I hate this so much

the sun has no business tapping out at the tender hour of 5pm bitch i have depression

girl scout: hi how are yo-

me: thin mints

I really think hospitals and doctors that work with pregnancy and pediatricians need to make more literature available for how to, ya know, work with kids?  Because the more conversations we have about spanking (and how it’s ineffective and harmful and does more bad than good), the more I realize that a lot of people don’t know the alternatives. Or like, anything about child development or where misbehavior stems from. 

So, as someone who went through childhood development classes in college, works with kids for a living, and knows multiple people who specialized in childhood education, here are some pointers when you are working with kids:

1. Model emotional response for kids. Children are learning how to recognize and respond to their own emotions. All the way up through high school, children’s brains are still developing, and the emotions they are learning to process become more complex. So with really young kids, the easiest way to help them with this is to model emotional self awareness and self care. 

2. Understand what causes child frustration and work to preempt it. 

3. Understand that kids are people to. They will get hungry, tired, an annoyed just like adults do. Sometimes you have to be flexible and give them time to self care. Talk to them, explain things to them, let them be people and not just dolls.  “Because I said so” is really unhelpful for a growing kid. “We can’t buy Fruit Loops today because we are already getting Frosted Flakes. We only need one cereal at a time.” is going to do you a lot more favors. “Don’t pick up the glass snow globe. It belongs to grandma and can break easy. She would be sad if we broke it on accident.” is better than “don’t touch that.” 

And look, no parent is perfect. No baby sitter, no teacher, no care taker is going to be awesome all the time. And no kid is going to be perfect. They will cry and have tantrums, and not be able to tell you what they need, and be stubborn sometimes. Sometimes they need space, or quiet time. Sometimes they need attention and validation. 

But kids learn from every interaction they have, so adults need to make the effort to show all the love, and patience, and empathy, and thoughtfulness we want them to learn. 

This is really helpful. Not just for parents but even for anyone interacting with kids. I have a tough time communicating effectively with people my own age. And kids are a whole different ballgame.

snapchat filter: *completely changes every single one of my facial features*

me: wow…how did i not notice this before but maybe i don’t look that bad after all? it’’s amazing that i really look like this haha i just never noticed

It took my mother 12 years to complete the memorization of the Quran. From age 42-54. Consistency is key, if that isn’t motivation then I’m not sure what is.

Do it for you. Not to impress others or prove haters wrong. Not to post on social media or show people you made it. Don’t even do it for your parents, or your friends, or your spouse. Become successful, become the best version of yourself that you can, improve and work on yourself and strive and blossom and grow, for you.

Labaik Ya Hussain(as) لبیک یا حُسین(ع)

Oh Imam Hussain(ع) we will always there for u our lives our blood our money our children all are yours and we’ll always there whenever the present yazidis want to destroy your aim your sacrifice we’ll fight against them till our last breath we’ll wait for our Hujat(عج) we’ll never bow to any yazeed of our time we’ll stand against them as a right like u Oh Imam(ع).

Oh Imam(ع) we’ll always remember u in our good and bad times we’ll sacrifice our lives for u. And never do any sin which make u ashame on qayamah.Imam(ع) we are ur shias we are ur lovers we are your wish we’ll never leave u.We’ll stand there in your shrine and raise our hands replying ur حل من ناصر ینصرانا by Labaik Ya Hussain(ع) we love u and always will Our Imam(ع)

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i need 2 nourish my body so when i die i can contribute maximum nutrients to the trees

اللهم لا تدعنا ذنبا إلا غفرت

Oh Allah, do not leave any sin, except that you forgive it