Doesn't matter what you do, only that it makes you a better pers

it feels like a lot of "progressive" online spaces have really latched onto this ooo boykisser pastel stockings kitty femboy image of GNC men and i have to admit i have concerns about how those spaces would respond to GNC men who either can't or simply don't want to look like that

are these spaces kind and considerate to fat men in skirts? black men with nail polish and lipstick? GNC men with muscles and body hair? gay guys with long hair and beards? GNC trans men who don't want to be "cute"?

this is taking off a little so i'd like to note i deliberately picked these examples so they're not mutually exclusive - there are plenty of GNC black trans bears out there, and for a group of people so influential to gay culture through the drag and ballroom scenes, they feel very underrepresented in these online spaces

maomao

pinch

it is once again... binturong appreciation hour

Long panda

Sentinel Irelia x Ruined Karma

this guy gets it

Wow.

You should really listen to the WHOLE thing because this woman does not mince words

This is extraordinarily well argued. Definitely worth watching the whole thing.

"They not only knew, but they planned for [...] these deaths."

They sure did. Like car makers who continue to sell dangerous cars and treat court settlements or (pitifully inadequate) regulatory fines as merely a cost of doing business, Republican lawmakers are engaged in a cold-hearted calculus: how many votes might they lose when people know the horror stories, vs. how many might they win from voters who are into a rigid social order with women as chattel? The kicker is, they don't give a shit about either group of voters. They might hate women, sure, but the motivation for their actions as lawmakers is purely to gain power. Their evil is like an onion with infinite layers. Look beneath one shitty belief and you'll inevitably find another - probably worse - one. Vote. Them. Out.

I feel that this is important to add

I think detaching disgust from morality is one of the keys to Chilling Out. You can find inner peace by being able to go "hm! Gross" and recognize if it's an actual problem or not. Cause if it's not an actual problem... it's not your problem 🙏 god bless

Every callout post that's like "she jacks off to Weird Porn! Isn't that gross? Don't you hate it?" I mean maybe but I have the same reaction to sour cream. Personally I'm in the habit of using my brain to determine if something is ethical/moral/etc or not instead of just my first knee jerk reaction, like, "is this actively harmful to anyone involved" is a more useful question than "do I personally think it's gross"

Also if you find yourself doing mental gymnastics to explain why something could hypothetically be harmful, potentially, under the right circumstances, it's probably Just Gross. Especially if the scenario you crafted involves a secret third party besides the Consenting Adults involved ??? You are making up a guy to be mad at, my friend

stacys mom turned me into a frog!

im eating flies and live inside a log!

stacy cant you see she has placed a spell on me!

now im in a bog and look just like a small green frog

"Enjoy the sodium desgraciadas"

A lot of people around me are having kids and every day it becomes more apparent that hitting your children to punish them is insane because literally everything can be a horrible punishment in their eyes if you frame it as such.

Like, one family makes their toddler sit on the stairs for three minutes when he hits his brother or whatever. The stairs are well lit and he can see his family the whole time, he’s just not allowed to get up and leave the stairs or the timer starts over. He fucking hates it just because it’s framed as a punishment.

Another family use a baseball cap. It’s just a plain blue cap with nothing on it. When their toddler needs discipline he gets a timeout on a chair and has to put the cap on. When they’re out and about he just has to wear the cap but it gets the same reaction. Nobody around them can tell he’s being punished because it’s in no way an embarrassing cap, but HE knows and just the threat of having to wear it is enough.

And there isn’t the same contempt afterwards I’ve seen with kids whose parents hit them. One time the kid swung a stick at my dog, his mother immediately made him sit on the stairs, he screamed but stayed put, then he came over to my dog and gently said “Sorry Ellie” and went back to playing like nothing happened, but this time without swinging sticks at the nearby animals.

The psych nerds found out ages ago that punishments that make the child think for a few minutes (about one minute or year of age until they're tweens) is much more helpful to develope social intelligence and understanding than punishments which prevents thinking, like the ones that involve pain. In fact, corporal punishment encouraged lying, extreme reactions, violent outbursts, go figure, they don't trust you.

This is all really fucking serious and important and I'm mainly reblogging for that, because this correct mentality needs to be spread around more, but I'm also reblogging because I absolutely lost it at the child who dreads having to wear the normal blue hat of shame.

"Why are you so obessed with found family?"

I watched this as a kid and internalized it for forever

Lilo and Stitch really said "This is my family. I found it, all on my own. It’s little, and broken, but still good. Yeah. Still good." And i still live by that

a family can be your gay uncles, the best disney prince, and your parole officer

Graffiti left on the tomb of Ramses V in Egypt by ancient greek tourists (when the tomb was only a few hundred years old). "I visited and did not like anything but the sarcophagus" and "I cannot read the hieroglyphs."

Cool article about it if you're interested.

The long, proud human history of replying to tweets and making them all about you

“I cannot understand the hieroglyphics”

“skill issue”

Even thousands of years ago, some foreign tourist going "why don't they say/write it in my language? 😠"

it’s actually funny how much DE explicitly states in the opening scenes ‘hi you are playing a cop. A cop has a certain social and political role. It affects how people engage you.’ and how little it nevertheless shows up in popular readings

thank you for this because for whatever reason I am getting assumptions that I’m saying something like ‘the subtext is practically explicit’ as opposed to ‘no it literally just tells you that at one point’

Sonic The Hedgehog (2020) dir. Jeff Fowler