Ah, yes. I mean, look at all these horrible female characters.
Egwene, the only one of the Two Rivers gang who wanted to leave Emond’s Field, to go out and experience and learn everything. The one who wanted more than the provincial life. The one who had to learn that there are consequences to her actions, learn to meet take the responsibility and say, I have toh. Please, help me meet it. Who was set up as a puppet and a figurehead but who took charge and healed a broken Tower. Who made mistakes in the process – I mean, how dare an 18-year-old misjudge people and situations on occasion? Surely she should see the big picture from every angle all the time. Shame on her.
Or Nynaeve, the one who was placed in a position of authority very young, who had to constantly prove and assert herself or risk losing all of that authority. Who left that life behind to save four young people of her village, had to go back to being a student and try to unlearn the Wisdom’s attitude that she’d undoubtedly worked hard to cultivate. Who rejected the man she loved because they both had a duty and those duties lay along different paths. Who was, at the darkest hour of the series, one of only two people to see the savior of the world as the person he had been and could be again, not the hollow shell of a man he had become. Who was unfailingly loyal to those she loved and refused to believe that something couldn’t be Healed.
Perhaps Elayne? Who grew up so privileged and sheltered yet turned out kind and just. Who could be stubborn and even childish at times (again, how dare an 18-year-old be that way) but who wasn’t afraid to admit it when she’d realise that she was wrong about something. Who worked so hard to be a worthy friend and sister to Aviendha, whom she admired immensely.
Min, who was neither a super-powerful channeller nor a trained warrior, who was so far out of her depth among all the Aes Sedai and ta’veren heroes of legend but wouldn’t give up and go home and leave the saving of the world to others. Who took it upon herself to study philosophy and metaphysics to help figure out how to mend the Dark One’s prison. But, I mean, obviously her character arc was completely defined by her dependence on Rand. How dare she spend most of the series around the man she loved (and who needed her help re: the aforementioned seals, among other things). Strong Female Character card revoked.
Aviendha, who had to rearrange her entire world view upon becoming a Wise One’s apprentice, who had to navigate strange cultures and balance between fitting in and staying true to her origins. Who had to step out of her comfort zone in so many ways and accept that the Aiel way is not the only correct way of doing things. Who kept her pride but learned to see past it and not be blinded by it.
Faile, who ran away from her privileged life to escape the responsibilities of the heir to a noble house, and who ended up embracing those responsibilities in the Two Rivers where she found something personally worth fighting for. Who thought she knew so much about the ways of the world and had to learn that there were many things she didn’t know… and then set out to learn them.
Moiraine, who devoted all of her adult life to saving the world. Who thought for 20 years that she was going to do that by finding the Dragon Reborn and guiding him safely through the prophecies, only to discover that the Dragon had other plans. Who had to completely revise her strategy, often on the fly. Who would have and did sacrifice all to give the world a chance.
I could go on but I mean… I sort of get where you’re coming from? When I first got into the series, age 14 or so, my opinion on most of the female characters was that they were ‘annoying’. But as soon as you look any deeper than the bare minimum surface reading of ‘these bitches just can’t agree with the guys/the plot’ there’s like, all of the reasons for everybody to be as they are and do what they do. (Mostly. I’m just… not touching Berelain’s way too drawn-out thing with Perrin.) The characters make sense, and it is all in the text, it’s not something you have to bend over backwards to explain or use unfounded headcanon to retcon.
But of course, each reader brings their own expectations into the text and if they’re satisfied with the surface reading and happy to storm off in righteous fury… I dunno. Enjoy?