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This excellent visual representation of that old scam, “trickle down economics”, has been all over Twitter recently.

And then the glass on top gets too big and too full and all the other little glasses below it break and then they all shatter.

And the big glass blames the little glasses for not working hard enough to hold it up.

*SLAMS THE REBLOG BUTTON*

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Oh my God this actually explains so much.

So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem.

So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company.

So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not.

This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner. 

So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists.

The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved… so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers.

The next time a guy says, “What? You don't want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend.

y’all I am living for these analyses where the new way to fight the patriarchy is to teach men to love each other and themselves

Im a communication student and can confirm the above is absolutely 100% accurate and it’s called agentic vs communal friendship theorized by Steven McCornack

I got hit by a customer for defending a coworker of mine who has an audible accent (most of my coworkers are middle eastern, specifically Pakistani). She was speaking English to him but he seemingly took issue with how long his food was taking and told her to go back to her country and all that regular xenophobic shit. I’m just glad she didn’t get hurt.

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Conservative male privilege will deny its own violence.

I feel so bad for Millie Bobby Brown. She’s been sexualized since the minute she entered the industry and gained fame through “Stranger Things” (notice how her male cast mates are allowed to retain their youthful and goofy personalities, whereas she’s forced into wearing makeup and clothes that give off a “mature vibe”) and now she’s being groomed, in real time, by a 31 year old man (who also has an 18 year old girlfriend), and no one is doing or saying anything about it. This is why feminists always say that the sexualization of female celebrities begins young and why it’s connected to them facing sexual violence from men within the industry, and why those men later get away with it. 

I am more and more convinced that children and teenagers just shouldn’t be in the industry, for their own protection. Especially young girls. 

By the way, Beyoncé had been groomed by Jay Z since she was 15. So this happened to Beyoncé as well (and no one said anything about it), and it’s happening to Millie now, and probably to countless other teenage girls in the industry. 

Natalie Portman, following Leon: The Professional

Glad someone brought up Natalie Portman up because after Leon, there was some seriously fucked up shit. People were sending rape fantasy letters, a radio station was counting down to her 18th birthday (aka she’s legal to bang and “not be weird”), and sexualized her body as she went through puberty. She talks about it here:

She was 13 years old. 13! We shouldn’t even pretend nothing like that is happening to child stars now

This is why I’m not here for people who say that rape culture in Hollywood isn’t real, Yes it is. DO some fucking research that doesn’t come from sexist anti antis on the reality of rape culture for once in your life.

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The hashtag #NoWomanEver is dropping truth bombs

Ireland officially revoked its ban on abortion this week – and its health minister says that under a new law, women won’t have to pay for abortion services in the country. The goal is to ensure access and make sure women aren’t forced to travel for the procedure, Health Minister Simon Harris says.

Irish President Michael D. Higgins signed the abortion referendum bill into law on Tuesday, striking the Eighth Amendment from the books.

It was “an extraordinarily historic day,” Harris said of the repeal, which follows up on a public referendum in May, when an overwhelming majority of voters said more women in Ireland should have access to clinics that perform abortions.

“Yes, it is my intention that the services will be free,” Harris said in response to a reporter’s question about how Ireland will handle medical expenses for abortions.

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finally posting my full contribution to the CARTOON PUNK zine i organized with @gchoule and @mortalityplays! it’s about growing up Jewish and not realizing it was A Thing until young adulthood. i hope u guys enjoy!

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hey, y’all the Gender Identity Center of Colorado is on the verge of closing its doors after more than 40 years of serving Colorado’s trans community. they’ve got a fundraiser going on facebook here, and if you could chip in a few dollars and/or spread the word, that would be great

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