god lmao i was just reading a post by some girl asking for advice because her lifelong best friend is a man and his girlfriend is coming with him when he visits to meet her for the first time and she wants to know how she can make her feel welcome in their friendship and all the comments are like “don’t spend a lot of time recollecting funny memories with your friend/her boyfriend, don’t reference any inside jokes, don’t talk a lot about your childhood with him, because these will all be signs that you have a stronger bond with him than she does which will be rude and isolating and sorta look like you’re into him” and i’m so……..
some of you are not ready to be in any kind of adult relationship and it shows
“hi my best friend of many years is bringing his girlfriend to meet me because she wants to meet his best friend! any advice on how to be super welcoming?”
“under no circumstances should you in any way indicate that you two are best friends”