it's been over ten years, why tf am i still here?

smell ya later, bestie.

or should i say... worstie.

My kink is when someone tells me they want me in their life and they actually mean it.

Today's aesthetic is sleepycore

The old school lack of transparency on tumblr is amazing because you assume the people you follow must all be equivalent to you and then you see someone write “I brought my youngest to college today” and someone else write “my mom wouldn’t let me listen to Ariana Grande when I was a kid” and then your head explodes

and we need that! keeps us humble. 

Then I'm just like WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU’RE AN ADULT

It goes the other way, too, because WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU'RE A CHILD?!!

I'm 16, that's like, barely a child

I'm in my 30s. You are baby

I'm older than both of you in a trenchcoat.

honestly one of the best things we can do for ourselves is realize that people of different ages than us can still be the same kind of person as us. it's humbling and it gives everyone involved a sense of continuity, and it busts those stupid generational stereotypes media is so fond of.

Why the fuck are adults and children intermingling any fucking way?

On the most basic level, because on most websites anyone over the age of 13 can legally interact with each other, and on places like tumblr, as it was on the old internet, many people don't share personal information or scrutinize who they're talking to. There are certainly downsides to this. There are predators online who will target minors if they know how old they are. People will start arguments with literal children because they aren't aware those people are children. It's not a perfect system by any means.

But it's also important for us all to understand that we're in this together. For both sides to realize that someone who is younger or older than them is not an alien life form, but a fellow human being who may have the same interests. For kids to have acquaintances of different age groups, mentors, and people to look up to rather than harboring a distrust of all adults. For adults to maintain a healthy relationship to younger generations in order to not fall into the "kids these days" trap.

When I was a teen, I took sewing and jewelry-making classes with older people, and we were as friendly together as a bunch of disparately-aged people with the same interests could be. This was "intermingling," and it wasn't considered creepy. I spent time at the library with the youth librarians and older teenagers. I spent time with my best friend's older siblings, who were legal adults at the time. None of this was out of the ordinary. It is only considered so on the internet.

There is a discomfort there, and plenty of people do not want to interact with those outside their age group. That is totally fine and understandable, especially if they are posting content that is not for everyone! But to react to any interaction between generations as "why the fuck are you intermingling" is really misunderstanding how real life works.

can someone please be proud of me like fuck I’m trying

reblog to let prev know you’re proud of them

“If you have time to watch Netflix you have time for a side hustle” my side hustle is relaxing so that my body and brain can heal from by this nose-to-the-grindstone bullshit. I refuse to feel guilty for being a human with the need to relax sometimes. my side hustle is no.

whenever i hear about hustle culture i always think about this post on r/antiwork

how it looks for two loner shut-ins to swag out together

Reblog to let your followers know that despite your current obsession your previous obsessions still exist and are simply lying dormant until they awaken and strike again

yeah. you all get it.

I think some people forget that some literature and some media is meant to be deeply uncomfortable and unsettling. It's meant to make you have a very visceral reaction to it. If you genuinely can't handle these stories then you are under no obligation to consume them but acting as if they have no purpose or as if people don't have a right to tell these stories, stories that often relate to the darkest or most disturbing parts of life, then you should do some introspection.

yayyyy mutuals hiiiiiiiii reblog if you love your mutualssssssss hiii mutuals

Hey, Tumblr. Guess what. Relationships are defined by the people involved in them, and that's that. If people say they're friends, then they're friends. If people say they're dating, then they're dating. If they say it's a secret third thing, then that's what it is. Someone else's relationship isn't for you to decide.

this is the same for people's attraction. if they say it's platonic, it's platonic. if they say it's romantic, it's romantic. if it's a secret third thing, it's said secret third thing. even if you'd view their attraction as something in the binary of romantic and platonic, what they define it as is what it is.

Drew my favorite picture of Punchy as a kitten

occasional posts from users

reblog if you make occasional posts

I feel like I make occasional posts and lots of shit posts.

nothing wakes me up in the morning like eating eight hundred dollars of cheese out of a sack

Note to vacationing non-Americans: while it’s true that America doesn’t always have the best food culture, the food in our restaurants is really not representative of what most of us eat at home.  The portions at Cheesecake Factory or IHOP are meant to be indulgent, not just “what Americans are used to.”

If you eat at a regular American household, during a regular meal where they’re not going out of their way to impress guests, you probably will not be served twelve pounds of chocolate-covered cream cheese.  Please bear this in mind before writing yet another “omg I can’t believe American food” post.

Also, most American restaurant portions are 100% intended as two meals’ worth of food. Some of my older Irish relatives still struggle with the idea that it’s not just not rude to eat half your meal and take the rest home, it’s expected. (Apparently this is somewhat of an American custom.)

Until you’re hitting the “fancy restaurant” tier (the kind of place you go for a celebration or an anniversary date), a dinner out should generally also be lunch for the next day. Leftovers are very much the norm.

From the little time I’ve spent in Canada, this seems to be the case up there as well.

the portions in family restaurants (as opposed to haute cuisine types) are designed so that no one goes away hungry.

volume IS very much a part of the american hospitality tradition, and Nobody Leaves Hungry is important. but you have to recognize that it’s not how we cook for ourselves, it’s how we welcome guests and strengthen community ties.

so in order to give you a celebratory experience and make you feel welcomed, family restaurants make the portions big enough that even if you’re a teenage boy celebrating a hard win on the basketball court, you’re still going to be comfortably full when you leave.

of course, that means that for your average person with a sit-down job, who ate a decent lunch that day, it’s twice as much as they want or more. that’s ok. as mentioned above, taking home leftovers is absolutely encouraged. that, too, is part of american hospitality tradition; it’s meant to invoke fond memories of grandma loading you down with covered dishes so you can have hearty celebration food all week. pot luck church basement get-togethers where the whole town makes sure everybody has enough. that sort of thing. it’s about sharing. it’s about celebrating Plenty.

it’s not about pigging out until you get huge. treating it that way is pretty disrespectful of our culture. and you know, contrary to what the world thinks, we do have one.

Reblogging because I honestly never thought about it but yeah, this lines up.