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@once-a-polecat / once-a-polecat.tumblr.com

Coffee is life.
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About Me

  • I am over 40. This is not an admission of wrongdoing, it's a warning sign over the door. Please don't follow me if you're underaged.
  • I am genderfluid, bi and queer. I am a gymrat. I drink protein shakes and use "dude" as a gender neutral term of affection.
  • This blog is currently infected with Locked Tomb brainrot. If you don't want to see such content, please blacklist "The Locked Tomb," I do tag fairly rigorously.
  • Non-fandom things I love: Circus, fiber arts, native plants, cats, fragrance geekery. Probably some other things I'm forgetting about.
  • I keep meaning to make a page with my writing, but in the meantime have a link to my AO3 (please heed all tags).
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Someone reblogged something from me earlier today related to the Gaza situation and tagged it “isn’t XYZ group bad?” And I gotta tell you, I have no fucking idea. And I do not plan to spend my time ranking online takes on various peace groups. Because…

1) If y’all haven’t noticed I’ve had some serious shit on my plate for the last several months. My estranged father died. I have to settle his affairs by myself because I don’t have siblings. My car needed a major warranty repair and was in the shop on-and-off since December. I got COVID. My mom made a bad financial decisions that I can’t even help her out with because I’m too tapped out. I’ve been doing 2 peoples jobs for the last 6 months. I’m mentally re-hashing childhood trauma because of my dad’s death. The only things holding me together right now are: my spouse & best friend, transition/testosterone and the promise of a new Mad Max movie. And cats. But despite the face I wear for the internet, I am not actually well right now. I have no energy left to wrap myself up in internet drama.

2) I have some real world friends who are burning themselves out following the minutiae of the Gaza situation from the other side of the world. They are hurting themselves and none of what they’re doing is effective. In fact it’s making them less effective in dealing with immediate injustices around us because they’re exhausted. I can’t let that happen to me because due to the first item on this list, I will lose my fucking mind in ways that hurt people around me if I go any further into burnout.

I dunno, I think peace is good and I’d like to see a ceasefire. I would also like to see us get to that without spurring antisemitism. Where any individual or organization stands in relation to that? 🤷‍♂️ I can’t keep track. If anyone wants to cancel me because I don’t fit neatly into your opinions of what is right and wrong, I don’t really care. I’m way too overwhelmed in my life to deal.

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Man fuuuuuuck Optum and those forced mail delivery plans. I had a similar cluster fuck with my lamictal which I get from a local pharmacy bc I need to be able to get it at a moments notice because suddenly stopping it *can cause seizures* which is just not a concern for a company trying to save three cents a pill on my script. I hate that more people have gone through that shit and I hate thinking about how many people might have been hurt bc of it. (I managed bc I had a stash but jfc)

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Yeah, you kind of have to have a little stash these days. If you forget your meds one day, you gotta pick up on time so that if there’s a fuckup or a shortage or some meddling insurance company that causes a delay, you won’t be too screwed up. It’s just been hard for me lately because so many things have been hitting me all at once.

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axolotine

Every day those skeleton lesbians are on my dash beating the shit out of each other or making out or playing mario kart. I don't even know what kind of media the locked tomb is. Is it a tv series? A collection of plushies? A webcomic? A limited edition beverage with an oddly detailed lore behind it? Perchance. All of these questions and more could be solved by a simple google search, yet I kind of like having something that I have no context for - or understanding of - cross my dash occasionally. Adds a bit of spice. McGriddle and Shark? I hope they get gay married. I hope this isn't a queerbaiting situation or whatever. I hope they have lots of skeleton babies and their coffee shop continues to thrive. I hope they finally kill the onceler.

THEY'RE FROM SPACE???

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I gotta bitch about hormones and pharmacy benefit manager companies...

Incidentally, I am more convinced than ever that I have endometriosis because the stabbing pain in my right lower abdomen is back. I've always had pain there, a combination of dull pain and stabbing pain. When I was 20 they ran up a bunch of stuff to make sure I didn't have appendicitis, found something on a colonoscopy, and decided that was the cause of the pain without checking for endo. But the GI doc told me "That shouldn't be causing you actual pain" in a chiding tone. And because I'm both a woman who gets told those things, and also a tough guy, I decided that I would just ignore the pain.

Anyway, I haven't been without a cycle since I was postpartum (where you have a lot of weird pelvic sensations since things are going back to normal). The dull pain never goes away, but the sharp pain did go away on the minipill + testosterone. But now it's back. Which means it was probably endo all along. I didn't know this at the time, but these days they know that you can get endometriosis tissue that attaches to or infiltrates your intestines, and that's probably why it was visible on the colonoscopy.

But because I'm a fucking tough guy, I'm going to go back to ignoring it once I get my hormones sorted out again. I don't wanna have any fucking medical procedures, they suck.

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Hundreds of Jewish anti-war demonstrators have been arrested during a Passover seder that doubled as a protest in New York, as they shut down a major thoroughfare to pray for a ceasefire and urge the Senate majority leader, Chuck Schumer, to end US military aid to Israel.

The 300 or so arrests took place on Tuesday night at Grand Army Plaza, on the doorstep of Schumer’s Brooklyn residence, where thousands of mostly Jewish New Yorkers gathered for the seder, a ritual that marked the second night of the holiday celebrated as a festival of freedom by Jews worldwide.

The seder came just before the US Senate resoundingly passed a military package that includes $26bn for Israel.

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cypro-girl

Out of curiosity, how has your experience with anal changed now that you're post-op (if you've tried, that is)?

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anal sex isn’t permitted for the first 3 months after bottom surgery. However I’m a top and almost never received anal anyways so even if I could do it, im not the best person to ask

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Is it weird that hearing that you're a top is like... fucking awesome as hell? Like "yeah I have a ToppingTool(tm) but nah I dont want it, nah doesn't mean I'm not gonna still top" like is that the vibe? Is that not sick as hell?

That’s the vibe! And no that’s not weird at all, I think a lot of people presume only bottoms get vaginoplasty, but lots of tops have genital dysphoria too, and like yeah it is more complicated for us to figure out, but many of us opt for bottom surgery. The way I see it, I just went out and got the anatomy most lesbian tops are already working with! And I get to be happier!! I’ll obviously try bottoming with the new material, how could I not, but my desires are still top and dom desires 🥰

This is getting some traction and I wanted to add onto it that how one likes to engage in sex is not necessarily equivalent to how one likes to masturbate. I know a trans femme stone top who got bottom surgery and get it with the cavity so that she could put stuff up her while she masturbates. She still doesn’t really use her genitals during sex (hence Stone™️) but they’re an important part of how she relates to and enjoys her own body when she’s alone. So it’s important to remember that there are a million different reasons a top might want bottom surgery including but not limited to: dysphoria, ease of wearing clothes, wanting to be able to go stealth in case of sudden right wing totalitarian uprising, to enjoy masturbation more, wanting to go to an onsen, etc

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chilchuck going "sorry leave me outta this one. i cant fight" but then hitting literally every precise shot with an arrow or projectile he ever made in the story INCLUDING PIERCING A RED DRAGONS EYE BY THROWING A KNIFE WHILE LEAPING AWAY my bro is a rogue with dex 20 and wants no one to know biggest liar in history

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appendingfic

As a fellow union man i can relate - you do not let your employer know you can do anything you don't want to become your job

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Hey, happy Earth Day! Who wants to talk about climate change?

Yeah, okay, fair, I kinda figured the answer to that would be "ugh do we have to?" What if I told you I have good news though? Good news with caveats, but still good news.

What if I told you that since the Paris Agreement in 2015, we've avoided a whole degree celsius of global warming by 2100, or maybe more?

Current projections are 2.7C, which is way better than the 3-5C (with a median of 3.7C) we were expecting in 2015. It's not where we want to be - 1.5C - but it is big, noticeable progress!

And it's not like we either hit 1.5C and avoid all the big scary consequences or fail to hit 1.5C and get all of them - every tenth of a degree of warming we avoid is going to prevent more severe problems like extreme weather, sea level rise, etc.

This means that climate change mitigation efforts are having a noticeable impact! This means a dramatically better, safer future - and if we keep pushing, we could lower the amount of global warming we end up with even further. This is huge progress, and we need to celebrate it, even though the fight isn't over.

It's working. Keep going.

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