A Little Hummingbird

I would like this to be my new house.

by monalogue

This is the biggest attack on my character I have ever seen

Embroidery Art Hoops / DIY Patterns

Yingifts on Etsy

Tiny gryphons

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Keep liking my posts and we gon end up like this

Illustrations by Laure S

Beaded Flowers / Trees

Jewelry Flower on Etsy

Gross.

I just saw a joke on facebook, it was kinda funny, it was a picture of a cast iron skillet in the dish washer and the caption was some guy saying “washed my gf’s favorite skillet for her, love doing little stuff like this for her” and it’s a joke cus in case you didn’t know you never ever put cast iron in the dish washer because it ruins it. I thought it was funny, especially cus I know how some people get about their cast iron skillets, and I’m giving this dude the benefit of the doubt that he didn’t really run the skillet through the dish washer and only set it in there for the picture to make the joke.

Except it stopped being funny or cute when the comments had a bunch of men saying they did shit like that on purpose to get out of doing the dishes for life

And this is what is called planned incompetence. When men purposely do a shit job at housework or childcare so that their wife or girlfriend doesn’t want them to do it anymore and they get a free pass from ever having to do any cleaning in their own home or ever having to take care of their own children

It’s just evil, there’s no other way to say it except it’s disgusting male entitlement and manipulation. Now these women will have to do more cleaning and housework, more childcare, and that’s going to affect how much time and energy they have for hobbies, friends, and their careers, while the men who purposely act incompetent will have more time and energy for hobbies, friends, and careers and that’s the whole fucking reason they do shit like this in the first place.

A male colleague was making fun of the #metoo movement a few days ago, and many more (I’m one of 5 women in a department of 200 men) joined in. So I raised my voice and said I was glad women were speaking up about sexual harassment and assault and that I hoped that everyone who perpetuated this toxic behavior got taken down.

“Yeah but it’s a trend now, lots of them are just saying it for their 15 minutes of fame.” He then continued to say that he didn’t know anyone who had been harassed or any man who had done it.

I asked him if he had a daughter. He did. I asked him how old she was. She was was 17. I told him I’d bet my rent money that his daughter had experienced sexual harassment. 

“That’s impossible.” 

“Did you ask her?” 

“No.” 

“Well then, do it.”

The next day, he came in the office with five bouquets of flowers for all the women in our department, including me. He publicly apologized for making fun of sexual harassment and for making our lives harder by doing so. He said that he simply hadn’t known how widespread it was. Apparently, his daughter deals with it very regularly. She hadn’t told him because of the way he spoke about assault cases that were on the news. She thought he’d think less of her if she’d mention it. It was her idea that he should make a public announcement. He said he felt like a bad father. 

I said: “You were. Same goes for everyone who laughed with you. Be better, now you know better. And educate other men that still think the same way you did yesterday. And next time someone tells you about an experience they have, don’t automatically assume that because you haven’t seen it, it’s not true. That kind of willful ignorance is why we still deal with this shit.”

He also offered to pay my rent as that was part of the bet, but I told him I’d rather have him put effort in being a person his daughter and wife could be proud of. 

In conversation the other day my mom stopped and asked my dad about what percentage of women he thought had experienced sexual harassment. He said about 20-30% maybe. My mom told him that both of us had been harassed multiple times at work (same goes for both of her sisters) and that she had actually been assaulted by a groper on a public bus. I have never seen anyone’s face go slack so quickly before as he realized that literally every woman in his family had experienced this. And while I’m glad he believed us and has changed his view on that subject I still can’t shake the frustration, the anger, that it required being sat down and spoonfed these incidents that we didn’t particularly wanted to relive. This is something that women have been saying for years, but men just never listen. Not even when they’re forced to sit in mandatory harassment in the workplace training seminars.

this post needs more attention

My dad didnt believe in the movement. Then we found out what my stepdad did. Now he supports it.

I really hate that for a lot of men, it takes having to know someone who was personally abused or assaulted or harrased to realize it’s a problem.

An important post for everyone to read, but especially men, and especially men who don’t like movements like #metoo. 

Ask the Women you know if they have ever been sexually assaulted or harrassed. Then ask yourself why it took knowing someone who was a victim of this for you to care. 

-FemaleWarrior 

where are my fellow hysterical women who would have either been a) an oracle in ancient greece or b) burned at the stake in medieval times…..make some noise ladies 

Her Imperial Highness Justinia, Empress Apparent, wearing the imperial state crown.

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