dreamer extraordinaire

[id a spotify playlist titled "kate bush threw a house party but there's too many people and now she's stressed" with three songs in it. the songs are "wow" by kate bush, "full house" by kate bush, and "get out of my house" by kate bush end id]

Goes into your house and does this with your windows

my mom got me this little thing and im obsessed with him.... little creature..

I have been thinking. about the creature

This meme except they're nice friends supporting each other :)

i miss when someone would post an image and then another person would reblog from them with seemingly the same image but there was a lucky luciano hidden in there somewhere. and you spent 5 minutes looking for it. do you remember how we used to play

screw “what would kill a victorian orphan”, reblog and put in the tags what would make 14-year-old you explode

Me: I'm a cool adult who's in touch with the youth and won't denigrate their slang.

The Youth: *use 'pos' to mean 'positive'*

Me: The lord is testing me.

Reminds me of this post I saw yesterday, didn't know what pos meant until just now. Still don't know what HJ is

"Why do we have to use labels? Why can't everyone just be themselves and be accepted?"

It's to do with language.

Before I realised I was grey-ace, I didn't identify as asexual (I had some misconceptions about the definition of asexuality, and as I was in love and romantically attracted to my partner, I thought that was sexual attraction).

But I also didn't feel like I quite fit in with the heteros. Everyone seemed OBSESSED with sex, and yeah it's great, but so is chocolate and a cat on your lap and a good book and no work the next day.

I thought I was alone with how I felt and that everyone around me was SO WEIRD. It's weird to want to bang people you went to school or work with! How can you possibly find them attractive?

Even when I looked up asexuality, I still didn't really identify as ace because, as I found out when I found the label, I'm sex favourable. I don't usually initiate but I'm happy to participate. It wasn't until I read some books with ace characters talking about the same exeriences I felt, and then I looked up the term 'grey-ace', that I finally realised I was on the ace spectrum.

If there was no word for asexuality, I'd still feel like I was a loner and outcast, 'weird' among all the allos. If there was no label for gray-ace, I wouldn't have found my home on the ace spectrum. Because I could ONLY identify as allosexual, I would feel like maybe like there was something wrong with ME. It would affect my mental health. It affected several of my relationships in the past. Thinking I was the same as everyone else, just different, affected my whole goddamn life.

Once I found my label, I felt so much better, knowing that other people experienced this as well.

Labels can help you feel not so alone, and in that way, they are powerful.

stop drawing for others. don't draw for yourself either. play video games

The fastest way to shut down my "freelance life means I have to constantly be working" thoughts is to remind myself that if I was a boss holding a worker to the standards I hold myself to, their union would hunt me for sport and nobody would blame them.

Not me immediately screenshotting this and posting it to the OPP freelance writers chat I'm in

Full offense and pun fully intended, but I genuinely think the very existence of "dead dove, do not eat" was a fucking canary in the mines, and no one really paid attention.

Because the tag itself was created as a response to a fandom-wide tendency to disregard warnings and assume tagging was exaggerated. And then the same fucking idiots reading those tags describing things they found upsetting or disturbing or just not to their taste would STILL click into the stories and give the writer's grief about it.

And as a response writers began using the tag to signal "no, really, I MEAN the tags!"

But like.

If you really think about it, that's a solution to a different problem. The solution to "I know you tagged your story appropriately but I chose to disregard the tags and warnings by reading it anyway, even though I knew it would upset me, so now I'm upset and making it your problem" is frankly a block, a ban and wide-spread blacklisting. But fandom as a whole is fucking awful at handling bad faith, insidious arguments that appeal to community inclusion and weaponize the fact most people participating in fandom want to share the space with others, as opposed to hurting people.

So instead of upfront ridiculing this kind of maladaptive attempt to foster one's own emotional self-regulation onto random strangers on the internet, fandom compromised and came up with a redundant tag in a good faith attempt to address an imaginary nuance.

There is no nuance to this.

A writer's job is to tag their work correctly. It's not to tag it exhaustively. It's not even to tag it extensively. A writer's sole obligation, as far as AO3 and arguably fandom spaces are concerned, is to make damn sure that the tags they put on their story actually match whatever is going on in that story.

That's it.

That's all.

"But what if I don't want to read X?" Well, you don't read fic that's tagged X.

"But what if I read something that wasn't tagged X?" Well, that's very unfortunate for you, but if it is genuinely that upsetting, you have a responsibility to yourself to only browse things explicitly tagged to not include X.

"But that's not a lot of fic!" Hi, you must be new here, yes, welcome to fandom. Most of our spaces are built explicitly as a reaction to There's Not Enough Of The Thing I Want, both in canon and fandom.

"But there are things on the internet that I don't like!" Yeah, and they are also out there, offline. And, here's the thing, things existing even though we personally dislike or even hate or even flat out find offensive/gross/immoral/unspeakable existing is the price we pay to secure our right to exist as individuals and creators, regardless of who finds US personally unpleasant, hateful or flat out offensive/gross/immoral/unspeakable.

"But what about [illegal thing]?!" So the thing itself is illegal, because the thing itself has been deemed harmful. But your goddamn cop-poisoned authoritarian little heart needs to learn that sometimes things are illegal that aren't harmful, and defaulting to "but illegal!" is a surefire way to end up on the wrong side of the fascism pop quiz. You're not a figure of authority and the more you demand to control and exercise authority by command, rather than leadership, the less impressive you seem. You know how you make actual, genuine change in a community? You center harm and argue in good faith to find accommodations and spread awareness of real, actual problems.

But let's play your game. Let's pretend we're all brainwashed cop-abiding little cogs that do not own a single working brain cell to exercise critical thinking with. 99% of the time, when you cry about any given thing "being illegal!!!" you're correct only so far as the THING itself being illegal. The act or object is illegal. Depiction of it is not. You know why, dipshit? Because if depiction of the thing were illegal, you wouldn't be able to talk about it. You wouldn't be able to educate about it. You wouldn't be able to reexamine and discuss and understand the thing, how and why and where it happens and how to prevent it. And yeah, depiction being legal opens the door for people to make depictions that are in bad taste or probably not appropriate. Sure. But that's the price we pay, creating tools to demystify some of the most horrific things in the world and support the people who've survived them. The net good of those tools existing outweighs the harm of people misusing them.

"You're defending the indefensible!" No, you're clumsily stumbling into a conversation that's been going on for centuries, with your elementary school understanding of morality and your bone-deep police state rot filtering your perception of reality, and insisting you figured it out and everyone else at the table is an idiot for not agreeing with you. Shut the fuck up, sit the fuck down and read a goddamn book.

relevant everywhere tbh