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Mostly Harmless

@beccaboots / beccaboots.tumblr.com

American expat in Ireland. Aiming to be a hobbit. Crafter, reader, music lover, farmer's girlfriend, and hopelessly in love.
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Four Years Ago Today

I was broken up with by my boyfriend of one month. He had ghosted me (before that term was popular and I just called it ignoring XD) me the two weeks prior. I was hurting, mostly due to HOW he broke up with me (if for some reason you are reading this, I am over it. The person you are dating now makes more sense than we did and I am so so happy now). I was going to Ireland for a trip in a few days and I was going to kiss many boys to get over my hurt feelings.

Four years later, it is Monday morning in Ireland and I am on the train to my full time job that is promising me security. I spent the weekend minding the newborn lambs that my two year old pet ewe had and visiting with a friend up in Dublin. The one boy I ended up kissing in Ireland is currently getting himself ready for work at his family home that I have lived in with him for the past two and a half years. We got word two weeks ago that our De Facto Relationship visa was finally approved and I am here now for good (as long as they keep allowing me to renew!). We have a future timeline that involves marriage and building a house together that is being planned for the next few years. We have holidays planned together and couple friends and our own friends. This Friday we will celebrate the four year anniversary of us meeting in the pub we met in with the friends who have supported us on this side of the ocean.

The time spent here has not been easy. We have been struck with tragedy two times over, we have been stressed about the visa, and we have been and still are stressed about money. However, I would not trade any single moment for a different life because I have never been happier being with himself. I miss my family and I miss my friends back home, but I am proud of the life I am building here.

#international ldr#us to irl#closed the distance#four years later!#I know I haven't posted in a while but I am feeling very reflective this week#also think about my lambs and hope to they are ok#here is to four more years#and then another four and then another and you get the picture
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Anonymous asked:

Omg how on earth did you get approval for marriage?!! I'm dating a guy from the Republic of Ireland and it's sooo strict there!!!

aquietcupoftea-deactivated20220 answered:

It’s pretty strict here too.. We started planning well in advance. My advice is to read through any material you can get your hands on (the official immigration website, expat forums, etc) and start making lists. What are the requirements and what do you need to do to meet them? From there you can start working on whatever you need to accomplish. I’ll write up a post going into more detail.. I thought I already had but I can’t find it ^^; Don’t worry anon, it seems scary at first but once you have a clear idea of what you need to do it gets easier. :))

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beccaboots

Literally logging on to write this:

Anon, it your partner is in the country (I.e anywhere but Dublin probably), getting a spouse visa decision is a lot easier. You basically rock up to your county Garda station with your marriage cert and both passports and they make a decision there. You might need an appointment but it would be days not weeks.

If you plan to get married in Ireland, you have to notify 3 months in advance but you need an appointment to notify. From what I have heard, they may have questions about the relationship there, but I say as long as you can prove it's not a visa marriage you should be ok.

From what I have heard, you should probably get married in the country where one of the partners is domiciled (aka either your country or your partners) you'd have a better chance of not having the marriage questioned. Immigration officers at the county stations can also question the marriage and send it up to the minister for justice if they feel it's a "marriage of convenience" so I recommend having proof. I'd say as long as you guys can prove you have savings/ your partner has a decent job and can support you/ you don't become a drain on the system, you are ok.

If you have to deal with Dublin/INIS, literally good luck. They are significantly more strict due to flux of immigrants. I am having my own struggles with INIS and it's not fun.

#don't even get me started on defacto#I am 100% done with immigration
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Facing big aul’ imposter syndrome with all the stupid adult decisions Ciarán and I are trying to make together. Plans keep changing, options keep coming up, and we’re both facing decision overload to the point where we had to stop talking about things tonight because we’re both confused. Still waiting for the moment I get stopped because I am not old enough to be making these decisions.

#intentionally vague because I can't really talk about the stupid issues we are facing#I just need to vent bout it#I don't really FEEL like an adult#expat adventures
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theolebitchnmoan

Why do people never want to tell you their middle name like who gives a shit its not a nuclear launch code its your damn name

reblog with your middle name in the tags

Actually, the practice dates back to the reason we have middle names in the first place!

Some time around the dark ages, everyone believed in witchcraft and wizardry, like ya do. A big principle of magic was the idea of “true names.” If a spellcaster knew your full name, they could do whatever the hell they wanted to you. Of course, people didn’t want that, but there were enough people with the same first names that you had to give people your surname as well, to avoid confusion.

The solution? A secret name in the middle that you don’t tell anyone (unless you believe that they’re not able to do magic and/or you trust them enough that if they DID do magic, you’d be fine).

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horticulturalcephalopod

this is some death note shit

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bigmouthlass

Is that why parents only use your full name when you *righteously* fuck up?

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starshals

oh my gosh

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  • October 15, 2012 we became a couple
  • May 9, 2013 we transitioned to long distance
  • June 10, 2014 we got engaged
  • October 17, 2015 we got married
  • and on March 7, 2016 we’re closing the distance!

My visa got approved and we just booked my one-way ticket! Thank you all for following us on our ldr journey! It’s been a long, hard road but we’ve made it to the end and are so ready for what comes next! xx

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beccaboots

So excited and happy and everything for this couple! Meeting them in real life, you can see their love for one another - and now they get to start building their life together! Congrats Megan and Stuart, I can't wait to visit you all the time until you are annoyed by me 😁😁😁

#so excited for you two but I can't imagine how you are feeling#also excited to have friends on the island#international LDR#we're going to craft all the time
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So far Valentine's Day has involved: waking up early and having some lovely quiet time, waking Ciarán up with tea and presents, drinking said tea and chatting in bed about houses and other future things, and going to a bakery and getting fresh hot cross buns (!!). Still on deck: normal Sunday roast, talking with my parents over FaceTime, and watching telly and films and eating our bakery desserts!!

#personal#Valentine's day#we're not going crazy with it because we are each other's Valentine's all year long#but it's nice to have a day that reminds you of how lucky you are to have the best Valentine's ever
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