Create Your Life

Just like you said at the end, when you don’t really care and forget, that’s how all things manifest. When we worry and overthink, we’re essentially telling the universe we don’t trust it and know that it’s not going to happen. You’ve got to just go with the flow, have confidence that you will get everything you want and realize it may not happen the way you thought. That thing might not be the right thing for you whereas something even better is. Focus on your heart and what makes you happy, do those things and let the universe take care of the rest. 

I love this question because it was me. Don’t focus so much on LOA. Focus on you and your love for yourself. When we’re overweight and fail to lose it, it’s because we’re telling ourselves we’re not good enough or allowing other’s opinions to matter more than ours. Just last year when I weighed close to 300 lbs I decided to wear shorts and a tank top for the first time in my life. I just didn’t care anymore what people thought and I was tired of being so uncomfortable when it was 90 degrees out with no air conditioning. You know, it’s a lot cooler when you wear cooler clothes LOL. My point is, start doing things that make you happy. Do the things you want to do. Start taking care of yourself and finding things you love about your body. Even if it’s not much, give thanks that you’re still able to function and type even though you’re overweight. I’m grateful for all the weight I’ve had on my body, I’m still able to walk and live normal and I’ve never had serious health issues. Once you start loving yourself more, your body is going to start craving different things. Over this past year I’ve decided I love going on walks, I’ve been craving more fruit so I will just eat whatever fruit and however much, and I’m not interested in meat so I don’t eat it. Listen to your body and do what feels good. If it feels good to eat Ben & Jerry’s, do it! And love it! I’ve lost 60 pounds this past year just by doing these things and not caring about what anyone thinks or says. It’s amazing what happens when you just stop focusing on your weight and choose to love yourself no matter what. 

This does make sense and I’ve had a similar situation

You still have an underlying thought of some sort that is creating this. Ask yourself what it could be and be honest. Something is preventing you from changing. Focus on following your heart and doing more things that make you happy. Eventually you will see a change if you trust and allow it. 

Focus on your happiness and believe in yourself. In a way you have to ignore everything going on around you and just focus on you. They are all on their own paths doing their own thing and them failing is their thing. But it doesn’t have to be you. Try not to focus so hard on the law of attraction and manifesting. LOA has just been overused and become confusing and to me it’s just too much work and stresses you out LOL. Seriously, know that the law of attraction exists, because it does, but then make it your priority to be happy, do the work necessary and know that everything will work out just the way it’s supposed to. See yourself at the end result, getting your degree, living your dream life, and let the universe take care of the details. 

Believe that you can, have no expectations, have confidence in yourself, and trust in the universe if it’s meant to be it will happen. 

First of all, realize that we’re all co-creating and that person has to be on the same vibe as you. Look at your life now and what you’re attracting? Are you attracting people who don’t have jobs or don’t take care of themselves? Or, do you want someone that’s well off and has their life together? If you want that, you have to be at that “level”. If you’re desperately WANTING a lover, it’s not going to happen because you’re focused on the WANTING. My biggest piece of advice is to love yourself. Love yourself so much that you don’t care if you ever attract a lover because you don’t need one. Have confidence in yourself that you alone make yourself happy. Like attracts like - you will eventually attract a lover on this same level and it will be good. If you’re wanting to meet someone you have to do the work. Go to the places where the type of people are that you want to attract, do the online thing if that resonates with you. Just don’t have any expectations, go with the flow, and be as happy as possible as much as you can. Make it a priority to do what makes you happy.