I fucking hate it when you’re in such a fantastically giddy mood and then you see one simple little thing that makes you think, “oh” and then you just get this empty feeling in your chest and you get nauseous and the world just crumbles and you want to just lay under a blanket and close your eyes and fall asleep and never wake up.

To the aplatonic aros

- those who are afraid they might not be “really aros” but broken because, they don’t feel this love either … ? - those who are even more afraid because they have troubles being close to every person in their life and wonder if they’re really just broken and need to be fixed, especially when they feel their troubles come from trauma / mental illnesses  - those who feel like their life is not important if they don’t find someone they can have a deep connection with  - those who feel like the only point of being aro is finding a QPR and are angry they can’t - those who keep wondering if they feel platonic attraction but can’t tell it, just like the way you can wonder about romantic attraction  - those who are scared because they feel like they’re gonna end up alone and it seems to be such an horrible thing, even in the aro community  - those who try to find a QPR even if that makes them uncomfortable because of said fear  - those who feel fine being alone until society reminds them that living alone is horrible - those who aren’t alone but aren’t very close to anyone either and are told that they should find a meaningfull relationship to be complete - and those I forgot to mention, but who need this anyway  You are important. You are valid. Not being very close to people isn’t a bad thing. Being alone isn’t a bad thing. In fact, you’re great! :) 

“aromantics don’t have feelings D:”

look buddy i try not to judge but if literally the only emotion you can experience is romantic attraction, you might have an issue

there’s no such thing as a stupid reason not to kill yourself.

your school sells cookies on thursdays? your favorite band is coming out with a new album? you’re still saving up for that tattoo? there’s still five sodas in your fridge and it’d be a shame to let them go to waste? you want to see the season finale of that show you love? keep living.

your reasons don’t have to be big, if they mean anything to you then they’re good reasons.

Yes! Just make something to look forward to

Okay but this is honestly true.

One of the closest times I came to committing suicide was when I was home alone for the weekend a few years ago. The reason I didn’t?

No one else was there to feed the cat until Monday. 

That’s it. That’s all that saved me. 

See, this is such good advice, because it can put you in the frame of mind that you need to be in to combat depression. Even things that seem little, like, “My plant will die if I don’t water it,” or “I’m the only one that takes out the trash, anyways” are examples of how you’re needed and valuable, even appreciated.

There are people out there that need you and love you. Stay alive friend, because it is so worth it.

my specialty: the accidental 12-hour nap in broad daylight

I am an aromantic and I...

Have emotions, just like everyone else.

Daniell Koepke (via warqueenfuriosa)

Internalized arophobia

The world tells us That romantic love Is the only love to strive for That it is the greatest of the loves The pinnacle of what it means To feel love.

And so When we start to realize That we do not feel that That we cannot experience Love In the romantic sense we feel broken We feel Self hate Because the world has taught us that romantic love is all there is And so what is left for us? Those that do not feel it?

We become scared to question Scared to accept Perhaps this is love! Perhaps if I give it time Perhaps if I- Because we do not want to be Broken

Because aromantic To the world Is broken Because aromantic To the world Means not feeling something That is meant to make us human And we internalize that Think ourselves less Wrong Even though we are not.

It is the system that is wrong! It is the system that tells us that we are broken Less then human Wrong That is broken! We are not! We are human! We are aromantic! And we are complete. ———–

For perksofbeingaro I hope these words help.

trans people choose to transition in the same way someone who fell in a ditch chooses to crawl out and not starve to death, not in the same way someone chooses to get married or buy a new house.

friendly reminder for aces and aros

Take five minutes out of your day today to explore the hashtag #TransHealthFail. Launched by the up-and-coming app MyTransHealth, it’s a collection of stories from trans and nonbinary people about the discrimination, harassment, rejection and downright humiliation they’ve faced at the hands of insensitive or ignorant healthcare providers. This is critically important – take it from the people who’ve lived it. (via BuzzFeed)

www.thepolardream.tumblr.com

I am not used to having healthy relationships to the point where my brain tries to find fault where there is none just because it can’t accept that I’ve really found a good thing

long term effects of emotional abuse:

Me: *gets anxiety making a phone call* Also me: *feels completely at ease and downright cheerful wandering around unfamiliar city with only vague knowledge of how to get to where I’m going*