Most of you know that 2016 hasn’t been an easy year for our family - between being displaced from our home for 99 days and all of the expenses our insurance company wouldn’t cover or covered only in part, medical expenses… and now this.

On December 29th around 11:30 PM, Lex, our 7 year old Lab mix, collapsed in our bedroom. Despite all our best efforts and the best care of the emergency vet, he passed away on December 30 at 7:29 am.

It isn’t cheap having a dog need a lot of specialty care and then pass, but that’s the gamble you make when you adopt a dog, especially a stray like Lex. And we thought, well, this was tough but we can handle the cost.

Then this morning Cap, my daughter’s 18mo puppy, got into a bottle of heart meds that must have fallen off a shelf.

We don’t know yet how much it will cost for Cap’s care. What we paid today as a down payment was the low end. We don’t even know if he’ll survive. But we have to try.

This is the dog that saved my daughter’s life.

Quite literally, during the time that she was so depressed that she was suicidal earlier this year, she didn’t go through with it because she “couldn’t do that to Cap or you.”

As much as I hate this, we just can’t manage two bills like this one right after the other.

Frankly, I’m willing to do whatever is needed to raise this money for my daughter’s dog to have the best shot at life. Want a fanfic? Sure. I’ll write you one. Want me to do a dramatic reading? Write an essay on a topic of your choosing within reason? I’ll be your dancing monkey if it helps keep Cap alive.

The current fundraiser amount is the amount we have paid in for both dogs. It may go up as costs go up.

Thank you. If you can’t donate, please boost. If every follower could donate a dollar we’d be way over our goal.

@thebibliosphere, @seananmcguire, @mistresskabooms… please boost.

Literally no. The APAC has never been as black-and-white as simply defining yourself as anti pro ana. It’s a community of people who want to make a positive difference in terms of the way eating disorders are perceived. There’s always been more to it than simply highlighting the dangers of the pro ana movement and calling out/reporting toxic pro ana content - there has always been a focus on education, raising awareness and challenging misconceptions and the stigma that surrounds the illness, especially certain diagnoses. Certainly, nobody can stop you from defining yourself as APA and running a blog, but when long-term APA bloggers are raising concerns about the misinformation that you are spreading, it’s something I would advise you do not ignore simply because you believe that you have a right to label your blog as APA. Sure you do, but why - if you believe in the importance of the anti pro ana movement - would you ever want to reinforce any of the misconceptions about eating disorders, intentional or not? When you first created your blog, you messaged me asking for a shout out - and I gladly obliged. Now I am asking you for a favour - don’t trash the reputation of the anti pro ana community in relation to the accurate, trustworthy and unbiased information it shares on the topic of eating disorders simply in an attempt to prove a point under the misguided belief that by defining yourself as APA, you have the right to share your own opinions as though they are facts.This isn’t about your right to express your beliefs, it’s about having the respect not to share them on a supposedly APA blog when doing so results in the fuelling of misinformation, in order to protect people from harm.

This.

The APAC is a community of safety, love and understanding (and the fight against pro ana). We’re not hateful, unless really provoked.

“We’re not hateful, unless really provoked.”  Soooo you’re saying that anti-pro-ed bloggers are *only* hateful under certain circumstances, which still makes us hateful and directly contradicts your claim that APAC is safe, loving, and understanding.  How do we as a community define “really provoked,” @eeating-is-very-chanel?  I’ve seen you write “fuck you” and “bye bitch” on random posts, asks, and conversations in which you were never addressed or primarily involved.  I’ve also seen @theherooftime1991​ respond to numerous death threats and malicious messages by saying, “I know that you sent this because you are hurting, and I’m sorry you’re in pain.”  Either the two of you are outliers, or there honestly aren’t any “really provocative” situations that merit derogatory responses from APA blogs.  I’m in favor of the latter.

APAC is a community comprised of people who need to prioritize emotional self-regulation and impulse control when we’re being taunted and baited.  If that’s not manageable, don’t post. :)

You can’t simply use the excuse “well, I was mad” to justify abuse, regardless of the situation. @eeating-is-very-chanel

all this yo

Your scrolling, simply just looking. When these pictures turn up, girls in leggings with bones protruding. You look deeper, ribs peeking out a concave stomach, you become obsessed with the fact these faceless girls are more aesthetically pleasing then you are. It’s been a week now, all that clouds your mind is the pictures, their sickly thin body, so delicate and light.

It’s a month, you haven’t eaten in 5 days and you can’t even stand up without almost passing out.

2 months and your parents are concerned, you refuse to even look at food.

6 months and your down to only drinking water, heaven forbid you eat something.

8 months and you’ve reached a weight so severe your loosing muscle mass.

9 months and your brain is deteriorating.

12 months and your in a hospital being force fed.

And it all happened because of those pictures.

Thinspo is dangerous.

Thinspo triggers people.

Thinspo could trigger someone with an underlying eating disorder.

THINSPO KILLS PEOPLE.

Stop normalising starvation.

Stop promoting mental illness.

Stop claiming your blog is for yourself to vent. Make it a private blog, don’t make the pictures public to the world. Don’t encourage others to aspire to be like those sickly thin girls.

Don’t promote eating disorders.

I wish people without ED understood that

I fight every single day to not use behaviors. I may be sitting in the library, working on homework but I’m having an internal dialogue of:

“You have to eat your lunch now.” “But I don’t want to. People are watching.” “You have to. Take out your sandwich. And your crackers. And cookie. And juice. Eat. You can do this.”

Whereas normal people don’t even consider eating- they just do it.

Or that I have to convince myself to use the elevator, not run up the 5 flights of stairs to my class.

And I have to stop myself if I am body checking. I often find my hands resting on my collarbones or hip bones. It’s not even a conscious behavior, but I have to tell myself to stop.

Every single choice related to food, eating, engaging with others, listening to thoughts in my head, comparing myself to others, perfectionism, body image, confidence matters.

Recovery is a full time job. People who don’t know that I am in recovery don’t realize the amount of work I am putting in to make myself a better person.

there’s literally no difference

Someone doesn’t have to be emaciated to be considered sick and how sick someone is while they are suffering from an eating disorder has nothing to do with how thin they are. Way to invalidate those who have eating disorders and aren’t considered underweight. People like you are the reason people feel like they don’t deserve help because they don’t think they’re “sick enough” for help.

You think Jenna is harmful but you just invalidated so many people and re-enforced a common stereotype.

ANTI pro ana tips and tricks

I always report blogs from my phone or iPod. Here is how I do it:

1. Find the pro ana blog, screenshot a few examples of the pro ana bulshit. 2. Seeing as I am on the app, I type their blog name into Safari and at the end add .tumblr.com and their blog just pops up. 3. I copy their URL 4. I go into my email app and email abuse@tumblr.com 5. Write ‘pro ana blog’ as the subject 6. Paste their URL. 7. Go to photos 8. Top right corner I click select and select all the pro ana shit 9. Click the bottom right little box with the arrow & select copy. All of the screenshots will be copied. 10. Back to Mail and just click paste & send and voila!

It’d be so nice to get a few of these little APAC tips going! 😀

This is super helpful! Thanks!

then report it to staff instead of making a hate blog if you feel it shouldn't be on tumblr and let them take care of it.

I don’t care if your pro Ana blog has been up for 3 hours or 3 years. I don’t care if you’ve got a blog with 10 followers or 10,000. They’re both harmful, they both violate the tumblr terms of service, and they’re both going to get reported.

“The brain can get sick too.“ 

Re-make of this post. 

End mental health stigma.

I ended up blocking this person because they sent me another message about how pro anas aren’t going to stop. It’s like saying people are still going to murder so why even try arresting murderers. I just don’t even know how to reply to that kind of stupidity.

anti-pro-ana made me realize how wrong and horrible pro-ana content is because I used to run a thinspo blog. in fact, anti-pro-ana inspired me so much that I now have my own blog dedicated to being APA.

GIRLS — if you hit, slap, belittle, kick, punch, choke, throw things at, or control your boyfriends, you are the abuser. You are not a “strong woman”, “empowered”, or anything similar. You are hurting him. Even if his muscles are strong enough to take it, a hit or slap from someone you love is an emotional blow.

Written by a girl who’d never hit a guy.