps us identify which socially-constructed option feels most ‘right’ and best resonates with us.

I’ve attached some photos to offer some examples of non-colonial, non-Western construction of gender. They’ve all been uploaded onto our Facebook page photostream in case you’d like to ‘like’ or ‘share’ them there. There are literally hundreds of ‘third-gender’ identifying peoples around the world. The eight I’ve chosen are mostly examples I remember from some of my anthropology courses but if you google ‘third genders’ you can find many lists and examples.

Who cares? Why it matters.

The most obvious reason to care about the way our culture has constructed gender and sexual orientation is to deepen one’s capacity for solidarity with people who identify as transgender, transsexual, and others whose gender or sexual identity exists outside of binary Western culture.

But there are other reasons as well. Western culture’s binary nature often creates non-sensical, problematic binary identity constructions that are inherently problematic. For example, I believe that Western masculinity (dominance, aggression, lack of communication, lack of emotional expression, etc) is inherently problematic. I believe that to be the reason why most acts of large-scale-violence and terror are committed by men (see: 100% of the mass school shootings in the United States), and I believe it fosters a degree of internal misery within people who heavily adopt these particular ‘masculine’ traits.

In the age of information, and the age of global connectivity, there is no longer any reason (particularly for young people) to feel isolated or restricted to Western definitions of gender, sexual orientation and identity in general. I think the social ramifications of a generation where more and more people begin to identify outside of the gender binary would be tremendous, and I think we should all consider how we can unlearn our cultural conditioning to embrace other, perhaps less exploitative and dominating identities.

Background information on the identities depicted in the above images:

Hijras Hijras are male-body-born, feminine-gender-identifying people who live in South Asia (mostly in India & Nepal). Many Hijras live in well-defined, organized, all-Hijra communities, led by a guru.

Although many Hijras identify as Muslim, many practice a form of syncretism that draws on multiple religions; seeing themselves to be neither men nor women, Hijras practice rituals for both men and women.

Hijras belong to a special caste. They are usually devotees of the mother goddess Bahuchara Mata, Lord Shiva, or both.

Nandi female husbands Among the Nandi in Western Kenya, one social identity option for women is to become a female husband, and thus a man in society’s eyes. Female husbands are expected to become men and take on all of the social and cultural responsibilities of a man, including finding a wife to marry and passing on property to the next generation through marriage. Female husbands may have lived their lives as women and may even be married to a man, but once she becomes a female-husband, she is expected to be a man. Women married to female-husbands may have sex with single men uninterested in commitment in order to become pregnant, but the female-husband (who is often an older woman, often a widow) will father the child of said pregnancy and treat the child like her own.

Two-spirited people Two-Spirit is an umbrella term sometimes used for what was once commonly known as ‘berdaches’, Indigenous North Americans who fulfill one of many mixed gender roles found traditionally among many Native Americans and Canadian First Nations communities. The term usually indicates a person whose body simultaneously manifests both a masculine and a feminine spirit. Male and female two-spirits have been “documented in over 130 tribes, in every region of North America.”

Travesti In South America (with a large presence in Brazil), a travesti is a person who was assigned male at birth who has a feminine gender identity and is primarily sexually attracted to masculine men. Therefore, sometimes the distinction between gender identity and sexual orientation is not made. Travestis have been described as a third gender, but not all see themselves this way.Travestis often will begin taking female hormones and injecting silicone to enlargen their backsides as boys and continue the process into womanhood.

The work of cultural Anthropologist Don Kulick (a gay male by Western definitions) in Brazil demonstrated that gender construction in Brazil is binary (like Western gender construction), but unlike Western gender construction, instead of having a male-female binary, there is a male-notmale.

In this particular construction of gender:

  • Males include: men who have sex with women, men who have sex with Travestis but are never on the receiving end of anal sex, men who have sex with men but are never on the receiving end of anal sex.
  • Not-males include: women, men who receive anal sex from ‘male’ gay men or from Travestis.

Fa’afafine Fa’afafine are the gender liminal, or third-gendered people of Samoa. A recognized and integral part of traditional Samoan culture, fa’afafine, born biologically male, embody both male and female gender traits. Their gendered behavior typically ranges from extravagantly feminine to mundanely masculine

Waria Waria is a traditional third general role found in modern Indonesia. Additionally, the Bugis culture of Sulawesi (one of the four larger Sunda Islands of Indonesia) has been described as having three sexes (male, female and intersex) as well as five genders with distinct social roles.

Six Genders of old Israel In the old Kingdom of Israel (1020–931 BCE) there were six officially recognized genders:

  • Zachar: male
  • Nekeveh: female
  • Androgynos: both male and female
  • Tumtum: gender neutral/without definite gender
  • Aylonit: female-to-male transgender people
  • Saris: male-to-female transgender people (often inaccurately translated as “eunuch”)

Kathoey (often called ‘ladyboys’) Australian scholar of sexual politics in Thailand Peter Jackson’s work indicates that the term “kathoey” was used in pre-modern times to refer to intersexual people, and that the usage changed in the middle of the twentieth century to cover cross-dressing males, to create what is now a gender identity unique to Thailand. Thailand also has three identities related to female-bodied people: Tom, Dee, and heterosexual woman.

-Robert

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Excellent overview of non-binary gender categories. Sadly, Western imperialism has all but extirpated many traditional concepts of non-dualistic sex and gender categories through residential schools and religious indoctrination. -Q

This gives me all kinds of gender life and power.

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Daily Compass for April 12, 2013:

The joy of a small suspension bridge is that you can bounce on it, sending a wave of motion down the length to jog whoever might be further along than you. Of course we know that our actions have an impact on others, but we rarely get to see the effect so directly.

What little leap will you take today to affect the life of someone else?

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Daily Compass for April 11, 2013:  The Ugly Duckling grew up to become a swan, but face it, some of us start as ugly ducklings and end up as geese—a little more loud and defensive and a whole lot less elegant and serene. Perhaps someday those who have dissed us will wake up and see our true beauty, but for now we’d better start with recognizing our own beauty for ourselves.

What beautiful thing do you see about yourself that others tend to miss?

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On Thursdays, April 11, 18, and 25, from 11-12 AM Eastern time, Joanna Crawford and Meg Riley will be hosting "The VUU"-- a show modeled on "The View," where a number of talkative, argumentative UUs and friends talk and argue about issues of interest. This week, on The VUU: Half an hour of fun and learning! Guests: Hank Peirce, Tom Schade, Patrice Curtis, special guest Keith Kron Topics include: UU Settlement scuttlebutt, Identity issues, Those red equal signs, and more! You can watch the VUU at the CLF Youtube Station at http://www.youtube.com/ChurchLargerFellowsh As always, this is a beta test--we'll see if the format is of interest to anyone besides ourselves. If you can't catch it in real time, it will be recorded and you can watch at your leisure at YouTube. Twitter feed for this will be #TheVUU if you just want to catch the highlights!

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Daily Compass for April 8, 2013:

Yom Hashoah, Holocaust Remembrance Day, honors the millions of lives lost in Hitler’s death camps. When one group of people or one characteristic gets defined as “not us,” “not normal” or outside the common bounds of humanity, terrible consequences can ensue.

Who do you see defined by our society as “not us”? What do you do to welcome outsiders into the fold?

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Daily Compass for April 5 2013:

Did you think that bananas were long and yellow? So much of the world is beyond our experience, and so beyond our comprehension, or even our imagination.

What will you do today to broaden what you know of the world?

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Daily Compass for April 4, 2013:

Ching Ming is a Chinese festival in which families go out to care for the graves of their ancestors, and to offer them burnt gifts of paper replicas of money and material goods. The ancestors are cared for as the family celebrates, the living and the dead together.

What do you offer to those who have gone before you?

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Daily Compass for April 3, 2013-

“Once the soul awakens, the search begins and you can never go back. From then on, you are inflamed with a special longing that will never again let you linger in the lowlands of complacency and partial fulfillment. The eternal makes you urgent. You are loath to let compromise or the threat of danger hold you back from striving toward the summit of fulfillment.” ―John O’Donohue

What is your soul in search of?

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Daily Compass for April 2, 2013:

The loveliest paths to walk can be those that are neither in the full hot sun nor in the dark shade of dense cover, but rather in the shimmering sunlight that filters through many leaves. A flash of white hot insight can be amazing, but mostly we come to understand the world in in bits and snatches, filtered through our daily experiences of the world.

What path leads you to bits of daily insight?

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Daily Compass for April 1, 2013:

It seems like kind of a cruel holiday—having a day designated to play tricks on people. But life is forever playing tricks on us, both cruel and kind, and it’s maybe it’s not such a bad thing to have a day to remind ourselves that our job is to keep our equilibrium and sense of humor in the face of life’s sudden turns.

What helps you stay balanced when life gets tricky?

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Daily Compass for March 31, 2013:The Easter bunny travels around bringing colored eggs for children to find—one of the more truly bizarre assertions of a holiday. But Easter is about the improbable, the strange, the unbelievable notion that not only does life spring from death, but that life is present even in the midst of death, that death may be inevitable and permanent, but still does not have dominion.

What improbable conviction do you hold dear?

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