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So this happened this week
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My question is, is the backbone concept that a poly relationship is a group of people who all are in love and build a relationship with each other, or is it all focused around one person who loves many, or is it an epic trust thing where all are free to find and see other people outside of a core couple?
In short, the answer is: Yes. Yes, and more. Those are all formats that polyamory can - and does - take. There are also a plethora of others out there.Dearest followers, we usually do not post the questions we get. Instead, we tend to direct folks to poly advice blogs. However, we’d like to hear your thoughts on this one. Reblog with your real-life experiences. What sorts of formats have your non-monogamous relationships taken?mortons7587, I hope you will check the notes periodically to see what folks have to say. We think you’ll find a plethora of unique situations.
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An image of a pale-skinned hand holding a dark purple plum is centered against a pale blue background. Meme-formatted text reads “See my boyfriend buying one rose,” across the top and, “Not sure who he’s buying it for,” across the bottom.
An image of a pale-skinned hand holding a dark purple plum is centered against a pale blue background. Meme-formatted text reads “It’s so cute when my boyfriend,” across the top and, “Kisses his other boyfriend goodbye before our date,” across the bottom.
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An image of a pale-skinned hand holding a dark purple plum is centered against a pale blue background. Meme-formatted text reads “Parenting is so exhausting,” across the top and, “I don’t know how people with fewer than 3 co-parents manage it!,” across the bottom.
When people talk casually about polyamory, I always feel like this is a point that gets missed a lot. Everyone is worried about adult fulfillment in relationships that are built on trust, communication, and understanding.
But where is the discussion about family?
Like, everyone understands there’s a community element to poly, because we have to build a safe place to express our personal dynamic. That’s a great topic, but every community SURVIVES based on the next generation. We can’t just talk about individual relationships without discussing the village aspect of raising the offspring of those relationships.
I personally believe that one of the greatest boons of poly is that we can share the joy of parenthood beyond the forced dynastic model of post-agrarian America. Like, we live in this community and we have all these connections, this wonderful web of support, this should be a boon larger than individual fulfillment. Instead, we have an opportunity to bring together a loving atmosphere with many different walks-of-life and, more importantly, perspective to the act of raising children.
Parenthood is a heavy task, and no one would deny extra help along the way is always a bounty. Maybe it’s because we evolved to be a more communal species and it really is true that it takes a village to raise a child. Maybe we should have more of THESE kinds of talks than just about how we manage jealousy.
I think this speaks to a larger issue: how a community handles it’s less-abled members. I think kids are kind of a special case for less-abled people.
(Reblogging for the sake of the discussion.)
This had always struck me as one of the possible best things about poly families though? Like even if your definition of a poly family is a cluster of people who love each other living together with their kids. It doesn’t have to be romantic love for this particular idea. For kids to be surrounded by so much love with with “siblings” or “cousins” or however you describe it, “aunts and uncles” or whatever. The joke about always having a babysitter at home stands, but as a family of people doing their best to love the children in their charge, the idea of a poly family is something I dream about being a best case scenario.
My parents were both members of huge families, there are aunts and uncles and cousins all over the place. And even though we’re spread out and don’t see each other constantly there is always someone you can reach out to, there is always a holiday at someone’s house, there is always somebody who shares the personal hardships your family survived to lean on. And I don’t have a ton of siblings to have a ton of cousins for my kids, but I want them to have the childhood experiences I had of love and understanding coming from every side.
An image of a pale-skinned hand holding a dark purple plum is centered against a pale blue background. Meme-formatted text reads “My husband is going out of town soon for a few weeks,” across the top and, “so he called my boyfriend to discuss the itinerary and make sure I can sleep over if I want to,” across the bottom.
An image of a pale-skinned hand holding a dark purple plum is centered against a pale blue background. Meme-formatted text reads “Parenting is so exhausting,” across the top and, “I don’t know how people with fewer than 3 co-parents manage it!,” across the bottom.
When people talk casually about polyamory, I always feel like this is a point that gets missed a lot. Everyone is worried about adult fulfillment in relationships that are built on trust, communication, and understanding.
But where is the discussion about family?
Like, everyone understands there’s a community element to poly, because we have to build a safe place to express our personal dynamic. That’s a great topic, but every community SURVIVES based on the next generation. We can’t just talk about individual relationships without discussing the village aspect of raising the offspring of those relationships.
I personally believe that one of the greatest boons of poly is that we can share the joy of parenthood beyond the forced dynastic model of post-agrarian America. Like, we live in this community and we have all these connections, this wonderful web of support, this should be a boon larger than individual fulfillment. Instead, we have an opportunity to bring together a loving atmosphere with many different walks-of-life and, more importantly, perspective to the act of raising children.
Parenthood is a heavy task, and no one would deny extra help along the way is always a bounty. Maybe it’s because we evolved to be a more communal species and it really is true that it takes a village to raise a child. Maybe we should have more of THESE kinds of talks than just about how we manage jealousy.
I think this speaks to a larger issue: how a community handles it’s less-abled members. I think kids are kind of a special case for less-abled people.
(Reblogging for the sake of the discussion.)
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