Do I still deserve help?
I was discharged nearly two months ago, after being with services for nearly 4 years. 3 admission, CBT, I’ve been given so much support and I feel ashamed to say I’m not “recovered” yet. My head says ‘I should be recovered’. My head says I ‘should be’ living.
In some ways, I am so far from where I was. I have a part time reading assistant job - one day a week. I volunteer at a school another day and do tutoring too, which judging by the latest mock seems to be going well! That was such a confidence boost. The other days I work on my Etsy small business and that’s also going well - better than I ever imagined.
I’ve also found a POSITIVE community through Instagram (not Ed’s/recovery but makers and fellow potterheads!) it’s the power of social media for good and it’s helped my mental health like no other. I recently took part in “March meet the maker” too, which was amazing for my mental health/sense of self-worth. People engaged, people supported, people “got me.” That’s what I needed all through uni and rarely found. People who “got me” and I see how that impacted me.
So yes, those positives. But in other moments (trigger warning - not that anyone listens.)
I just continually retrench to old habits with eating. I fall into the “comfort blanket” of blood sugar predictability when I cut things out, get so repetitive with what I eat and times. Delay things until later in the day because I get into the trap of numbness - not feeling, because feeling means coping and I can’t cope on my own. There, o said it, I can’t cope. I think It was too soon to discharge - it was suggested by my CPN, not me and I’m not sure my diabetes team will be too happy when they find out (next week at my appointment). I have up to 6 months quick reaccess and I don’t know if they expect me to use it? Almost as “part of” treatment, having that break to reconsider my motivations/goals.
If that’s the case, it’s definitely reaffirmed what I DO believe will help. What I want to really fight for this time, as I’ve asked for it before and it always falls through. PRACTICAL support. Working with an OT, going out for food, buying a meal deal, planning for a working life/uni (I am determined to start my PGCE in September, likely Bath Spa).
But I’m slipping. Edit, I have slipped. Today was the first weekday in weeks that I forced myself to make a proper lunch, aka meal food and not snacks. I’ve fallen into snacks, things I can just grab because I hate how obsessive and ritualistic I get when I prepare meals. I hate myself for it so I avoid it. But I know I can’t. I can’t keep saying “tomorrow.” So today I said today and had lunch AND afternoon snack, not merging things together and haven’t cut out anything else. Because exchanges don’t work. I need gains. I haven’t been weighed in weeks, no bloods in weeks, but I know both of those things need checking - even if no one is telling me to. I need to take personal responsibility for my mental health just as I do everyday for my diabetes. I need to find my own strength, somehow, and stop being the broken record. I need to do this for SOPHIE