Updated my age by 4yrs...feels bad

hahahahaaaa get safe and cared for, idiot

happy late trans day of visibility from everyone's favorite vampire 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️✨✨

how it should have happened...

Fuck cazaldor.💀

Saw a tag on my post about low approval Halsin that said he sounded like Gordon Ramsay when angry and, well... 💀

low approval/annoyed Halsin is so funny he's just

"I can NOT be assed to help you useless twats but FINE... I will anyway for FUCK'S sake"

It's dangerous to go alone, take Halsin djungelskog along with you

Shepard pupper in training

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IT WAS ONE GIANT FROG

It was one giant frog but then the Egyptians hit the frog and it became many little frog

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It was one family of frogs

I'M —

Em Hoover in our WORK issue.

The Nib is shutting down after 10 years of publishing. I’m forever thankful I got to publish this piece with them. 💖 You can still get physical copies of the magazine it was in online and enjoy their whole backlog.

Do you mean like me, or like that people in general should do that?

There should definitely be more kinky romance in the world.

This post helped me make sense of something that has been nagging at me for ages, but I haven't been able to put words to until now!

I consider myself to be a kink positive and sex positive person, but I've had this ongoing issue of finding myself very uncomfortable with what I've come to think of as "kink-adjacent" communities. These are communities that practice a lot of the same things as the kink communities I'm familiar with, but without the sex.

Somehow, even though I'm on the asexual spectrum myself, I have always felt more comfortable interacting with people in the explicitly labeled "kink" communities, while the non-sexual communities that are often labeled "no kink!" make me very uncomfortable.

What I've just realized is that OP is completely right! It's all kink because it's not about the sex. It's about the power exchange and the power dynamics.

Inside kink communities, that's usually all spelled out up front and there is no hiding it. We all know that this is about power dynamics etc. We all know that this is kink.

But in those communities where people are screaming "No kink! SFW only! No sex!" all the stuff about power dynamics and power exchange tends to be obfuscated and/or denied. Maybe this is because I'm neurodivergent and I struggle with ambiguity, but I really dislike this obfuscation!

My perception is that when things are clearly called kink, as they should be, it's easy to define my boundaries around them and let people know what I am and am not comfortable with. But when people won't recognize that something is kink, just because it doesn't include sex, then it feels so much harder to maintain those boundaries. I just want to know what I'm getting into before I show up somewhere (virtual spaces included). It's important for me to be in the right headspace when I'm encountering certain types of power dynamics.

OP, I really hope this doesn't derail your post or I'm not intruding on a larger conversation that I've missed. I'm genuinely so grateful that your insight helped me make sense of something that I've been struggling with.

No, that's a great point, and thank you for making it. A lot of people don't talk clearly about power exchange and boundaries outside of sex, and they should. Kink communities are often good at that in ways that others are not.

just had SO much fun with the fallout tv show... i love you missus okey dokey

@misterpeacher

it’s sooo funny when rude customers encounter employees who can deny them service for the first time.

i was working at a little cafe where I could deny service over bad behavior, harassment etc. & mask mandates had just ended a week before & already people were being weird about me still wearing mine—an N95, the kind shaped kinda like a duckbill.

so this man walked in, looked at me sooo scathingly, laughed at me, and said “damn. never known a woman to choose…practicality over looks.”

And I just said, “oh. you can go, you’re not getting a drink.” And he said, “what???”

I said, “sir, you just walked in at 6 am & called women impractical and me ugly in one sentence.”

And he was so astonished he didn’t even argue he just turned around and left 💀🙏🏻 it was like he suddenly became self aware

Look at them 🥺🥺🥺🥺

Kittens has become Muslim

you motherfuckers better be lifting with your legs and not your back

Because I never knew what that really meant until my back already hurt:

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