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Yep, worth reblogging everytime I see it.

Saw on the local news the other day how Salvation Army was struggling for donations during the pandemic and all I said was “Good.”

The Headlines of 2020

Benefiting from privilege is not like. A decision that ppl make, necessarily. A man who makes more money than a woman coworker most likely didn’t personally decide that would be the case. But he is getting paid more, because the system is geared in his favor. This isn’t a moral failing of his, that he has privilege over someone else. It is however, a moral failing of his to learn abt this and do nothing, or to willfully remain in ignorance for lack of caring for disadvantaged ppl. But stop taking it so personally when ppl point out that u benefit from the system in ways that hurt other ppl. Your reaction shouldnt be to get defensive, or to try and make yourself pitiable. Listen to the ppl who are at a disadvantage to you, help them in the ways that they ask you to help.

Indie devs accounting for accessibility: okay, we gotta consult people with colorblindness, vision impairment, epilepsy, hearing impairment- oh, wait, someone on twitter told us that this would be helpful, we should add this too-

AAA devs accounting for accessibility:

In related news, I cannot read the Little House series any longer without going “Oh wow this is real fucked up. I can’t believe this snapshot of the colonialism process as it happened is like such a feel good book for so many people. That’s fucked up.”

The book; talking about how all the settlers in Kansas KNEW they were on Osage land, but didn’t give a shit because they all figured that the US Government was going to break the treaty and come in and either kill all of the Osage tribe or forcibly resettle them (they were, of course, right.)

My elderly relatives; It’s such a nice book!

Me; Are you…are you SURE about that.

I’ve gotten no less than fourteen nasty messages about this post, four of them telling me to kill myself and stop ruining classic American literature with my “braindead r-word liberal agenda”, so I think it’s time to reblog it and restate this!

Alienation under Capitalism

https://floridacovidaction.com/

http://m.dailykos.com/story/2015/08/03/1408341/-Psychologist-openly-admits-he-trains-police-officers-to-shoot-first-and-ask-questions-later S-I-G-N-A-L B-O-O-S-T

No. YOU DON’T GET TO DO THIS AND SLIP UNDER THE RADAR. Anyone who’s seeing this, I beg you to reblog. I want as many people to see this shit as possible.

this is really true tho!!! my uncle was a cop in NY & FL and they taught him to shoot first if he had to. anytime a cop feels threatened (and they basically teach cops they’re always threatened) they can shoot. its rlly sick psychological torture shit to help create a police state tbh

W H A T

Here’s a source from NY Times https://www.nytimes.com/2015/08/02/us/training-officers-to-shoot-first-and-he-will-answer-questions-later.html

Also! Click here to contact his organization and remind him of the blood on his hands. These are his murders too, and everyone involved deserves to feel the weight of guilt. 

I JUST PUT MY SHIRT ON AND THERE WAS A SPIDER IN IT!!!!!!!!

or did you just put a shirt on that a spider was already wearing?

thats so rude

good morning to she/theys, cancer moons, people w nouns for names, myspace users, sharpie sniffers, perfect eyesight havers, catboys, and those with bones unbroken throughout life :3 the rest of you gm i guess :/

The Birthday party was a success!

Photos/caption by Chicória Maria

nobody has been bullied for being a nerd since like 1990 and star wars and superheroes and video games have been mainstream to the point of oversaturation for like 20+ years now and adult man babies still have a persecution complex. may divorce be with you 

i’ve been on hold at my library for a book about asexuality for a few weeks and i just read an article about some concepts in the book re: consent. and holy shit. blew my mind. i’ve NEVER read about consent in the context of a relationship with an ace and an allo that resonated so strongly with me, and as a person in such a relationship!! it’s so!!! i’m even more excited for the book now.

for anyone interested, the article is How to Negotiate Better Consent: An Asexual Perspective and the book i’m waiting for is Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society and the Meaning of Sex.

god okay, just to gush about this more, the author suggests using the categories of enthusiastic, willing, unwilling and coerced consent (rather than just “enthusiastic consent” or “no means no”). i really recommend reading the whole article linked above, but what blew my mind is the distinction between enthusiastic and willing consent. it gets broken down like this:

Enthusiastic consent:

Willing consent:

and like!!! it made me realize i may have never actually enthusiastically consented in my life, but like, that doesn’t mean i have never or cannot consent! i almost always fall into the “willing consent” framework and i’ve never seen that….validated anywhere. anyway, it’s just given me this perspective about my sexuality and consent in general and better ways to relate to my partner and!!! idk!!! thank goodness for other ace people, is what i’m saying.

This is very useful and a lot of sex work can also be best understood as willing consent, where the indirect consequences of having sex (getting paid) are what is desired and the direct consequences (having probably-mediocre sex with someone you don’t actively desire) are not considered so negative that they outweigh the indirect consequences.

Which is a definition of consent that gives sex workers agency and sees their consent as a choice made again and again based on the pros and cons, not something that is coerced and also not something that always exists by default simply because they are sex workers.

Recognizing willing consent is probably validating for a lot of people who have consent to sex without meeting the definition of enthusiastic consent. 

Also what is it about having a cold that makes you look in the mirror and think "I have never been sexier than this moment"