Bring Back What Once Was Mine

I heard someone swear “you mother fuck!” over the phone the other day, and all I could think of was this

when its sunday 11pm and u remember u had homework

IT’S BACK

WANTED: A CUTE BOY WITH MESSY HAIR WHO IS TALL AND SMELLS NICE AND ENJOYS CUDDLES, WHO WILL TAKE ME TO AQUARIUMS AND POINT TO THE UGLIEST FISH THEY CAN SEE AND SAY “THAT ONE IS YOU” BUT WHO WILL ALSO TAKE ME TO PLANETARIUMS AND TELL ME THAT I AM PRETTIER THAN ALL OF THE STARS IN THE SKY.

I have decided that I will reblog this every time it comes across my dash because it makes me laugh until I think I’m going to puke.

i think it’s cute when someone texts you after hanging out just to say they had fun with you, idk little things like that are sweet to me

That moment in a musical when all the songs are combined to make one giant, mixed reprise.

Bird lands on a page about itself.

“das me”

Adult: your hickey is crude and trashy, you should be ashamed

me: 

Me: *before I take my first bite*

Mom: is it good?

suit yourself humanity

@altjofficial

WAIT. I RECOGNIZE THOSE NAMES.

hoholuly…. hoyl holy shit… finally….

SHIT FUCK. FUCK GOT DAM. FUCKENING SHIT. SHIT, FUCK , D AMN

“Particularly prone to serious procrastination problems are children who grew up with unusually high expectations placed on them…or else they exhibited exceptional talents early on, and thereafter “average” performances were met with concern and suspicion from parents and teachers.”

Holy SHIT

WELL THEN

Yep.

They actually tested me for a learning disability in high school because I was consistently failing math.

They discovered that I actually scored in the 80th percentile in that sort of learning.

Problem was, in every other subject, I was in the 99.8th percentile.

I had never learned how to study because I never needed to—and then, when something proved to be even the slightest bit challenging, my brain went

“LOL nope this is impossible abort”

Meanwhile, this entire time I’m scraping by in subjects like English. The assignments I did turn in, I’d score top marks—but I’d avoid turning in projects I didn’t think were “good” enough.

Essentially, my brain had two settings: “100%” or “0%”.

This sort of Baby Genius shit makes kids and adolescents neurotic and self-destructive.

We learned about this in Child Development. And we learned to reward hard work and not good job. Like don’t say to a child, “oh you are so smart.” Say “Oh did worked so hard.” Be proud of the child, not the achievement.

Be proud of the child, not the achievement.

Decades of research have been done on this by Dr. Carol Dweck. When the emphasis is placed on effort (a factor people can control) rather than talent (an innate skill), it’s a lot easier to see mistakes as a learning opportunity rather than something you just won’t ever be good at. And kids who were encouraged by effort were also more willing to take on more challenging work and considered it a lot more fun, while the kids who were praised for their intelligence were reluctant to put themselves in a situation where they might lose that identifier as a “smart kid” by making mistakes, so they preferred to do work they were confident they could master. Also, the kids praised for effort wanted to compare their results to kids who got higher scores, to see where they made their mistakes, while those praised for intelligence wanted to compare their results to kids who scored lower, to reassure themselves.

Not only does this set up “smart” students for a lot of trouble when they enter college and start being regularly challenged, the effects last long beyond that. It can be very hard for the “you’re so smart!” kids to unlearn as they become adults and struggle with even common adult things, and are afraid to ask for help because of that lesson they learned from misguided praise that they are supposed to be smart and supposed to know the answers. 

…Honestly +1 here.  It’s very well researched and documented and yeah.  Making the emphasis on “You succeed and we are proud of you b/c you are SMART as an intrinsic quality!” makes failure/setbacks/difficulty -TERRIFYING- b/c if you’re “smart” it doesn’t happen and if you fail that means you’re not smart and that’s what everyone’s drilled into you as your main point of worth.

And the rates of anxiety disorders among “gifted student” kids are kinda horrifying.    

This is why “you’re so smart” means absolutely nothing to me any more. It’s used as punishment as often as it’s used as praise. 

#i hate how real this post is

fucking same

that explains a lot

i love seeing girls close ranks when their fella is cheating, instead of defending him and attacking the other girls. like seriously. it warms my cold, cold heart so much. 

i need the rest of this story, where did you put the body

Diane Guerrero wrote a book about when she was just a teenager she was left homeless after her family was deported to Colombia and how the American welfare system did absolutely nothing to help her and she’s been advocating and bringing awareness to mental health issues within the Latin community and y'all only recognise her as the pretty girl from the puta gif instead of the valid important activist she is.

Technically speaking there is a lot of food in this house. However, none of it is sweet and none of it is microwaveable. Therefore, there is no food in this house.

One more time for the people in the back

you can fly that shit rag of slavery and treason and not get arrested but protest for black lives & you get brutalized AND arrested.

PREACH