Swear to god, some guys are terrified that girls are faking common interests to impress them and act really hostile towards anyone they even SUSPECT of doing such a thing

but then they turn around and fake a whole friendship in the hopes of getting sex out of girls, and get mad at them when it doesn’t work

and they super do not see the irony in that

This whole concept never fails to astound me. Thank you for summing it up so succinctly! 

!!!! ATTN alder-knight

Panorama taken while rolling down a hill x

This is so cool..

Omg this is awesome

wHA T

What is Gaslighting?

Does your significant other say things like this to you a lot? Do you often start questioning what’s really true – or even your own sanity – within your relationship? If so, your partner may be using what mental health professionals call “gaslighting.”

This term comes from the 1938 stage play Gas Light, in which a husband attempts to drive his wife crazy by dimming the lights (which were powered by gas) in their home, and then he denies that the light changed when his wife points it out. It is a very effective form of emotional abuse that causes a victim to question their own feelings, instincts, and sanity, which gives the abusive partner a lot of power (and we know that abuse is about power and control). Once an abusive partner has broken down the victim’s ability to trust their own perceptions, the victim is more likely to stay in the abusive relationship.

Signs of being a victim of gaslighting (Stern, 2009) include:

If any of these signs ring true for you, give us a call at 1-866-331-9474, chat online, or text loveis to 22522. Our advocates are here to support and listen to you!

[Head over to loveisrespect.org to read this blogpost in its entirety.]

IMPORTANT TO POINT OUT THAT YOUR OWN FAMILY AND FRIENDS CAN GASLIGHT YOU THROUGH VARYING DEGREES OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE LIKE MINIMIZING YOUR FEELINGS AND MAKING YOUR EMOTIONS FEEL INVALID OR INSANE. THIS ISN’T JUST FOR SIGNIFICANT OTHERS.

habitual contempt doesn’t reflect a finer sensibility

Dear ex boyfriend,

See above.

No love, EJ

Destroy the myth that libraries are no longer relevant. If you use your library, please reblog.

Never hot reblog so fast in my life. Plus husband is a librarian and it’s how we met so libraries are always dear to me.

Mona Hatoum | You Are Still Here, 1994, Etched mirrored glass, metal

"how much coffee do you drink?"

"oh, not much," i say, taking a sip of coffee. my hands are shaking. i haven’t slept in 3 days. i can hear colors

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Source: http://psychopathsandlove.com/how-can-you-tell-if-youre-being-manipulated/

Please note:  this is NOT just for romantic/sexual relationships.  You can be manipulated by friends and family as well.  

Since I see a lot of people with posts or statuses concerning some of these matters..

This is extremely important and accurate.

God…

Jesus, this explains way too much to be healthy

Whoof. There it is. At first I was side-eyeing this because it's so focused on the behavior/feelings of the person being manipulated rather than on those of the manipulator, but I realized that there were times when I was so confused about what was happening that all I had for reference were my own feelings.

Trees giving the world the finger. Didn't know I needed this.

Will you be in Brooklyn February 12?

Would you like to see Lynda Barry and Matt Groening give a talk at BAM (Brooklyn Acadmey of Music) about love, hate and comics?  (Also known as the friendship that would not die! ) (because it has lasted since 1977!)

Click here for the details!

NYC FRIENDS GO THROW FLOWERS AT LYNDA BARRY FOR ME

ginandjack, achangingaltar, nightskeptic, loverofthemuses, and amaskofivy - I’m excited about all your challenges and have time slated to do them this weekend! I shouldn’t have signed up for overtime this week, oof.

Other than Gin (who will be getting a message shortly!), has anybody who requested a truth or dare from me this round NOT received one?

I haven't gotten one!

Here’s a preview of the new zine I’ll be selling at SPX!

Common Curses & Blessings is a 2-in-1 mini-zine about the most mundane and insignificant things the universe throws at you. They probably shouldn’t even have an impact on your day, but they totally do.

Read it facing one way, and you’ll read about the curses. Flip it over and read about the blessings. You’ll just have to come to SPX and see how it works! 2-color risograph printed, 4.25” x 5.5”. 16 pages, 8 curses, 8 blessings. Come to table A12 and check it out!

I love these so much.