love 2 see discourse about fic authors writing anal sex "wrong" and coming in with first hand (or second hand or ??? accounts) about how it ACTUALLY works as if there is not natural variation in how people practice and enjoy sex.
"they always leave out the cleaning!" RIP, but some people go nasty and like it. yes this includes rimming.
"no one actually does fingering first!" sorry, honey, YOU have never fucked someone who fingered you first
alternately, "with no prep??" mhm yeah some people are just living like that
"no lube??"/"spit as lube??" literally more prevalent than the magical lube stashed in every nearby drawer/glove compartment/pocket
"there's WAY too much emphasis on anal sex in slash fics, people don't actually do it that much, it's too much work" please refer to the guys fucking nasty with no prep in a bathroom stall for more information. they've done zero work.
"actually you need condoms even if you're clean & monogamous to prevent UTIs/mess" please explain to me the HERCULEAN efforts it took to get people to use condoms during the AIDS crisis if they were already using them anyway
"women writing fic don't know how to write anal" I should not have to explain that the vagina is in addition to, not instead of, the asshole
anyway, let's just agree that fic is not sex ed and there are plenty of people out there fucking in ways that you would personally hate
