trans people shouldn’t have to bend to the cis-centric views of gender expression to be taken seriously

trans poc shouldn’t have to bend to the white views of gender expression to be taken seriously

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Hey y’all, I’m absolutely sure you’re sick of this, but as I was starting to finally do job apps, I was diagnosed with covid. I hate to keep ebegging for money, but I can’t consciously go out and endanger people. If you could help me limp through November and December to get my electricity bills, phone bills, and medical bills taken care of I’ll be so thankful.

Paypal: blandusername@outlook.com Venmo: catgirlprincess

a little disorganized thing on neopronouns in other languages, apologies for not covering a lot of languages! here’s a post about neopronouns in other languages :)

NOTE: IF YOURE GONNA SAY U SUPPORT NEOPRONOUNS IN THIS CONTEXT BUT NOT IN ENGLISH? DIE BY MY BLADE.

ALSO PRONOUNS DO NOT EQUAL GENDER HESBIANS AND SHE/HER GAYS ILY

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gay men having crushes on straight men isnt predatory its fucking normal?????? crushes dont give a shit about whether or not the person is straight or not its just kinda a bummer to happen like ur crush being taken or whatever, its not predatory dont be fucking weird

same goes for lesbians btw

Same also goes for trans people having crushes on cis people

So I don't want to add this in my big homeless post as this is more immediate.

I have a really bad ear infection as a result of the sudden extreme drop in temperature, the common rainy days, most hats being donated/borrowed, and the probable bug problem.

My ear is swollen, it hurts immensely, it's leaking fluid, and my hearing is stuffed up.

I am also in immediate need of shelter and a warm shower tonight for extremely personal/health reasons related to the above.

I need to fund about $150+ ASAP

If you can help:

PayPal: viva.la.revolution.now@gmail.com

Cash: $C4KSP

((If someone wants to book a night somewhere outright that also works and if you would like to know why it is needed/more info please dm))

love is not just a soft place but also the place where you have to look at yourself and ask, “can I be better? can I be kinder? can I give more? can I listen more? can I grow? can I support?” 

— Julia Serano, Excluded: Making Feminist and Queer Movements More Inclusive, p 28-9 (via goth-gallus)

basically if you’re white and you rely on poc educating you or “calling out” your behavior because you can’t fucking sort out/identify racism yourself maybe learn how to be a better ally

don’t misconstrue this as me saying like “don’t listen to poc” but i feel like at some point after seeing us talk about racism so much you should be able to identify it yourself without us stepping in. you shouldn’t be waiting for the newest Racism Callout Post to decide “oh this person/behavior is racist i need to step away from them/it”.

not to mention the fact that when we circle posts about popular youtubers like, idk, jenna marbles, jchlatt and other mcyts, etc. being fucking racist, ignoring those posts as white people is just fucking vile lol

ok to rb but white people don’t fucking comment.

anyways can we start recognizing adhd as an actual and serious disorder that

ADHD is:

None of this is because people with ADHD as a group are, like, bad or lazy or evil or irresponsible or don’t care. People with ADHD are just people, and exist on the same range of good, bad, and in-between that all people do. However, the parts of our brains that are meant to help us regulate our emotions, plan for the future, remember to do important things, and not act on every impulse that crosses our minds just don’t work properly. A lot of us might lean in to an airhead, spacy artistic type, class clown, or similar persona to mask our deep shame over not being able to “just” do all these basic things that other people seem to do with no trouble at all. 

Additionally, even accessing ADHD treatment can be extremely challenging, because stimulant medications are controlled substances and there are so many false and damaging perceptions about the condition and medications out there. And even when you have a well-established diagnosis and are well controlled on a medication you’ve taken for years, you are never far away from potential disruptions to your treatment. I personally am a white professional with good health insurance and was able to get diagnosed and medication prescribed - which in itself is often really difficult - but even from that position of privilege I have experienced multiple gaps in my treatment for reasons like:

Again, this is a LEGAL medication that I am LEGALLY prescribed by my supportive doctor with consultation from my supportive psychologist, for my actual disabling medical condition, and which all parties involved agree is extremely effective in helping me manage said condition. I’m in about the best situation you can be in short of being a millionaire who doesn’t have to worry about things like preapprovals or copays or taking sick time from work. 

I’ve also heard from others who have had to change doctors due to moving, job or insurance changes, etc., only to get issues like:

ADHD is a treatable and manageable condition, but it isn’t a joke, it isn’t “made up,” we aren’t “all a little ADHD these days anyway”. It’s a complex and wide-ranging condition that can impact nearly every part of your life in serious and possibly very damaging ways.

queer as in gay but also queer as in unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe

"Humans are an invasive species" you're thinking of the British, actually 💙

I don't know how to tell you this but not every human culture is imperialist and destroying the land they're on

Source: I'm Native

Also acting like the human race as a whole is inherently Bad™ is just an excuse to try not to do better. "Oh that's just the way it is" it doesn't have to be bitch!!!

Reading wiki entries for historical trans men…

Dr. James Barry, Albert Cashier, Charley Parkhurst, Billy Tipton, and Dr. Alan Hart could have each written “I am a man and want to be recognized across history as such” and transphobes would still be like… “wow what misunderstood butch heroes… lesbian icons!!!!”

interesting how they… didn’t all write that. across history women have disguised themselves as men in order to escape misogyny cus u couldn’t get anywhere much in life (much less become successful doctors) as women. and anyways, of course a woman constrained by sexism would prefer to be given the privileges of a man. i can’t confirm these women were lesbians, but you cannot confirm they were transmen either. 

Interesting how… I didn’t argue that women haven’t disguised themselves throughout history. I mentioned specific instances of historical trans men for whom there is evidence to conclude they identified as men and not women. I said nothing against lesbians in my post either, only about transphobes.

Anyways: 

Dr. James Barry had a close relationship with Lord Charles Somerset and was subsequently accused of buggery, which led to a court trial and investigation as homosexuality was illegal. He could have revealed that he was female at any time during the trial to escape condemnation, but he did not. Upon his death, Barry left strict instructions that his body was not to be undressed and he was to be buried in his bedsheets. 

Albert Cashier could not read or write, but lived as a man for 53 years, even after fighting in the uniform of a Union soldier, he maintained his male dress and presentation until he slipped and fell, breaking his hip. 

The indomitable stagecoach driver Charlie Parkhurst lived as a man from the time he was 12, and after retiring, maintained his identity as a man until his death.

Also it’s interesting that you said that I could not undeniably prove any of these men were trans: Alan L Hart was undeniably trans, as he sought out medical transition and pyschotherapy for his gender dysphoria, referred to himself as “one of the fellows,” legally changed his name, lived as a man from a young age, and continued to do so until his death, so yeah, you really can’t say “oh he’s a lesbian,” can you?

while billy tipton might’ve initially identified as a lesbian, he later transitioned to presenting male full-time. he told his future female partners that he was a man and that his body was the result of a serious car accident. he went on to adopt children, and was known as a “good father”. at the age of 74, he refused to be seen by a doctor when he contracted emphysema, which caused his death. neither his later female partners or his children or friends seemed to know he was trans until he was forcefully outed at death

i’d also like to add

little ax broadnax, a gospel singer who performed in multiple quartets over the years with his older brother. while still living with his family, he was recorded in the US census as male. he was outed publicly as a trans man at death in 1992, having presented as male for over 60 years

#when albert cashier had dementia and was in an institution he used to take clothespins and try to make his skirts into pants #regardless of the trouble it caused his caretakers #being a man was so integral to him that even when his memory was shot he clung to his identity with both hands and refused to let it go #our history isn’t big but it’s vital and it’s present and it’s not going anywhere

Black Trans Woman Survival Fund

hey everyome i know i dont really post much on here anymore but i just recently ended things with an emotionally abusive ex & i could really use some financial assistance as i’ll be recovering from my first gender confirmation surgery next saturday and im really stressing out about how im gonna afford rent without him while being off work for sn entire month. if anyone has it in there heart (and bank account) to send a couple bucks my way i would greatly appreciate it but i understand its tough times for all of us.

i know ppl are weary to donate because of the climate of crowd funding & the unfortunate abundance of scammers so i would like to post some pictures to further clarify the situation for those rightfully hesitant to donate to a stranger.

this is the best evidence i could come up with but basically to further clarify the situation my ex was extremely emotionally abusive & also mildly sexually abusive. (tw: sexual assault- he would force himself inside of me in my sleep like every morning he woke up with an erection which was like every morning)

and these are pictures of me post op to prove that i did infact have facial feminization surgery. now the only issue i have is proving that im having difficulty earning enough money as a black trans woman to afford a living space in new york that i got with another person who im no longer living with. any and all donations will be going towards my survival & potentially towards finding a place i can afford as a minimum wage worker. thank you to all that can donate and for all that cannot a reblog and a prayer will suffice sweetness❤️🤍❤️🤍

inshallah if god wills it so i shall reap honey

ALSO IF U WANNA KEEP UP WITH MY RECOVERY MY INSTAGRAM IS @shegopeaches

So much of what is “cringe” is just… earnest.

what if you made an honest expression of genuine human emotion and someone saw it!

#no but seriously! this applies to minecraft fansongs or emo kids or poorly drawn art or whataver #not all self expression is nuanced or beautiful or particularly skilled #…and some things are cringe just because it’s stuff *you* used to do as a kid and it touches the whole ‘past me was awkward and terrible’

*smacking lips in satisfaction* oh now this beauty is going straight to pride of place in my cringe collection!

New writing rule: Checkov’s friend

If you introduce a named character with a relationship to a protagonist, their character arc must be resolved in a way that feels reasonable and satisfying

Which is to say: they can’t just dissappear when they’re no longer a convenient plot device

Thor’s Mum rule – If you’re going to kill a character who’s carried any part of the plot, take a bit to reimagine the plot as if she were the main character, and the story ends when she dies.  If it’s unsatisfying, rewrite either her plot points, or her death, to make both more meaningful.

Which is to say – don’t treat side characters as ammo with which to hurt your main guy.  ESPECIALLY if they’re women.

I’m reblogging because this second part is the best explanation of how I distinguish between fridged characters and other characters who just die.

And yes, it is intrinsically a bit subjective and that’s okay.