That bittersweet moment when his waiver gets lost which means that he’s currently not deployable (which we love), but that also means he can’t do all of the training he needs to do in order to start his new job (which we don’t love). Fortunately it sounds like everybody is working their butts off to get everything situated, but it feels like stress after stress keeps hitting my man and I’m not here for it.

Just to share a happy vibe today: he's out of state training for his new job right now, I told him I was probably gonna order DoorDash for dinner, so he asked me what I wanted and did it for me so he could pay for it for me. And it was just the sweetest thing ever (he was also on the phone with me when I was at the store and insisted I buy the food I've been craving for weeks but have been refusing to buy).

How do ya'll make friends at new duty stations?? We have been here a year and I still have no friends. Its hard because I work from home full time and don't have any kids and I'm 26 years old. There aren't many base sponsored events where we are at and if there are any they are geared towards moms who don't work and so I feel like there is no good way for me to meet people. It doesnt help that I am also pretty shy when it comes to meeting new people

met this person; he is currently stationed in a city that is literally just about an hour away from me, but i just found out today that he is getting his new new orders soon and he’ll be leaving in august. But, the thing is i’m not sure what we are doing considering we’ve been talking for about a month and i met him and his friends already. His friends loved me and all, but now i have to have the “what are we doing?” talk before he ends up shipping out to his next station. what should i do?

Vent I guess? I have unnatural colors in my hair and I always feel bad whenever I have to go around my husband’s superiors. I always feel like I’m not a presentable wife even though he assures me my colored hair is fine. I’m always scared my peacock hair will make his superiors question his judgement.

I grew up in the Corps and was very adamant that I would not ever be with someone military. Guess who went and fell head over heels for a service member 1500 miles away from her. This chick. 🤦🏼‍♀️ Send help. I would fall in love during a pandemic.

VENT. My husband was told by his command that they're getting an exception to the stop movement order and sending him on deployment on the original schedule, which is soon, pandemic or not. I am so angry and defeated. I can't believe they'd go through with it when international travel isn't safe yet. I know I signed up for military recklessness, but I thought the risks would be gunfire, bombs, and PTSD, not a novel viral infection causing strokes and destroying lungs in young, healthy people.

My ex has PTSD...but from his past marriage. He is a fighter pilot, but terrified of ME and loving me. His first day of therapy is today. I know he’s trying. He tells me he loves me and misses me—but he has never said he needs me. It’s like a mental block he has. He has admitted he has problems with being verbally emotional with me. I just want him to get help. To be healthy. I wish I knew how to love him in a way he could receive. He said he’ll let me know how it goes 😞

When he's stationed on the other side of the ocean so you're constantly bitter that you're being cockblocked by an OCEAN of all damn things.

My boyfriend is stationed a plane ride away. We get to see each other only on the weekend but still pretty frequently. Everytime I leave I am a crying mess. I think it might be separation anxiety since his return from his last deployment (11 months). Any suggestions to alleviate the tears?

Pro tip - if your SO is gone for an extended timeframe, don't watch shows that show your celebrity crush in a way that makes them a million times hotter (and look a little too much like your SO) and/or that involves some very hot ~adult~ scenes that could involve said actor. It is almost guaranteed you will want certain things that you cannot have until your SO is home. So I guess there will be zero watching of The Witcher in this home until my husband is home. Damn you, Henry Cavill, damn you.

What are some cute first date ideas from when your S/O comes back from their deployment?

(vent) it's officially been a month since I heard from my husband. I've been doing well this underway since I've been keeping busy with work and such, but this week I've worked from home due to crazy local weather, and tonight it just really hit me. I hate this. I just want to read that he's okay since all we have is email. I miss my best friend so much right now it hurts. I can't even tell him I'm struggling because that'll get flagged and screened out. This blows a bag of dicks.

a little thing bc i’m new at this. i’ve been good friends with my now bf for years and over the holiday break we decided to properly give this relationship thing a shot. the problem is, i’m in college in cali where we’re from and he’s at usna... i don’t know what to expect and like what he’s going to be expecting from me... i’m not sure how much the normal milso stuff applies to an academy so but i do feel rather validated in some feelings seeing certain posts in the tag